Savage Lovecast

An 18 year-old man and his girlfriend are learning how to get it on. She can make herself come, but he can’t get her there himself. Would a vibrator be such a bad idea?  Dan welcomes comedian, writer and actress Ophira Eisenberg (host of NPR’s “Ask Me Another”) to discuss the wisdom of face tattoos and the sexiness of mansplaining.  On the Magnum, a family tiptoes around their gay son’s atrocious...

The complicated nature of abusive relationships: Dan speaks with Seattle author Jason Schmidt about his memoir A List of Things That Didn’t Kill Me, a raw, honest look at the mix of neglect, abuse and fierce love in his own upbringing. You should buy this book, and then read it.  Also, a gay man is about to go to drama school at a conservative Christian college. Should he stay in the closet just l...

Mom has been having an affair for 17 years, and dad just found out about it. How can this beleaguered daughter support both of her parents?  A gold star lesbian fell into bed with a man, and discovered that…she liked it. A lot. Now what?  On the Magnum, what makes people rat out their friends or family for infidelity?  Dan speaks with Dr. Dan Kruger for a “What You Got?” about why people blow the...

A woman finds herself in the middle of a poly free-for-all when she falls for a guy who is sleeping with every woman he can get his mitts on. Is this the poly lifestyle, or just a dude with a harem?  A woman is nursing a crush on a man she suspects to be gay. Is there any way she can divine the truth?  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Andreas Baranowski for a “What You Got” on what happens to wo...

This week we delight in welcoming the incomparable poet, writer and filmmaker Sherman Alexie. He and Dan discuss white chicks who embrace “Native American spirituality,”  how to pretend to be abstinent to placate your psychopathic preacher, and whether it’s creepy to ask your younger girlfriend to call you “daddy.” Sherman is a treasure and this is not to be missed.  This episode is brought to you...

Conservatives smile with their mouths. But liberals smile with their eyes. So says social psychologist Andreas Wojcik in a "What You Got" proving once and for all that lefties are happier than right-wingers.  A young man suffers from CUNNILINGUS LOCKJAW. Although Dan has never experienced this particular ailment, he nonetheless  has some advice to give. On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans rights a...

A priest and a rabbi come onto a podcast… This week Dan welcomes the retired gay Episcopal Bishop of New Hampshire, Gene Robinson, as well as a Rabbi Jeremy Gerber to tackle some thorny religion/sex issues.  How should straight men act at gay pride parades?  Are facials inherently misogynist? A woman has just discovered that her husband had an affair. But when they finished fighting about it, the...

After a long dry spell, a woman's husband is finally going down on her. But his stubble is causing considerable discomfort! Dare she use her words and suggest he take a razor blade to his pretty face?  A teen girl in Utah has just discovered feminism. She realizes she has only seen images of passive women on the tee-vee, and worries that she won't know what to do in bed. How can she learn to take...

Can Dan convince a young woman to accept and forgive her father for having a 9-year-long affair with a married woman?  Listen in as Dan deftly navigates through the kind of  theoretical quandary that only a conservative silly person could present.  Dan interviews Laura Anderson about her Slate article covering the history of condoms and why they could be so much better.  On the Magnum, fall down t...

This week, we are delighted to welcome Dr. Kara Cadwallader from Planned Parenthood to answer a backlog of medical questions about herpes, meningitis, IUDs and the good ole flu.  When you cheat and cheat and cheat, is it time to call yourself poly?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer, journalist, and transgender woman Parker Molloy, about seeking the understanding and acceptance of family member...

Her fiancé would rather enjoy congress with an unwashed blow-up doll than his betrothed. Does this spell ruin, or just a happy companionate marriage?  Hear the steamy tale of the nude model, the super-hot art teacher and the things he does with his laser pointer.  On the Magnum we've been saving up parenting questions for the indomitable Amy Lang, sex educator and creator of Birds + Bees + Kids, t...

Trapped in LA, Dan chitty-chats with comedian Jeffery Self about self lubricating, bossy slaves, "little brother" role playing and three-ways with celebrities among other things. The Gay is strong with this one.  Also, on the Magnum Dan talks with Sex and Family Educator Stephanie Mitelman about the struggles people on the autism spectrum have with sexuality and dating.  206-201-2720 Today's Lovec...

The Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse. Dan and our favorite dominatrix/sex-worker rights activist talk about getting started with domination, the perils of being a sex worker and (what else?) 60 Shades of Grey.  When planning a three-way with your wife and a friend of yours, how do you choose the lucky friend? And how can you minimize the awkwardness when you make the ask?  On the...

A self-professed "pervert" is married to a self-professed "Christian." He wants to keep watching his porn in peace, she forbids it. Should he sneak to see Hump, or fess up and invite her along?  A hand-wringing lesbian feels guilty whenever she gets the foot massages that turn her on so.  Dan chats withJonathan Capehart (of the Washington Post and MSNBC)  about homophobia in black culture, and the...

The Lovecast welcomes Anna Sale from WNYC's "Death, Sex & Money" podcast to pick over the nuances of Dan's thinking on non-monogamy.  We check in on a caller from last year who has recurring cancer, and a boyfriend who wasn't quite ready to marry her. Learn how she is doing, and whether they tied the knot.  Hear the tale of yet another deflowered, "abstinence-only" Christian. (It's kind of hot…) ...

An amputee is offended when her new boyfriend warns his brother about her disabilities. Is she being too sensitive?  A man is being ask to lie about his sister-in-law's abortion. How should he handle the complicated family dynamics?  How do gay people happen? Do mommies cause them?  On the Magnum version of the show, a very smug Dan Savage interviews Dr. Amy Muise about her recent paper which prov...

A married woman has lost all sex drive. Her husband is willing to let her be with other men. But the thought of her husband with another woman makes her so jealous that her mouth goes dry. Is this gonna work out ok? A straight man with a newly issued hall pass is having a hard time meeting ladies who will sleep with him because they know he's in a relationship. Why must it be this way? Why?!  On t...

A kinkster is worried that her feminist mother will see some bruises and assume the worst about her boyfriend. How can she explain that they are in a loving, mutually satisfying Dom/sub situation?  A woman doesn't like to swallow her boyfriend's come. Is this a rare condition?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Zoë Tersche from the website ThisWink.com about how to comport yourself at kinky play parti...

Gather round, heathens: It's Bible study time! Dan and gay Evangelical Christian Matthew Vines talk about how gay Christians can help the less "affirming" churches to come around to tolerance. They also geek out about the Bible like you wouldn't believe.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale....

On this, the week of Dan and Terry's 20th anniversary, Dan grapples with some tricky, tricky questions: At exactly what point in the dating process would it be polite to disclose that you are already in an open relationship?  A woman likes to be thin. Her man prefers a more hefty physique. How can she deal with his compliments if they only come when she feels bad about herself?  And, a woman's boy...

It's the Getting Women to Come Show! Sometimes ladies can't come and want to. Sometimes ladies can't come and they don't want to. Dan sure talks a lot about female orgasms on this show, considering he's never been near one.  Bad Science Alert! Female Ejaculate: Is it pee? Dan speaks with fearless blogger Amy Luna Manderino about some annoying hyperventilation in response to a recent study on squir...

How can you tell when a slap to the face is welcome or unwelcome in a BDSM situation? A weepy slapper wants to know.  How much trouble can naughty photos on Tumblr cause your new boyfriend?  Chest tattoos: hot or not? Dan welcomes Heather Havrilesky of "Ask Polly" to tackle this one in a Second Opinion. And on the Magnum, does a woman have a right to ask about her new boyfriend's prescription for...

A husband can't be bothered to bring his wife to orgasm. Why? It's too much work! His hand gets tired! A man is pretty sure his nephew is gay. The rest of the family is homophobic. How can he soften the ground with the family, and let him know he has support without outing or embarrassing him?  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes comedian Mike Birbiglia to tackle a question about REM sleep disorder. Also...

A drunken lass has intellectual crushes on her professors. How can she express her "love for their intellect?"  A man is totes bummed when a date ditches him after discovering that he smokes cigarettes. Is this just what online dating is like?  One condom. Three people. Does this math add up?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with uber-lesbian author and sex educator Allison Moon about female ejaculation...

Come all ye faithful. It's the Lovecast Live Christmas Extravaganza!  Recorded at Seattle's Neptune Theatre, this show features singer-songwriter Rachel Lark, comedian Derek Sheen, and a suddenly recruited, unwitting therapist! And Dan uses the scientific method to prove once and for all that Christmas. Isn't. Sexy.  But you be the judge. Photos are at www.thestranger.com/LovecastChristmasPics 206...