Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from Suffering

In this thought-provoking episode, Scott shares his personal journey growing up in a gender double bind, feeling unable to fully embrace either masculinity or femininity. Repressing anger made it difficult for him to embody the typical cultural signs of masculinity, while being biologically male prevented him from expressing his femininity without facing bullying. Throughout his life, Scott strugg...

In this episode, Scott explores the intricate relationship between our consciousness and the future shaped by advancements in AI and deepfake technology, inspired in part by a song from Aimee Mann and current events. Scott delves into how taking sides—whether politically or otherwise—often serves as a protective mechanism from our unresolved trauma and buried emotions, ultimately perpetuating our...

In this episode, Scott delves into the profound idea that true intimacy and meaningful connections flourish when we allow ourselves to fully experience our emotions and open up to others. While emotional repression often serves as a misguided form of self-protection, it ultimately sabotages our deepest desires for authenticity and closeness. Scott speaks directly and unapologetically, addressing l...

In this thought-provoking podcast episode, Scott explores the concept of hyper-independence and how it can become a significant hindrance on one's spiritual path. He explains that the insulated barrier created by those on a hyper-independent path often involves neglecting buried emotions, leading them to become their own cult leader, guiding them into the same self-sabotage and avoidance that has...

Scott shares the before and after emotional repression inquiry upon request of listeners. To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.

Scott delves deeply into how grandiose narcissism originates from a foundation of repressed hurt and sadness. Scott discusses the complexities of emotional repression, revealing how these buried feelings shape the grandiose persona often seen as a means to meet unmet childhood needs and maintain a supply of validation from others. Scott outlines the intricate relationship between grandiose narciss...

Happy New Year! In this episode, Scott dives into the concept of New Year's resolutions, highlighting their common nature as often short-lived desires for significant life changes. He reflects on how resolutions like losing weight, becoming more connected, or dropping a compulsion can fail to sustain themselves over time. Scott shares insights from his journey, particularly focusing on emotional r...

In this episode, Scott shares the poignant story of Mary, who grapples with her challenging relationship with Christmas and her father. As Mary buries herself in work to avoid the painful feelings that arise during the holiday season, her hidden suffering begins to manifest as physical ailments, seemingly connected to her unresolved issues with her dad. Ultimately, she decides to confront the root...

In this episode, Scott delves into covert narcissism in a stream of consciousness manner, illustrating how repression underlies all forms of narcissism, whether diagnosable or not. He emphasizes that each of us must confront this issue and explore whether our narcissistic or ego-driven behaviors stem from the fear of anger, hurt, or sadness. For those who bury anger, hidden or covert manipulation...

In this episode, Scott invites his very special first guest - the innovative Dan McLintock - Co-Developer of KI. Dan and Scott tackle the concept of the original gaslight: how we often believe we’re being gaslit by others while failing to recognize that we gaslight ourselves due to emotional repression from childhood. They dive deep into how this self-deception plays a significant role in meeting...

In this episode, Scott dives into the intriguing world of conspiracy theories, offering a unique perspective that links the beliefs of their proponents to underlying trauma and buried emotions. He explores how these unprocessed feelings can shape an individual's worldview, causing them to project a reality that is deeply influenced by their past experiences. While many seek the truth through these...

Join Scott in this episode as he dives into the Three Dimensions of Spiritual Practice developed by KI. Scott explores how these dimensions shape our spiritual journeys, detailing the actions we take—or do not take—in our practices. In the first dimension, we sit in stillness, allowing our thoughts and feelings to arise. In the second dimension, we prompt something up from the unconsciousness that...

In this episode, Scott explores the intriguing connection between codependent behavior and buried anger, drawing on scientific and academic research to illuminate this vital topic. Many individuals may exhibit seemingly benign behaviors—such as being overly nice, trying to save or fix others, or prioritizing the feelings of those around them—yet these tendencies often mask deeper, unresolved emoti...

In this episode, Scott delves into how emotional repression fuels suffering, highlighting how various forms—such as anxiety, depression, chronic pain, and self-limiting beliefs—are often labeled separately. He reveals that they all stem from the same source: unprocessed emotions. These emotions create suffering as a defense mechanism, keeping us safe from what we've buried. Scott offers a fresh pe...

In this episode, Scott delves into the profound feelings of being unheard or misunderstood in our relationships. These emotions often stem from our inability to express the authentic feelings we have buried deep within ourselves. Scott explores the origins of identity and how various personas arise to protect us from confronting these buried emotions. Understanding where the feelings of being unse...

In this exciting podcast, Scott reveals his latest book on the perils of spiritual bypassing, co-authored with the esteemed Toshi Matsunaga. Through extensive research and years of working with clients, Scott and Toshi have uncovered the critical role that emotional repression plays in driving various forms of suffering. The book delves into the inherent bypasses present in many Eastern practices,...

Join Scott in this insightful episode as he explores a profound perspective on suffering. The science tells us that buried emotions create suffering, and Scott dives deep into how this suffering stems from what we’re not feeling. He explains that suffering arises to awareness because it’s safer than buried emotions. Scott discusses how unresolved childhood needs are intricately linked to these bur...

Scott proposes that we add a particular sign or qualification to narcissism, one that is often, if not always, overlooked. It’s this one sign that can help us transform narcissism .Listen and find out what the one sign is. To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.

In this podcast, Scott discusses how words like enlightenment and awakening have been used to help us avoid the very root of suffering, buried emotions, which do not arise to awareness. In the future, as people become more educated about how trauma and emotional repression drive suffering, they will find the teachings of enlightenment and awakening increasingly irrelevant as they do not address wh...

In this podcast, Scott focuses on Eckhart Tolle’s concept of the “pain body” and how he encourages people to overlook the conditioning of emotional repression hidden in the pain body. Like so many modern non-duality teachings, his work ignores the very root of suffering. Scott goes into all the benefits of Eckhart’s teachings including his articulate discussion of the frequencies of Being but also...

In this podcast, Scott explains the connection between shadows and buried emotions as well as the duality of shadows and how that applies to embodied non-dual realization. To work with Scott directly, visit https://kiloby.com/scott

In this episode, Scott explores the lifelong avoidant patterns and strategies of individuals who repress Hurt and Sadness. He likens their experience to dancing around the outer edge of a black hole within their bodies, where they remain unconscious of the darkness that actually holds the light of their true being. Scott emphasizes that while a life of avoidance is intertwined with Hurt and Sadnes...

Scott takes listeners through the discovery of how we create separation from our unconscious programming and how suffering we see comes in many forms but has one unconscious source. Don’t be fooled by the many names we give childhood buried emotions. It only looks like adult relationship problems and adult suffering like anxiety or addiction at the surface. It’s really all about what you can’t fee...

Scott returns to the topic of how buried emotions create self-sabotage and therefore how the secret to manifesting the life that you want always feels out of reach as this unconscious operating system thwarts your best efforts to find love, success, awakening or healing. To work with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.

Scott gives the KI explanation of the mind-body connections that are vital to the process of making the unconscious drivers of suffering conscious. To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/scott