Seeing Other People

Twenty-seven year old NYC resident, listener and friend Helena joins the Unfiltered family today to discuss the challenges of dating when you’ve never been in a relationship before. She opens up about the pressure she feels from her family, society, and herself to find love. Helena shares what she feels like she’s missing out on, how she discusses her “relationship history” with potential partners...

Smiley Poswolsky, author of Friendship in the Age of Loneliness , joins Ilana on Seeing Other People to discuss human connection in today’s society and culture. Smiley shares his research and knowledge on opening your world up to new people, digging deeper with the people that you know, using technology to foster more meaningful connections, and more. He gives advice on maintaining friendships whe...

On this episode of Unfiltered, I’m joined by a 24-year-old female who has been grappling with religious sexual shame while trying to date. From a young age, she was taught that dating and sexual experiences were for marriage only. She has spent years reflecting on her religious upbringing and is now committed to starting over and dictating her own values as she beings to explore how she feels abou...

Ilana sits down with Matthew Wurnig, the creator and dater behind 50 Dates in 50 States. Matthew shares how he got the idea to do a date in every state during the pandemic, first virtually, and then IRL. We discuss what it’s like meeting and dating people from all different backgrounds, how the place you grow up can impact your dating life, and how dating culture differs from state to state. We al...

Real people. Real stories. Real life. Anonymous listeners join the show to have vulnerable and open conversations about what they’ve struggled with in their dating lives, what they wish they knew when going through their experience, and how they came out stronger. Topics to expect include dating after experiencing loss, STIs, eating disorders, abortions, mental health, trauma and more. No matter w...

On this episode of Seeing Other people, Ilana is joined by Sarah Sasson, her best friend and the co-host of the It’s Fine, I’m Fine podcast. Ilana and Sarah discuss overcoming the loneliness that comes with singlehood, how to make the most of being the only single one in the friend group, and why the more you know yourself the harder (but more rewarding) dating can be.  Learn more about your ad ch...

On this special episode of Seeing Other People, we’re parting ways with one of our beloved hosts. We’re bad at goodbyes, but we did our best. Plus, it’s not goodbye, it’s see you later (worldwide…on a big screen…or a small screen…lots of screens…ok just listen). Tune in to hear the breaking news. Follow along and keep in touch www.instagram.com/jonahfeingold and make sure to check out Jonah’s new...

We’re diving into the ins and outs of being vulnerable in your dating life. When do you start opening up and being vulnerable? How can you be vulnerable without putting yourself at risk of oversharing? If someone’s not opening up to you, how can you encourage them to? What do you do if you feel closed off and afraid to be vulnerable after a heartbreak? Later in the episode, we practice vulnerabili...

We’re back with another full Q&A episode! How can you close the door on someone once and for all? How many dates in should you delete your dating apps? How do you tell your ex you want to give it another chance? How should you handle a crush on a coworker? What if you don't feel physically attracted to someone? All of this and more. DM us your questions @seeingotherpeople on IG or email us see...

Jeremy Jacobowitz aka Brunch Boys chats with Jonah and Ilana about all things going out on dates. Who should pay? Should it be drinks or dinner? What food is okay to order on a first date? How to maintain the same drinking speed as your partner - and more in this hilarious episode that pokes fun and brings awareness to the nuances of modern dating. The episode wraps with some listener questions p....

Jenna Langbaum, author of “Me in Search of You,” joins us on this episode of Seeing Other People. Jenna’s writing beautifully dissects the nuances of modern dating, ghosting, and dating apps and helps to remind us that we’re not alone in what we’re facing, as we’re all connected by shared dating struggles. We discuss how the concept of ghosting is actually insane and how painful and confusing gett...

Situationships? More like situationshits. We’re diving into the ins and outs of situationships with Ali and Roark of Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast. What exactly is a situationship and how do you know if you’re in one? Can you turn a situationship into a relationship? How do you know when it’s time to leave? We’re discussing all of this, answering listener questions, and so much more.  Learn more...

