Ruwando Podcast

Alex Petkas is the host of The Cost of Glory Podcast — which I discovered while researching for History of Man episodes III and IV and thoroughly enjoy. He’s was formerly a Classics Professor. We speak about what we can learn from the great men of history and developing your ethos. Ancient Life Coach Substack Rome - Speak Lead Retreat Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/sub...

How “truthful” should you be in your relationship? In a committed relationship, that’s actually the wrong way to ask the question… This episode covers a man’s role in influencing the shared perceptions (viz: Magician Archetype). We’ll look at it through different lenses such as “controlling frame” (Red Pill) vs. shared meaning-making (nation-building). (This was recorded before my concussion and I...

Many of our patterns of behavior and feeling do not originate in us. They are passed down, through nature or nurture, from those before us. However if you’ve “inherited” undesirable patterns, or see them spreading in your family, you can be the one to interrupt them. Noelfry rejoins the podcast to share a recent experience of disrupting his familial patterns. Btw, I’m back on Youtube: Get full acc...

Atonement with the Father is a stage in Joseph Campbell's monomyth (Hero's Journey) where a man confronts 'The Godhead'. In doing so, he becomes complete-- unlocking the "god" within himself (Apotheosis). Psychologically it represents healing of the Father Wound-- the gaps in one's masculinity due to the shortcomings of one's father figure. Ruwando Substack is a reader-supported publication. To re...

(Apologies for the bad audio-- my main mic cut out.) Havingness (a.k.a. self-concept) is how much you subconsciously believe your deserve when it comes to different areas of life— money, love, respect, attention, ease, etc. We tend to revert to our this "Having Level" when we deviate too far away from it. But you can increase your Having Level, and upgrade your sense of normal through certain prac...

“Sometimes you need to be punched so hard in the face that you wake up” Since appearing in episode 140 Slave to King: Nice Guy Transformation , I have received more listener questions about him than any other guest. Patrick H. from Germany returns to the podcast to fill us in on his life since his return to dating post-celibacy, and now in a new kind of relationship. If you’re a man with a history...

Apparently last Friday was “Three King’s Day”— referring to the magi who visited baby J in the manger. It happened to coincide with a summit planned with my new office mates. The three of us are young fathers and entrepreneurs. We christened our new space, Studio 14 , with a chat on the Father Wound, the greater demands on manhood in creating a Perimeter, and fatherhood philosophy. Apologies to an...

The last few weeks I’ve had a few discussions with guys about “being a rock”. In theory, it’s a nice manly image… but what does it actually mean? In practice, being “a rock” can seem like being “passive” at times, but it’s not the same thing. This episode covers HOW to be a grounded “rock” (as opposed to a fiery hothead, watery fish, or airy space cadet). NOTE: I’m going start livestreaming some e...

The Muse: The part of the psyche responsible for involuntary creation. The Muse is like any woman. Her desires rarely make logical sense. Get in her good graces and she'll fill you with inspiration. Get on her bad side and she'll look for ways to torture you. In this episode I share the story of writing my story, using quotes from other poets to drive certain principles home. Also my book...

I'm in some sh*t right now... of my own doing. I'm in a Netflix documentary coming out tomorrow on the cult I was in. A lot heavy things are coming my way, and it's been requiring extra inner strength. So I'm forced to practice what I preach... This episode is on the Anabolic Psyche— Building strength in your soul. I cover two kinds of traps that kill soul strength (spiritual and m...

The Greco-Persian Wars not only decided the future of world culture, but the Greek and Persian cultural differences helped determine the results of the wars. This episode covers a clash of very different worlds after the Bronze Age collapse. Personal Note : Thank you for your patience with this one. I’ve been moving my family from Thailand to Mexico the last few months and have been pressed on tim...

Polarity requires tension. Our reproductive instincts (attraction, lust, passion) sometimes need a little "transgression" to get going. This episode opens with a little intimacy lesson from the ancient Spartans. I also discuss a different take on Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent , and how to "skillfully (consensually) violate". More on the Spartans in History of Man episode III...

