Ruwando Podcast

CJ Rodriguez from @masculinehealthsolutions podcast comes on to speak on male enhancement, natural bodybuilding, fatherhood, rebelling against modernity, and a male perspective on everything. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

According to Phub data, interest in "milf" skyrocketed last year. This says something about the male collective conscious via what Jung would call "The Mother Complex"-- material imprinting still affecting an adult man. 00:00 Phub data represents collective male consciousness 01:50 MILF going up to 2nd place (mommy issues?) 03:45 Mother Complex myths and movies 05:50 MILF trope...

How much can women "control" men's emotions? Om and Joseph return to the podcast to discuss an experiment testing this. Also the power dynamics between the genders. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

James Kalupson is a psychotherapist who facilitates psylocybin retreats in Jamaica. We speak about Jungian vs. shamanic vs. traditional clinical approaches to personal transformation and the psyche. https://www.jameskalupson.com/ https://mycomeditations.com X: @jamesfkalupson Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Hans Comyn rejoins the podcast in a different stage of life. He speaks on the Freedom vs. Commitment Dilemma that many men feel when in a relationship. Can one be truly free while in partnership? If you want to work with Hans, contact him at hanscomyn@gmail.com https://hanscomyn.com/global-lovestyle-consultation/ Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Why do narcissists inflict random punishments? And more importantly, why are so many drawn to it? This video uses my favorite scene from the Sopranos to break down why random abuse works as a manipulation technique. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

In our first years of life, we each develop methods for feeling safe. These methods eventually shape our personality and how we behave in overwhelm, conflict, and intimacy. Author of The Five Personality Patterns, psychotherapist Steven Kessler, explains how to recognize your pattern and meet your deeper needs. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Money and Women are the most primal desires of men (Survival and Replication), and therefore the deepest triggers to self-worth and identity. And psychological blockages around them follow the same principles. I share a recent story of a man who had a major breakthrough out of lifelong fear/scarcity, and how it applies to all areas of life. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.c...

NPD is a hot topic in the pop psychology world, but is it really a pathology? Might there be an evolutionary purpose. I discuss this with my friends Om Rupani and psychotherapist Joseph Teskey. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Flirting = speaking with the subtext, "I want you." When authentic (and therefore easy), it comes from your instincts, not your thoughts. Unleash your instincts: https://www.ruwando.com/archetype Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

How a man behaves in the bedroom largely depends on how he behaves outside of it... down a physiological level. Here we break down some scenes from Breaking Bad to highlight 3 key principles about male psychology, libido, and confidence. Arousal Control Course— Master your arousal in 6 weeks Cyber Monday deal: https://www.ruwando.com/acs-cyber-50 If you're struggling with a psychogenic dysfunc...

Since raising a daughter, I’ve become more sensitive to women’s experience in dating men. So I invited on my friends Reece and Efia to get a bit of female perspective. Reece and Efia are coaches who met in a women’s mystery school in Spain. We met in Mexico last year. We discuss dating, relationships, gender role culture, and the female version of Nice Guy Syndrome. [Video Excerpt] Two Kinds of Wo...

Josh Hatcher of Manlihood and I connected earlier this summer to discuss about man stuff. But once I found out he was a father of four adults (and grandfather), I had to pick his brain on his role in his family. Here’s a video preview of our talk. (Full episode is in audio/podcast only) Check out his stuff at manlihood.com ruwando.com/archetype (Still includes coaching call with me) Get full acces...

I was raised both Buddhist and Catholic. Neither really stuck. I spent my twenties being “spiritual but not religious”. And otherwise prioritizing individuality over cultural constraints. However for the first time as an adult, I’m seeing the value of traditional religion. I don’t think I’m alone in that. Global culture is at an inflection point. After centuries of moving towards secularism, many...

Muslim and Christian families uniting in protest shows us a historical pattern of ideological conflict. Read article version at ruwando.substack.com Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Sexual desire is one of the few places where individual nature will hold out against collective culture. (Comedy being the other big one.) Most of my life I’ve been focused on the importance of individual expression over collective “oppression.” My explorations in sexuality have been a part of that. But lately (since having a family) I’ve been seeing the great value of the other side— there’s a lo...

I’m joined by my friend Vicente, one of the psychotherapists who run Iboga Quest , an ibogaine treatment center in Mexico. This conversation was shortly after I attended one of his retreats. We speak about mindfulness, plant medicine, psychotherapy, and how to change your mind. https://ibogaquest.com/ Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

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Religion seems to be making a comeback. Whereas most self help and pop psychology of the 90’s was more about blaming religious oppression, now it seems to be weaving back into personal development. I personally have become more interest in tradition lately. And I’ve been curious to speak with someone who knows both of these worlds. I met Issa a few months ago in a coaching program. He’s a YouTuber...

Relationships are expensive. And men with options have less reason to be in one than ever before. This episode is on 1) how women can reverse that trend, 2) how men can overcome the internal dilemma. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

My old friend Brian Begin, of TrueCourage (formerly Fearless Man), joins us in a pivotal moment of his life. He shares about recent grief and the lessons he learned from it. Also on recreating your self and your life. As always I got a ton of inspiration chatting with him. https://www.ruwando.com/archetype Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

I’ve done a lot of things in the world of men’s personal development. But there’s nothing that has positively impacted me as much as combat sports. Here’s how: References: The Hour Between Dog and Wolf (Coates) Arousal and Physiological Toughness (Dienstbier) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Culture encourages us to stay “young” (because then we make better consumers). This can be especially troublesome for men. And most men (including me) probably have some inner conflict related to that. Patrick and I discuss “Peter Pan Syndrome”— When a grown man is stuck in elements of “boy psychology”. Referencing Carl Jung, and Marie Louise von Franz's The Problem of the Puer Aeternus (1959) Get...

Captain Sinbad is my favorite Youtuber in the personal development space. So I hired him as a coach. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Last month I noticed my mind was going in a bad direction. At moments I thought I was depressed, and maybe I was. But I realized there was a lot within my mental state that was well within my control. So I decided to do a little lifestyle challenge following the principles of one of my historical role models— the Miyamoto Musashi. This video covers the 21 principles of Dokkodo alongside my 3 week...