Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from Suffering

In this podcast, Scott simplifies seemingly complex topics such as avoidant or anxious attachment styles, unmet needs, and other forms of suffering at the surface, connecting them to some very basic conditioning in the body that can be summed up as "I need your love, but I'm afraid of it." If you resonate with the topic of this episode and are interested in joining Scott's March Jumpstart group to...

In preparation for Scott's upcoming podcast with co-developer Dan McLintock on the critique of the 12-step program, Scott explains what authentic recovery means for him. He shares that his journey began only when he started processing the buried emotions that were creating his addictions. The K I Way of recovery is different from many forms of recovery or addiction treatment in the world, but it i...

In this exciting episode of the podcast, Scott is thrilled to welcome his co-author and fellow KI co-developer and trainer, Toshi Matsunaga. Scott and Toshi co-authored the book *Awake but Sick: The Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding.* They've worked closely together for years developing and simplifying KI emotional repression inquiry. Together, they've expl...

Scott was falling asleep one night while listening to something on YouTube when he suddenly woke up to something appalling. He heard a social media influencer, who is very popular but struggles with anger repression, bamboozling her entire audience by not owning her anger repression. Instead, she acted overly empathetic to lure in and maintain her following. Scott, recognizing the profound impact...

In this episode, Scott dives deep into building trust through authenticity. He addresses a question from an audience member who is considering engaging in KI but feels hesitant about trusting Scott and the method. Scott shares his own experiences with distrust, which stem from buried anger, and emphasizes that self-trust has been a crucial aspect of his personal journey. He explains that all trust...

In this episode, Scott explores the hidden dynamics of avoidant attachment style and why individuals may cheat in relationships. This episode is a result of many people asking Scott about the common infidelity among spiritual teachers and how they often don’t address it directly and maturely. Many people have also asked Scott about their cheating spouse or their own history of infidelity, blind to...

In this episode, Scott delves into the intricate factors that shape human motivation and behavior, drawing insights from his recent blogs on Medium. He discusses how our genes, environment, cultures, and conditioning are inseparable, but emphasizes the often-overlooked role of emotional repression in our suffering. The episode examines various perspectives on suffering, including theories from Sig...

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Scott shares his personal story of transformation as a non-duality teacher, reflecting on how his teachings, while initially beneficial, often helped others sidestep their own unresolved feelings by pointing to presence. This approach inadvertently created an inauthentic experience of compassion and empathy, which he unknowingly transmitted to those who came to his work for support. In this episod...

In this episode, Scott delves into a unique and often unexplored topic of how witnessing phenomena coming and going to awareness can perpetuate suffering through the ruminating effect of that kind of practice. For years, Scott lived in the seeing of the waves coming and going to the ocean of awareness, but the question of why the waves were appearing was never addressed until KI helped Scott acces...

Scott is excited for listeners to hear this interview with Mark Vicente. Mark Vicente is an author, speaker, and award-winning Writer/Director/Producer from Johannesburg, South Africa. His filmmaking journey began at a young age, leading him to become the Director of Photography for the musical *Sarafina!*, starring Whoopi Goldberg, and one of the youngest cinematographers to shoot a big-budget st...

In this episode, Scott calls narcissism "needism" to help reduce the stigma surrounding the subject. He emphasizes that we all have narcissistic tendencies, even if some exhibit more extreme, diagnosable forms. By owning the mechanisms of emotional repression that create a sense of falseness in our lives, we can begin to recognize that we are often operating on unmet childhood needs, particularly...

In this podcast, Scott delves into how making conscious the mechanism that creates suffering is our opportunity to experience our authentic being and live life without suffering. We have to continue suffering until it feels safe for us to feel and express all that's true, but when it does, we feel chemically balanced and sustainably regulated. We find safety and love within and can offer that in r...

In this podcast, Scott shares his insights on borderline personality disorder (BPD) and explores the mind-body connections related to emotional repression that contribute to the fear of abandonment and other distinct patterns associated with BPD. While Scott is not a therapist or a doctor and does not diagnose or treat any conditions, his background as a codeveloper in KI, combined with his person...

Scott talks to KI Mentor Serena Senteshi. Serena shares deeply personal experiences of childhood sexual and physical violence, shedding light on the domestic abuse she endured and the unconscious coping mechanisms she developed to survive. She discusses her journey through intense suffering and mental health challenges, highlighting how KI Emotional Repression Inquiry has been pivotal in her trans...

In this episode, Scott delves into the complex relationship between love and narcissism, focusing on the covert agendas that stem from buried anger and unmet emotional needs. He emphasizes that when we confront our own narcissistic tendencies, rooted in childhood experiences of seeking safety, love, and approval, we open the door to experiencing authentic love and genuine connection. Scott shares...

In this episode, Scott delves into the journey of finding safety and love by processing buried emotions through present moment awareness. He shares his experience of identifying with sadness and other vulnerable emotions in relationships, and expressing those feelings to people close to him. Scott reflects on how he believed that his suffering—rooted in hurt, grief, and sadness—was the entirety of...

Scott shares his personal journey as a non-duality teacher, reflecting on how he once struggled with unresolved anger and the shadows it created in his life. He introduces the Zen saying, "If you see the Buddha on the road, kill him," and explains its significance in understanding the pitfalls of spiritual ego and authority from a repression-informed perspective. Scott emphasizes that true transfo...

Scott shares a light-hearted personal account of how just about everything that we see is a potential vehicle for transformation. Come have a laugh and a relaxing moment with Scott in his more casual mood that people don’t often see when he is teaching. To read Scott’s article on “Needism,” mentioned in this episode, visit: https://medium.com/@skiloby/needism-the-more-unconscious-we-are-the-more-n...

Reflecting on his recent in depth article on Medium called “Repression Earth,” Scott delves into the intricate layers of human motivation, examining how emotional repression influences suffering. He explores a range of psychological theories, from Freud's insights on the unconscious to Skinner's behaviorism, highlighting the impact of childhood experiences and cultural contexts on our motivations....

In this special episode, revealing upcoming developments in KI, Scott explores how emotional repression influences human behavior through the lens of the pleasure-pain principle. This principle, rooted in early psychological theories, highlights our innate drive to seek pleasure and avoid pain. Using the iceberg model as a framework, Scott categorizes emotional programs into two distinct areas: th...

Listen to the announcement in the episode first please! Read Scott’s article mentioned in the episode related to the announcement next: https://medium.com/@skiloby/emotional-repression-and-the-pain-pleasure-principle-e5a531787086. If you’re interested in speaking to Scott for free about his one on one 90 day intensive, or signing up for the Feb KI jumpstart to experience this beta version of KI th...

Scott takes on a unique perspective regarding suffering, asserting that we inherently have a right to suffer, a right we've carried since birth. Conditioned into a sense of separation, our suffering often stems from unprocessed emotions hidden within the body. When we do nothing about our suffering, we are, in essence, exercising this right. As a non-duality teacher, Scott reflects on how many pas...

In this podcast, Scott explains how emotional repression leads us to unconsciously choose safety and love over freedom. This affects our choice of paths, practices, and teachers, sabotaging our journey. After years on a spiritual path, we might wonder why we still suffer, facing issues like disease, chronic pain, or addiction. The reason is that we unknowingly prioritize safety over true freedom....

In this thought-provoking episode, Scott emphasizes the significance of having the right context in our spiritual practices. He clarifies that "right" does not necessarily equate to what is correct or absolutely true, but rather refers to a perspective that guides us toward understanding our experiences in a way that addresses the root of our suffering. Scott explains that if our context diverts u...