Self Centered™ with Katie and Allie

Have you ever found yourself waiting to feel confident before taking action, only to stay stuck? Or maybe you find that perfectionism holds you back from ever trying something new? If so, this episode on confidence may be for you. In this episode, Allie and Katie unpack the real meaning of confidence, and spoiler alert: it’s not something you either have or don’t. It’s something you build through...

Think self-esteem is about feeling like you’re “the best”? Think again. If you’re tired of the comparison trap and want a healthier relationship with yourself, this one’s for you. This episode unpacks the myths and truths about self-esteem and how to actually start liking yourself without needing approval, praise, or perfection. We also share our personal stories about unlearning old standards and...

Does criticism leave you spiraling and feeling like you're the worst? You’re not alone. You’re doing the best you can with what you know, and there’s another way. In this empowering episode, we unpack why shame hijacks your nervous system, how to pause instead of crashing out, how to navigate hard conversations without abandoning yourself, and what real emotional repair looks like. If you’re tired...

Struggling with the guilt of sharing your truth? You’re not alone. In this episode, Allie and Katie explore why truth-telling is not the same as shaming—even when others react as if it is. Learn how to stay grounded in your healing without carrying responsibility for others’ discomfort. This episode will help you: • Understand how internalized beliefs about loyalty can keep you silent • Release sh...

Have you ever been told you're too emotional , too sensitive , or it's all in your head ? In this episode, we’re breaking down the toxic messages we’ve all internalized about emotions—and why struggling with your mental health doesn’t make you weak. Inside this episode, you’ll learn: • How society gaslights your natural emotional responses • The real reason people internalize shame around mental h...

Not sure if you need therapy or coaching? Many people wonder where to turn for support in their personal growth journey. In this episode, we explore the key differences, bust common myths, and share insights on: • How therapy helps when you’re struggling vs. how coaching helps when you’re ready to grow • Why you keep dealing with the same "devil" even when you reach new levels in your personal dev...

Starting therapy can feel intimidating, but in this episode, we’re breaking it down and debunking the myths! We share our contrasting experiences to explore what therapy really is (and isn’t). We tackle it all; who therapy is for, what actually happens in a session, and do I really have to lay on a couch? If you’ve ever worried about being judged, not knowing what to say, or even how to "break up"...

“You’re making it all about you!” Ever been hit with this accusation when setting boundaries? You’re not alone! In this episode, we break down why asserting your needs isn’t selfish and how to navigate pushback from partners, friends, family, and even adult children. This episode is for you if you're tired of feeling guilty for standing up for yourself. Tune in to learn how to stand firm and creat...

Have you ever felt stuck in a spiral of self-blame and wondered whether it’s a sign to change or just noise holding you back? In this episode, we break down the key differences between guilt and shame with one as a useful signal guiding you toward growth, while the other is a heavy weight that keeps you stuck. Guilt says, “I made a mistake,” and points you toward action; shame whispers, “I am the...

In this episode, Katie and Allie talk about how to deal when it feels like your life and the world are on fire and you have no control so you can protect your wellbeing, prevent self sabotage, and set yourself up to make progress again when you're ready. This episode will help anyone who is feeling overwhelmed and unable to improve the things in their life, and the world, that matter to them and w...

It's a Valentine's Day Special! In this episode, Katie and Allie break down the concept of "verb love" and what it means for love to be a signal vs what it means for love to be noise. Allie recounts a recent personal experience that illustrates the differences between love and verb love within a friendship. This episode is beneficial for anyone looking to create deeper relationships with themselve...

In this episode, Katie and Allie discuss the emotion of anger, both when you're feeling and expressing it and when other people are angry with you. This episode is helpful for people who feel uncomfortable with their or others' anger, don't know how to communicate it in a healthy way, and want to create a better relationship with their anger others' anger. IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN: When ange...

When faced with the life changing process of becoming more self centered, you might ask yourself "Do people ACTUALLY say and do these things? What does life REALLY look like in the midst of carving out this path?" In this episode, we share with you our personal experience of what life felt and looked like as we learned to set boundaries, sit with challenging emotions, redefine vales, and stay in o...

How do you maintain your self-esteem when people have negative perceptions of you and, even worse, spread gossip and make other people see you negatively, too? In this episode, we cover strategies for dealing with negative perceptions, smear campaigns, family conflicts, and the importance of setting healthy boundaries so you can stay true to and feel good about yourself amidst it all. IN THIS EPIS...

We all aspire to live a life with no regrets. So what exactly DO people regret when they've come face to face with the end? And how can we avoid experiencing these regrets ourselves? In this episode, we discuss Bronnie Ware's The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying and how these regrets occur when your life doesn't truly center you. We also discuss connections between physical health and emotional suppress...

This is your comprehensive masterclass on exactly how to set and follow through on boundaries, say no, and set expectations for what you want and need in relationships. This is a crucial skill you MUST learn and use in order to be self centered, especially if you have trouble being assertive or you've been made to feel bad for putting yourself first. This episode has tons of real world examples of...

It's New Year Resolution time! This popular annual ritual can be a valuable tool for prioritizing health, finances, and personal alignment with the start of a fresh year. But unfortunately, even with the best intentions, less than 1 in 10 individuals will achieve their new year goals. IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN: How to set goals that truly matter to YOU Habit stacking and tools to combat commo...

In this episode, Katie and Allie discuss the concept of finding your center across the 8 dimensions of wellness, exploring what it means to thrive versus merely survive. This episode is especially helpful for you if you feel off-balance, want to understand what it means to live authentically, or are seeking a practical framework to improve your overall well-being. Join Katie and Allie in this deep...

In this episode, Katie and Allie discuss common limiting beliefs and the patterns that consciously and sub-consciously get in the way of being self-centered. This episode is helpful for people who feel "stuck" in unhealthy patterns, self sabotage, or relationships that cause you to leave your seat. IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN: Examples of limiting beliefs Understanding objectification and its i...

In this episode Allie and Katie share a practice that will put an end to overextending, abandoning, and burning yourself out, "staying in your seat". This practice is especially helpful if you have a big, empathetic heart, have difficulty setting boundaries, and tend to overfunction and do too much for others. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN: What it means to "stay in your seat" and 3 steps to do...

Self Centered isn't selfish... it's essential. We know what it's like feel burnt out, stuck, taken for granted, and like your life revolves around everyone but yourself. We were there once too and it wasn't until we learned and deliberately chose to trust ourselves, prioritize our needs, and set healthy boundaries that we were finally able to free ourselves from the people-pleasing hamster wheel t...