Savage Lovecast

A man’s boyfriend went as a “slut” for Halloween. It turns out, this was a really bad idea. A woman loves getting tied up. But she also needs to touch herself to get off. So…how is this gonna work? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans writer Parker Molloy about the challenges of transitioning for both partners in a relationship. And, hear the story of a woman who enters “The Land of Pleasure.” By w...

As you gather around the Thanksgiving table to bask in the warmth and glow of your loved ones, here are some reasons you will feel thankful:  Your sister’s boyfriend isn’t beating her up, your wife isn’t a transphobic Russian, your boyfriend’s father doesn’t beat him up, your mother isn’t a toxic evil mess and your step-father (who is also your boss,) doesn’t kick your dog. If any of these things...

“Bark! Bark! Bark!” That’s what a kinky woman’s dog will say when it hears her getting spanked. She worries that this might be a problem, and so, should she maybe not get a dog? A divorced woman is sleeping with the repair man. Her ex-husband is sleeping with their children’s former nanny. Were you just complaining about your life being too complicated? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Jonathan Eig,...

Hear the sordid tale of what the gay man saw when he woke up to find his boyfriend absent from the guest bed while they were visiting a …friend. Meanwhile in another corner of the cheat-o-verse, a man sees his best friend’s girlfriend on a daitng app. He thought they were monogamous. Should he rat her out to his pal? On the Magnum, Dan brings on a couple of guests. Debra Soh is a writer whose late...

It’s episode 420! Oh wait. No it isn’t. We totally spaced episode 420. But better late than never! Dan, Nancy and the Tech-Savvy, At-Risk Youth journey to Denver, Colorado where we recorded a live show, baked out of our skulls. Because pot is legal in Colorado, you see. Does pot enhance sex?  Does lube infused with THC actually work? Will Dan and his weed-addled panel end the show sounding even va...

In the opening rant, Dan finally opens up and tells us what he *really* thinks of the Catholic Church. Hear the strange and seedy tale of a male lap dance gone horribly wrong. On the Magnum, Dan chats with RIVAL sex advice podcaster Dr. Debby Herbenick about PReP for women and condom aversion for ladies. And, your amazing, supportive calls to the 20 year-old lesbian from last week who feels trappe...

How can a man convince his lady to give him the kind of sloppy head that makes her gag? It’s not like he’s anti-feminist or anything! A woman’s mother-in-law does NOT APPROVE of her poly lifestyle. But mom doesn’t know that her precious son is also as poly as the day is long. Should they cut off contact from his mother? Or is it time for him to come out already? Tear jerker! Dan tries to talk a su...

At the top of the show, Dan speaks with a clever lass with a foolproof plan to ensure the defeat of Canada’s dreadful Stephen Harper. A man is very close to an old childhood friend. Although they have always had a platonic relationship, his girlfriend of 6 months is beginning to freak out. If he attended a wedding as his pal's plus-one, would that be crossing a line? A woman's new boyfriend told h...

Dan has some helpful suggestions for the NRA! A woman saw a man exposing himself outside a family-friendly restaurant. She called the cops. Was this wrong? In order to prove that his girlfriend doesn’t put out as much as he would like, a man documents their sex life on an app. The girlfriend finds this creepy. Dear listener, do you? Rachel Percelay from Media Matters has been studying Fox News’ co...

A woman who identified as lesbian of 15 years (with a wife even,) has taken a younger, male lover. So, how is this gonna work? A man’s girlfriend insists that if and when they have kids, he will have to go through “labor simulation.”  He thinks this is batty. But what does Dan Savage think? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans luminary Kate Bornstein about words vs slurs, the Caitlin Jenner effect...

  It’s the dick show! Do you have one? (Or are you one?) Gather around for a “What You Got?” with Dr. Cynthia Graham about condoms and male sensitivity, the poor things. Then! On the Magnum, Mike Pearl, a writer for Vice Magazine discusses the science behind the need to rename Death Grip Syndrome. Also, how do you deal with it when a flasher lives in your neighborhood? And tons more. 206-302-2064...

Have you ever loved someone so much, even though you’ve known them for only 6 weeks, that when they break up with you, you call a sex advice podcaster sobbing and sobbing?  Meanwhile, a married man with his wife for 11 years, is working on forgiving her for cheating on him, and on opening their relationship so she can be her full self. Also, he thinks it’s kind of hot.  On the Magnum, Dan chats wi...

