Seeing Other People

Damona Hoffman is the Host of the podcast Dates & Mates, the official Dating Coach for OkCupid, a Love Expert on The Drew Barrymore Show, an Advice Columnist and more. Damona joins us to discuss the way dating has changed overtime, how we give dating apps too much power, why having a phone call before a date can be a game changer, what exclusivity really means and how to know if you’re exclusi...

Ilana sits down with a 32-year-old who called off her marriage just two months before the wedding. We hear what led to this decision, how she went about ending the engagement, what she’s learned from this experience, and what advice she has for anyone who is going through something similar or questioning whether or not their relationship is built to last. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit me...

Serena Kerrigan, the Queen of Confidence and the creator of the show and card game Let’s F*cking Date and the new card game Let’s F*cking F*ck, joins us today to give us the scoop on how we can be more confident in our dating lives. We chat about how to portray yourself on dating apps, why texting isn’t real and you should get to the date before stalking and talking too much, whether or not they a...

A 27-year-old woman takes over the Unfiltered mic to share her experience exploring her sexuality and coming out as bisexual. She explains what led to this exploration, what her first dating experience with a woman was like, and how she came out to the people in her life. Anonymous opens up about the ups and downs of dating each gender, why dating apps don’t make bisexual dating easy, common misco...

Backed by popular demand, Ilana’s boyfriend Jake is joining the show for a tell-all about their relationship. Ilana and Jake open up about how everything unfolded, starting with their Hinge meet-cute where Ilana didn’t respond, and followed by a “just fine” first date where the sparks were MIA. They share how things progressed, why Ilana wasn’t anxious for the first time, and when and how they bec...

On this episode of Unfiltered I sit down with Austin (30M) who lives in Australia. When Austin was 15, he met someone who he ended up dating and marrying when he was 21. By the time he was 25, they got divorced, leaving him to enter the dating world for the first time as a single divorcee. He shares why his childhood experiences made him value love and relationships, and how his journey to really...

Love, Communication and Intimacy Coach Shaun Galanos aka @thelovedrive joins us on Seeing Other People to share his expertise on how to be a better communicator, and all things DTR (defining the relationship). We discuss how to practice vulnerability and learn how to openly communicate, why you should explore the edges of your comfort zone, what to disclose and what not to disclose prior to meetin...

On this Unfiltered episode we’re joined by a 26 year old female who was diagnosed with herpes. She shares what it was like receiving her diagnosis, communicating it to the person who transmitted it to her and what it’s been like to date with herpes. We hear how her diagnosis impacted her mental health and self worth and she walks us through the steps she took to get herself back to a good place. W...

Ilana’s older brother Andrew (31) is joining us on the podcast today to reassure us that once a fckboy, not always a fckboy. After years of immersing himself in a fuckboy bro-y culture (including being his fraternity’s social chair, promoting parties, and working for a nightlife startup), he turned a corner and began to learn that human connection and vulnerability was more valuable and fulfilling...

On this Unfiltered episode, we’re joined by a 26-year-old straight male in the New York City area to hear about his recent relationship that led him to experience anxiety the first time in his life. He shares what caused the anxiety – including the red flags that he ignored, what it felt like, and how he seeks out help by communicating to friends and family and starting therapy.  Learn more about...

Kim Murstein and Grandma Gail from the Excuse My Grandma podcast join the show this week to discuss the generational differences of what dating is like now vs when Grandma Gail was searching for love. We talk about how dating has changed over time, when and how “dating” began, social media’s role in dating, the ability to stalk a potential date or an ex, having too many options, the most surprisin...

On this episode of Unfiltered, I’m joined by Caroline, a 27 year old living in New York City who is navigating dating after losing her older brother. She shares what it’s like to communicate her loss to a date, what people’s reactions have been, and how each individual has their own personal preference on the grieving process and on how and when to have these conversations with a potential partner...

Ilana sits down with Julie and Danielle, the founders of Fourplay Social, a double dating app where friends team up and match with other pairs. We hear about why the duo decided to create a new dating app, the benefits of double dating are, how you can be a good wing-person for your single friends, and how to make dating fun when you feel burnt out. We also discuss why first dates shouldn’t be lon...

