Said in Therapy

You found the label. You took the quiz. You know you're anxious, or avoidant, or somewhere in between. So why does nothing actually change? In this episode, Iman Tohami breaks down how attachment theory, one of the most useful frameworks in psychology, became one of the most misused. We get into why calling yourself "anxiously attached" might be the very thing keeping you stuck, what...

You've read the books. You've done the challenges. You've started the morning routine more times than you can count. So why does it feel like you're still in the same place? In this episode, Iman Tohami goes after one of the most profitable, and most protected, industries in the world: self-help. Not because growth isn't real, but because the industry selling it to you might be...

Modern dating has changed and so have breakups. In this episode of  Said In Therapy , we unpack the rise of the “emotional disappearance”: situationships, avoidant attachment, the slow fade, ghosting, and why so many people detach the moment things start feeling real. If you’ve ever been blindsided by someone who seemed all-in… then suddenly “wasn’t ready,” this episode is for you. We break down w...

Healing doesn’t stop hurting just because you understand it. I recorded this episode from a place I don’t talk about often — the beginning of my training, when I lost someone I loved and learned, very quickly, that insight doesn’t protect you from pain. In this episode, I share how that experience reshaped the way I understand healing, both as a psychologist and as a human. We talk about grief, se...

A birthday special with a big-picture conversation. In this episode of Said in Therapy , I hand the mic to my close friend Amanda, who steps in as guest host to interview me on another year of growth. Together, they dive into what self-care really looks like beyond the buzzwords, how therapy has shapes the personal and professional journey, and the mindset I am carrying into 2026. The conversation...

In this episode of Said in Therapy we dives into the powerful topic of self-compassion and the inner critic, that harsh voice inside us that keeps us stuck in cycles of shame and self-doubt. Why do we listen to it? How can we start talking to ourselves with kindness instead of criticism? And what actually happens when we shift from self-judgment to self-compassion.

In this follow-up to our AI and therapy discussion, we dive into the most common questions people are asking. Can AI really understand emotions? Is your data safe? Will therapists be replaced? I break down the real risks, the ethical challenges, and how to use AI tools wisely without losing the human touch. If you're curious or cautious about AI in mental health, this one's for you.

We unpack the powerful and deeply rooted word: “3aib" ,  the  shame that has silenced generations across the Middle East when it comes to mental health. We explore how this cultural code of silence has kept pain  behind closed doors, and what it means to finally speak the unspeakable. You'll hear the story of Sara, a young woman who broke the cycle, chose therapy, and opened a path for he...

In this episode, the we explore the evolving intersection of artificial intelligence and mental health therapy. The discussion covers how AI technologies are being integrated into therapeutic practices and how chatbots provide immediate emotional support. The episode also delves into ethical considerations, data privacy concerns, and the potential of AI to make mental health support more accessibl...

You asked, and I'm answering! In this special episode, I tackle the questions you sent in. From mental health tips to navigating life’s challenges, we’re diving deep into the topics that matter most to you. Tune in for expert advice, practical insights, and thoughtful conversations!

In this episode, we dive into the unique world of third culture kids- individuals who grew up in cultures different from their parents’ or their passport country. We explore the joys and challenges of belonging everywhere and nowhere at once, the struggles with identity and home, and how these experiences shape relationships, careers, and self-perception. Through personal stories and expert insigh...

Today I am in conversation with the break-up coach Nora. She is currently located in Dubai and conducts her sessions in English and Arabic, in person and online. Together we explore the topic of breakup and heartbreak. Heartbreak is a term used to describe the intense emotional pain someone feels after experiencing the end of a relationship. It is characterized by feelings of sadness, loss, grief,...

As every year here is the Birthday Special but this time with a twist, these are the questions that followers on Instagram have sent in.  Happy New Year Everyone. 

A toxic friendship is one in which you feel energetically exhausted when interacting with the person. Your friend may be an emotional vampire who seems to suck the life force out of you whenever you speak to them or spend time with them. If you want to find out how to identify a toxic friendship and learn how to deal with it, then this episode is for you.

While overthinking itself is not a mental illness, it is associated with conditions including depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and substance use disorders. Rumination can be common in people who have chronic pain and chronic illness as well, taking the form of negative thoughts about that pain and healing from it. Here I introduce simple tools that can help with getting hold on your overthin...

Autism is a condition that affects how a person thinks, feels, interacts with others, and experiences their environment. It is a lifelong condition that starts when a person is born and stays with them into old age. Every Autistic person is different from every other. This is why autism is described as a ‘spectrum’. I am in conversation with Dr. Charifa Zemouri with explains her individual experie...

Remember that conflict is natural and happens in every ongoing relationship. Since conflict is unavoidable we must learn to manage it. Conflict is a sign of a need for change and an opportunity for growth, new understanding, and improved communication. Conflict can not be resolved unless it is addressed unless we address it within ourselves.  💌  Sign up for my weekly email newsletter 🌍...

Imposter syndrome is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their skills, talents, or accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud". To continue with the second part of the Imposter Syndrome series I am interviewing Adrian about his experience with the syndrome.  💌  Sign up for my weekly email newsletter 🌍   My website/blog&nbs...

What is the imposter and is the imposter syndrome an actual diagnosis? What does it do? And how to combat it? And sharing own experience. Why do we always think we are an imposter? Answering these questions and more. 

Everyone needs healthy boundaries in their lives if they want to have healthy relationships. Setting boundaries is about more than just saying no - and when you learn how to set boundaries in a way that people will listen to and respect you will not only feel free, but you will also start breaking the cycle of people-pleasing and codependence.

As an extension to my regular social media Q&As, I have dedicated an episode about my trauma journey and how I worked through it and grew from it as a result.  Please keep in mind that these Q&As will never replace actual therapy, and not every journey is the same. Instead, use them as an inspiration, a means to learn more, and eventually, encouragement to start your therapy journey.&...

The Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a mental health disorder that impacts the way you think and feel about yourself and others, causing problems functioning in everyday life. It includes self-image issues, difficulty managing emotions and behavior, and a pattern of unstable relationships. I am in conversation with my former patient Nora who describes her healing process, her road with the...

The most difficult type of insecure attachment is the disorganized attachment style. It is often seen in people who have been physically, verbally, or sexually abused in their childhood. A disorganized / fearful-avoidant attachment style develops when the child’s caregivers – the only source of safety – become a source of fear.

What is avoidant attachment? Avoidant attachment is an attachment style that develops during early childhood . It tends to occur in children who do not experience sensitive responses to their needs or distress. Children with an avoidant attachment style may become very independent, both physically and emotionally.