It’s the “Let’s Decriminalize Sex Work” episode! Dan chats with Vox writer German Lopez on the evidence which shows the benefits of legalizing sex work. (Like duh…)  And on on the Magnum, Dan chats with adult film actor Dirk Caber about the real effects of the federal raid on Rentboy.com.  Also, you’ve heard what Dan thinks about the Republican field, but what does he think about the Dems?  And, h...

A man has entered into a committed poly triad… and mom’s not having it. How can the caller get his mother to accept his other girlfriend?  Dan’s take on the shenanigans of hilarious comedian, Bill Cosby.  A woman’s boyfriend REALLY wants to do anal. He wants this so badly that he’s willing to try it without warning, lube or consent. And it causes her tremendous pain. Can any of you guess what Dan’...

Pee drinking in the UK: How common is it? Do mates drink each other’s urine routinely, or do they have to kind of know each other a little better? A tale for the vault, folks.  How should you handle a nasty blabbing co-worker who tells everyone that you have herpes?  On the Magnum, slaves, Mistress Matisse joins us in the studio (on the 23rd floor of the Washington Mutual Building overlooking the...

Dan and Peter Sagal, host of NPR’s “Wait Wait… Don’t Tell Me” join forces to discuss baptism, Jewish vs Catholic guilt, clingy, needy human doormats, and the special torture that open relationships can bring on. Peter is hilarious and delightful- this show is not to be missed. Some of it is on the Micro, all of it is on the Magnum.  Also, how to approach a cute amputee without causing offense. 206...

Dan on the Republican empathy gap. Why does the Republican party care so much about Fox News’ Megyn Kelly, but not so much about you?  A woman doesn’t understand how bondage, S&M, humiliation and rape fantasies can take place in the context of a loving relationship.  On the Magnum, Dan and writer/blogger Amanda Marcotte dish about the Republican primaries, and how the “War Against Women” is still...

Dan speaks to an actual lesbian about how to get started in the homosexual lifestyle.  Also hear the sordid tale of the evil rock star training an army of dick-biting groupies.  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Dr. Vy Chu, to discuss a worst case ass scenario and how to care for your sweet, sweet bottom.  New Number! Use it. Live it.  206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They...

A woman feels so insecure about the way her vagina looks, she won’t let her boyfriend near it. How can he convince her that she is beautiful all over? A disabled gay man has a boyfriend who refuses to have sex with him. His psychiatrist thinks they should stay together. Dan thinks otherwise.  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Matt Baume, author of “Defining Marriage” about the heroes of the marriage...

After a wedding guest sat and endured some anti-gay loony talk from a bigoted pastor, a woman wonders what she could have done better. Walk out? Audibly boo? Hear a couple of calls from women who get off on lesbian porn, and the very different reactions their boyfriends have to this unspeakable perversity. Dan welcomes Joan Price, author of Naked at Our Age, to answer some calls concerning sex for...

An opening rant on Zachery Anderson, who was unfairly imprisoned and put on the sex offenders registry, because an uptight judge wants you to know that hook-up apps are terribly naughty.   A man wonders if he should personally confront a guy he knows who creeps on women.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and rival advice columnist Tristan Taormino about reclaiming the pleasure of anal sex afte...

While you and I danced in the streets, Dan was trapped in Australia, where marriage equality is NOT YET LEGAL. Hear his thoughts on the Supreme Court decision. A woman is attractive, accomplished and has big plans. But when potential dates start talking to her, they quickly shut down and move on. What is she doing wrong? Is her grandmother correct that she talks to much?  A woman was sexually abus...

This week we are delighted to welcome Hillary Frank, host and creator of The Longest Shortest Time podcast, to answer some questions about reclaiming your sex life after pregnancy. Also, a woman tends to date messed-up, and/or addicted guys, because she likes to try to heal them in their “time of darkness.” How can she keep doing all this groovy healing without constantly dating damaged men? A wom...

OMG it’s actual movie star famous guy celebrity JASON SCHWARTZMAN. And guess what? He’s clever, funny and super-nice. He and Dan talk about his new movie The Overnight, swinging, swastika tattoos (spoiler: he’s against them,) controlling mothers, and the famous people you want to sleep with. Don’t miss it. There’s some on the micro, and more on the Magnum.  Also, a man’s new boyfriend has the same...

A divorced single mother can’t seem to get it through her lovers’ heads that she just wants casual relationships. How can she convince them that there’s no ring required?  A woman’s mouth is dick Kryptonite! Her boyfriend’s penis always goes soft when she tries to go down. What on earth is she doing wrong?  On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and bioethics professor Alice Dreger as well as document...