We go on a date with Alexis Wolfe AKA @nycdatenite to talk all about post-pandemic dating. From getting back out there and going on that first in-person date in over a year, to determining what the best and worst types of places to go on a first date are, we’re covering all of the bases for you to shoot your shot at love (after getting that #vax shot). -How to choose a first date spot -What not to...

We chat with Sandro D’Abruzzo, author of “So You Think You Can Date?” We hear what led Sandro to write about how to find success in dating and his experiences dating around the world. We discuss the importance of being yourself from the start in any dating situation, and get into the nitty gritty of how to actually practice being yourself. Sandro shares what the process of writing his book was lik...

We love when you ask us questions, so we're taking up a whole episode to answer as many of them as we can! We're answering questions including:   Do people deserve second chances? How soon is too soon to have sex? If we didn't kiss on the first date, is it doomed? How do I ask someone to put effort into planning dates?  Why do people lose interest? Do guys still ask to be official? Plus long dista...

Today's guest is Noa Porten who hosts the Spooning with Spoonies podcast where she chats about dating and relationships with experts, singles, and couples from the chronic illness community. We learn how chronic illness can impact someone’s dating life and daily life, and how tools like setting boundaries and practicing open communication are crucial in the search for a lasting romantic partnershi...

The episode you probably knew you needed is finally here. Are your texting habits holding you back from finding what you’re looking for? Are they not into you if they don’t text you back right away? Can it work if you’re a “bad” texter? Are you rightfully stressing over your crush’s response time or are you expecting too much? Does lack of texting mean the relationship is doomed before it even sta...

Nicole Pellegrino, cohost of the Betches Brides podcast joins us to prep you all for this year’s wedding season. Nicole spills the secrets to what has kept her eight-year relationship going strong, how we can work towards keeping that relationship (once we all find it). She shares the importance of enjoying your independence when you’re single and carrying that independence with you into a relatio...

Not having the best luck meeting people on dating apps? This episode is all about other ways you can put yourself out there and find love. Whether it be the comment section of a post on any platform, through TikTok (Jonah’s favorite dating app), sliding into the DMs, or finding love on Club Penguin (Ilana’s pick), it’s not all about dating apps. Our listeners chime in to tell us about their experi...

We’re kicking off our Thursday episode series by catching up with Bachelor Nation’s Ed Weisbrot. We hear about Ed’s dating life since his time on Clare/Tayshia’s season and he shares how being on the show reinforced the importance of authenticity, vulnerability and communication. Ed talks about why he has chosen to stay off of dating apps, how he’s been meeting people IRL, and why Whole Foods is t...

We're joined by comedian Rishi Mather who kicks off the episode by sharing how he’s been navigating his parents’ disapproval of his engagement. We discuss how some couples stay together even while being unhappy because of what society would think of them if they split up, especially in Indian culture. Rishi tells us how he met his now fiancé on Tinder (we love a dating app success story!) and spen...

New Yorker and friend of the show, Derek Lindsey, joins us today to share his experience coming out in his late twenties. Derek opens up about his fears about coming out and shares what finally pushed him to do so. We dive into the differences between straight and gay dating on dating apps as well as specific nuances of gay vs straight relationships. Derek gives his advice for anyone who might be...

We’re hanging (socially distanced…of course) with Jared Freid on this episode of Seeing Other People! We kick things off with a friendly reminder that social media relationships aren’t what they seem. We chat about how communication is easier said than done, because we all have different definitions of what each step of the modern dating process means to us. Jared shares what he would do to fix mo...

We’re sitting down (virtually) with Jon and Rene Shapiro, husband and wife and founders Mixology and Mindset Wellness CBD. The Shapiros open up about the highs and lows of building a life, a family and a business together. They share how Rene supported Jon through his battle with anxiety and depression, how they struggled to separate not bringing work home with them, and why they decided to leave...

We're traveling back in time with Francesca Beauman, writer, historian, and the world’s leading expert in Personal Ads, to learn about how people “dated” throughout history. We discuss how we got to where we are in dating culture, and how society transitioned from arranged marriages and courting to the casual hookup culture of today’s modern dating world. We learn how advancements like transportat...