Twenty-seven year old NYC resident, listener and friend Helena joins the Unfiltered family today to discuss the challenges of dating when you’ve never been in a relationship before. She opens up about the pressure she feels from her family, society, and herself to find love. Helena shares what she feels like she’s missing out on, how she discusses her “relationship history” with potential partners...

Smiley Poswolsky, author of Friendship in the Age of Loneliness , joins Ilana on Seeing Other People to discuss human connection in today’s society and culture. Smiley shares his research and knowledge on opening your world up to new people, digging deeper with the people that you know, using technology to foster more meaningful connections, and more. He gives advice on maintaining friendships whe...

On this episode of Unfiltered, I’m joined by a 24-year-old female who has been grappling with religious sexual shame while trying to date. From a young age, she was taught that dating and sexual experiences were for marriage only. She has spent years reflecting on her religious upbringing and is now committed to starting over and dictating her own values as she beings to explore how she feels abou...

Ilana sits down with Matthew Wurnig, the creator and dater behind 50 Dates in 50 States. Matthew shares how he got the idea to do a date in every state during the pandemic, first virtually, and then IRL. We discuss what it’s like meeting and dating people from all different backgrounds, how the place you grow up can impact your dating life, and how dating culture differs from state to state. We al...

Real people. Real stories. Real life. Anonymous listeners join the show to have vulnerable and open conversations about what they’ve struggled with in their dating lives, what they wish they knew when going through their experience, and how they came out stronger. Topics to expect include dating after experiencing loss, STIs, eating disorders, abortions, mental health, trauma and more. No matter w...

On this episode of Seeing Other people, Ilana is joined by Sarah Sasson, her best friend and the co-host of the It’s Fine, I’m Fine podcast. Ilana and Sarah discuss overcoming the loneliness that comes with singlehood, how to make the most of being the only single one in the friend group, and why the more you know yourself the harder (but more rewarding) dating can be.  Learn more about your ad ch...

On this special episode of Seeing Other People, we’re parting ways with one of our beloved hosts. We’re bad at goodbyes, but we did our best. Plus, it’s not goodbye, it’s see you later (worldwide…on a big screen…or a small screen…lots of screens…ok just listen). Tune in to hear the breaking news. Follow along and keep in touch www.instagram.com/jonahfeingold and make sure to check out Jonah’s new...

We’re diving into the ins and outs of being vulnerable in your dating life. When do you start opening up and being vulnerable? How can you be vulnerable without putting yourself at risk of oversharing? If someone’s not opening up to you, how can you encourage them to? What do you do if you feel closed off and afraid to be vulnerable after a heartbreak? Later in the episode, we practice vulnerabili...

We’re back with another full Q&A episode! How can you close the door on someone once and for all? How many dates in should you delete your dating apps? How do you tell your ex you want to give it another chance? How should you handle a crush on a coworker? What if you don't feel physically attracted to someone? All of this and more. DM us your questions @seeingotherpeople on IG or email us see...

Jeremy Jacobowitz aka Brunch Boys chats with Jonah and Ilana about all things going out on dates. Who should pay? Should it be drinks or dinner? What food is okay to order on a first date? How to maintain the same drinking speed as your partner - and more in this hilarious episode that pokes fun and brings awareness to the nuances of modern dating. The episode wraps with some listener questions p....

Jenna Langbaum, author of “Me in Search of You,” joins us on this episode of Seeing Other People. Jenna’s writing beautifully dissects the nuances of modern dating, ghosting, and dating apps and helps to remind us that we’re not alone in what we’re facing, as we’re all connected by shared dating struggles. We discuss how the concept of ghosting is actually insane and how painful and confusing gett...

Situationships? More like situationshits. We’re diving into the ins and outs of situationships with Ali and Roark of Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast. What exactly is a situationship and how do you know if you’re in one? Can you turn a situationship into a relationship? How do you know when it’s time to leave? We’re discussing all of this, answering listener questions, and so much more.  Learn more...