Once in awhile we meet someone who changes our view of life, our model of reality. One of such people like that, for me, was my friend Daniel. He is both the luckiest and unluckiest guy I know—When he's "ON" everything seems to serendipitously fall in his lap. And when he's ''OFF'' he has the uncanny ability to F everything up. This episode looks at how one can &#34...

We tend to fight the worst with those we love the most. While fights ought to be rare, when they do happen they are great opportunities for improving the relationship as a whole. This episode covers how to resolve fights quickly and how to use them to "gain intimacy" rather than costing it. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.s...

Being detached from outcome seems to attract what you want... In dating, in business, and possibly in unforeseeable ways in life. But how do you intend what you want while also being detached? This episode looks at achieving this mental state that helps one overcome internal resistance and MAYBE can also attract desired things beyond your control... Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/bra...

"All the ancestors before us refer to beauty as the sacred. They regard to that as pure beauty. You should get chills when you really feel beauty." Arthur Kwon Lee was named 'Artist of the Year' in 2020. Six months later was blacklisted for not subscribing to woke ideology. Since then he's become the artist of "don't tread of me" masculine virtue. We discuss culture...

Polarity means asymmetry of responsibility: There are some things the man does for the woman that are not necessarily reciprocated. But what about men's needs? This episode covers how a man can get his needs met without violating the polarity of his relationship.  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

You already know that women need to feel their feelings. But that's only half of the equation... A man assuming the role of 'Head of the Household' is an increasingly taboo concept. But it's the only way to really give your partner and dependents the space and safety to be themselves. (Please excuse the sound quality. This was recorded in nature.) Advertising Inquiries: https://red...

Your 'Demons' = Patterns from your past that limit your present. These emotions/beliefs/tendencies tend to re-appear right when you're about to have a positive breakthrough. I share how you can slay your demons with a process from Radical General Semantics (Gad Horowitz). Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/sub...

Men have a new kind of "Fear of Women." It's the fear that the woman they are intimate with, won't want to be in her feminine. My wife pointed out to me that women have this fear too— of their own femininity. She shares her recent experiences with the new levels of polarity. www.nalayachakana.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substac...

Ken Blackman coaches people in relationships, sex, communication, and human dynamics. We met when he was the Head of Education at OneTaste. We reconnected recently via one of his writings that resonated with a challenge I've been feeling regarding being seen. We talk about the good ole cult days, navigating traps in the personal development industry and media, and sharing your truth. kenblackm...

Boyhood Wounds come from natural desires not met in childhood. When left open too long then turn into fantasy, delusion, and pathology. This episode explores some of the darker parts of male psychology, and how to heal the wounds that affect your adult behavior. Referencing Jung, Attachment Theory, and some of my embarrassing stories. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full ac...

Fatherhood has felt like a continuation of my previous pursuit to become a good lover... Similar traits apply. Which is why I wanted to speak to my friend Steve Mayeda. I know Steve from way back in dating coaching days in the infamous PUA world. Steve is a father of 4 and currently runs Austin Men's Development. He shares about his divorce, balancing providing with presence, and fatherhood (a...

There was no such thing as “war” in the Stone Age. Only through certain social advancements was war made possible by the early states. This episode covers: * History’s first war, first empire, and first fully centralized state. * The art of “statecraft” as an extension of the dominance hierarchy. * The fissure in male psychology as explained by Nietzsche’s Master and Slave Morality * Why we can bl...

Mac Lethal is a rapper, YouTuber, author, and recent Hindu convert (only partially kidding). We connected last month over an article I wrote regarding masculine-feminine dynamics, specifically on how to handle fiery women. We speak about how to regain the passion in a sexless marriage, why men are like swimming pools (not cups), and practical spirituality for the lifelong atheist. *When Kali Tramp...