School Of Attraction Podcast

What is an alpha male really? What are the traits that women are really looking for if they're looking for an alpha male?  Do alpha males always get the women?  When trying to become better men and develop alpha male personality traits, it's important to recognise that we frequently aren't even 100% sure what a human alpha male is.  We often try to copy animal dominance traits in th...

There is a very curious trend that I've been seeing as a dating coach for over 12 years - And it involves 26-year-old women.  It appears as though many women approach a powerful identity crisis at this age which can have catastrophic effects on relationships and radically alter a woman's personality and life direction.  This mid-life crisis seems to happen at a much younger age for women...

Did you know that most men use forms of control when they feel insecure that turns women off and ruins their chances of dating success? Turning to controlling behaviours when we feel insecure is a very common thing for both men and women to do - It's a way to try and get control back in a situation where we feel like we have none left.  But that just turns women off and makes them want to get...

Is the Red Pill philosophy healthy for men?  The answer - is yes and no.  It can be very hard for men in today's society, masculinity is under fire, we aren't feeling empowered, men are being shamed in the media, suicide rates are up, depression is up, and university rates for men are down.  Books like Rollo Tomasi's "the rational male" which is one of the bibles of the re...

This is a great marketing strategy used to dramatically increase your success on online dating apps like tinder, bumble, and hinge.  It's no secret that trying to get matches, and trying to get dates online can be very difficult for average guys.   But there are some really great lessons that we can learn from the world of marketing and advertising which can be brought over and applied to you...

The dark feminine is both sexy as hell and scares us to death at the same time.  Many men have been hurt by the dark feminine in relationships, so they get into relationships with luke-warm women, while they cheat on the side with dangerous dark women. This is an unhealthy cycle.  Just like the dark masculine, the dark feminine is a part of every woman, and it can cause great harm if a woman doesn...

Did you know that I regularly get really attractive men reaching out because they struggle to get results on Tinder?  Did you know they get most frustrated because some of their less attractive friends are doing better than they are?  Online dating is definitely a superficial place - but just being good looking isn't a guarantee that you'll get women matching with you all over the place....

Did you know that the Hot Crazy Matrix actually has some very valuable lessons for men to learn if they understand it's deeper implications?  Whether you're looking for an ideal girl to date, or to find a long term relationship and potentially a wife - there are some really big dating mistakes guy make which can lead to emotional and financial ruin.  If you fully understand the implicati...

I'll share my biggest rejections I've ever had from women in my life - some of them are tragic and some of them are tragically funny.  I think it's really important for men to realise that no matter how hard you work on your dating skills, you're always going to face rejection - so today  I want to share my funny dating rejection stories so you can laugh with or at me and my ex...

Unattractive guys can still meet, attract and date women - This is your guide to making that happen.  I won't sugar coat it though - dating is always harder when you're not a good looking or hot guy. But that doesn't mean all is lost.  In this video, I'm going to focus on teaching you what less attractive men need to work on to still be able to meet and attract women in their l...

What are some sure signs that your date isn't' all you hoped they would be?  Going on first dates can be daunting, and trying to work out if they're a good match can feel like an impossible task.  But here are 6 red flags (and one bonus flag) that you should look out for which may prove that you should be proceeding with caution.  Whether you're a girl or a guy going on a date...

What were the 7 HUGE lessons I learned about masculinity that changed how I evolved and grew up as a man?  Trying to work out what it means to be a man, and what masculinity really means to you can be a tricky field of self-discovery.   It seems like you have some people telling you to 'man up' and other people telling you all about the evils of 'toxic masculinity'.  And it can...

I hear a lot of guys get really upset with online dating apps like Tinder and Bumble and  Hinge because you have to be in the top 20 per cent of guys to get any results.  But actually - That's a very reasonable outcome for an area where lots of guys want to be successful.  It's important to realise that you have to work hard on your online dating profile if you want to stand out and get...

Most men I know felt really frustrated when they first heard about affirmative consent - after all, this felt like yet another example of men being burdened with women's' responsibilities.  But I've come to realise that there could be a very real way in which affirmative consent may prove to be a very positive change for us guys in the long run - and there's good evidence exist...

Here is one proven strategy to stop being needy forever - this has a 100% success rate with all my clients over the last 11 years.  Neediness with women is an instant turn off - and it can be almost impossible to hide forever - it always has a way of coming back and destroying your relationships, and her attraction for you in the process.  Becoming needy and clingy with women has become far too co...

What his your Dark Masculine? And why do all men need to do shadow work to learn to embrace their dark masculine?  Why are women so turned on by men who are dangerous but in control?  Your dark side is the portal to accessing your masculinity - and it's often not pretty or socially acceptable. But it's a critical part of who you are as a man, and it should never be suppressed or ignored....

Is it worth getting Tinder Gold in 2020?   Many men get really frustrated with Tinder, and especially with Tinder Gold, if they don't end up getting any results. Which happens quite often.  In fact, as many as 80% of guys who pay for tinder gold get barely any results at all.  This isn't a random effect, however, and there are some very good use case scenarios when paying to upgrade your...

Is online dating better than cold approaching?  Which modality of attraction is best for you?  That's actually not as simple as it sounds, for some guys, jumping onto Tinder or Bumble and crafting a really amazing online dating profile is the best way to go - for other guys, it'is worth it to invest time learning to approach and attract women out in the real world.  In this video, I&apos...

Men's group sare one of the powerful ways to men to work on their self-development and discover their masculinity in a safe compassionate space of other men who are there to serve you.  When I was a younger man, wanting to work on my masculinity and stop being such a pushover nice-guy - men's groups really helped me to discover what it was that I was doing wrong.  We live in a climate wh...

Why do I think most couples aren't ready for an open relationship?  What are some of the hidden dangers of a polyamorous lifestyle?  What are some of the massive benefits to be had from having an open marriage?  Today I'm going to discuss my experiences both with my partner and being around many other couples who are experimenting with open relationships and swinging,  and what I've...

How we deal with Rejection and Failure is one of the biggest determining factors in whether we are going to go and accomplish all the things we dream about in life.  But the truth is that most of us give up after a couple of failures or brutal rejections, and some of us are so frightened of the pain that we never even try in the first place.  But there is a deceptively simple strategy to breaking...

It may surprise you to hear me suggest that romantic love is based largely on a transaction between two or more people, and that if someone doesn't keep living up to their end of the bargain - then the relationship will fail.  It may also surprise you that I still think that love is very real and romance is still alive and well in both men and women, and isn't going anywhere.  I want to...

4 Online dating tips to help guys get casual sex relationships with women from their dating apps.  When looking for dating advice for men - it's often focussed on how to get dates, rather than how to create a casual hookup - which is exactly what so many guys are really after.  As a dating coach of over 11 years, I'll show you 4 important things you need to do with your online dating pro...

Why are men feeling increasingly frustrated with dating?  Could it be because both men and women have too many choices?  What does the choice paradox outlined by Barry Schwartz have to do with dating and relationships?  As it turns out, it could tell us quite a lot about why finding women to date can be so frustrating in this day and age. 

Do you find yourself sabotaging all chance of success when you really like a girl?  It's true that most men I work with have gotten very good at self-sabotaging their own success, and even though they have all the requirements to be quite good with women, they always find a way to fail just before they can get success.  The worst thing is that our internal reasons for sabotaging ourselves liv...