Ruwando Podcast

How she feels around you is a reflection of how you feel inside. Many men dissociate from their unconscious in order to meet the needs of the relationship and family. And then get confused as to why the wife is less happy the more he sacrifices. She's picking up on the state of your unconscious. Your Anima . Ep 219 covered her side of Jung's Quaternity. This episode covers yours --the Anima . Arti...

Most fatherhood advice sucks. It's often coded for political stock characters. A few years ago, expecting my daughter, I made a running doc of fatherhood lessons I was picking up while researching for my History Of Man podcast. A family is a micronation. Therefore, a father is a nationbuilder. This is Part 1 of a new series. Article version: https://ruwando.substack.com/p/how-to-patriarch-your-fam...

If you often oscillate between opposites: You’re too hard or too soft. Overconfident one day. Self-doubting the next. It may come down to your Father Wound … In Campbell’s Monomyth, the hero’s journey begins in leaving the Status Quo—the metaphorical home of your father. The hero (your ego) seeks out a mentor, or Secondary Father , to fill in the gaps of your masculinity left by your upbringing. T...

Each of us have a Master and Slave archetype within us. They represent two opposite ways of evaluating reality, and therefore making decisions. The more you operate from Master Morality, the more true you are being to your nature as a man. I break down Nietzsche's concept of Nobility here and how it relates to male biology, modern society, and expressing yourself as a man. This was originally reco...

You've been here before: She's upset and talking nonsense. Every male instinct in you wants to correct her contradictions (and prove YOU are right). It's a trap. Uncle Carl offers us a better mental model that makes all the nonsense make sense. Understanding it will help you 1) neutralizing her arguments, 2) handling her unconscious so that future arguments are less necessary. And be the Happy Gen...

Your social brain "thinks" that if you are extra hard on yourself it will motivate you to do better. But the opposite is true: The more you make yourself feel bad, the more you unconsciously do things to justify bad feelings. Shame kills your mojo more than anything else. Kills performance. Disconnects you from your instincts and "soul." This episode is on freeing yourself from shame considering:...

"Men's Personal Development" wasn't a thing even one generation ago. It became so due to shifts in culture and technology. It also is a lens on the changes in male collective consciousness. This episode analyzes the 4 recent iterations of men's work--culturally, psychologically, and technologically-- and what it says about where male psychology is headed. Article version: https://ruwando.substack....

After a weird COVID relationship, a friend lent me a copy of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus . While dated in terms of style, I was shocked at how useful it was 20 years later. I was also surprised that John had a lot to say about semen retention when I interviewed him. Little did I know, he has a deeply spiritual (and sexual) past. On that note, you can get Arousal Control Mastery (normal...

Is there a formula for getting your way (with people or circumstances)? In my experience, there are certain qualities that make someone particularly magnetic in this sense. I draw an actionable metaphor from the physics formula for literal magnetism, Get the text version with breakdown and summary at ruwando.substack.com Anabolic Psyche 2.0: go.anabolicpsyche.com + Get my Arousal Control program f...

Patrick was in a dark place when met—ultra Nice Guy submissive tendencies, deep feelings of undeservingness, enmeshing Mother Complex, and acting out with p*rn and prostitutes. Six months later, his life reflected massive transformation—epic dating life, greater respect at work, and feelings of deservedness. We recorded this about a year after when he chose to settle down with his now wife. (I had...

Dropping an old favorite in honor of my anniversary today. How to Help Her Into Her Feminine covers what a man can do to help a woman move from her competitive (“masculine”) self to her interdependent (“feminine”) self. It draws on some fringe lessons from BDSM, evolutionary biology, and case studies from many guys I’ve helped. I recorded it shortly after our daughter was born. I wonder if you can...

The literal need to "protect and provide" is mostly obsolete in modern day. But women still desire to be contained when it comes to emotions, and to large degree, perceptions. One of the huge differences between committed and not-so-committed relationships is the man's role in directing reality. Only then can a woman really feel her feelings, be present, be in her feminine. It’s about a man’s role...

When I was 23, I fell in love with a drug addict. She was sexy and interesting. But more than that, she was WILD.  If my life was a movie, she was cast as the Manic Pixie Dream Girl—the adolescent male fantasy of an the open-hearted nymph who saves the non-hero from mediocrity. The MPDG highlights  a common male psychological wound. She also shows us how such a man can heal this wound, if he can a...

Disney princesses are different today. So is our culture's Feminine Ideal. Mrs. Meepagala and I debate on how these different female role models are imprinting the next generation of women, including our daughter. Tomorrow I'm posting a concise article on the 3 different types female role models and their message to women on substack. Subscribe to get it delivered to your inbox: ruwando.substack.c...

What makes one psychologically ready for a committed relationship? Jung’s essay, “The Love Problem of a Student”, discusses the early stages social dynamics that have become common to us 100 years later— “free love” vs monogamy, infidelity, a woman’s dilemma of career vs. family. 00:37 The Love Problem of a Student 03:41 Love and Instincts 06:23 Homosexuality and Human Nature 29:24 Psychological M...

A recent epiphany has made me decide to move off visual media consolidate my podcast with substack. It shouldn't change anything for you, though there's a *possibility* you won't see my new episodes pop up. (If there's an RSS feed issue.) You can prevent this by subscribing at ruwando.substack.com There you can stay updated on future podcast episodes, accompanying writing, livestre...

Here I read an essay by Carl Jung, "Woman As Soul", + give my commentary on what it means and how we can use it. This is part of the source material for my next book, ANIMA: The Five Aspects of the Feminine-- A Guide For Men on Female Psychology. Get free excerpts by subcribing at ruwando.substack.com Or get an advance copy of ANIMA by purchasing my other book, ORGSM, A Memoir at orgsmbo...

Reality is a set of agreements. This is a reading + commentary on a new post on substack on the nature of subjective reality: The process of brainwashing used by ideologies as seen in politics, communities, and of course, cults. It includes from excerpts from my book, ORGSM, A Memoir . I'll be posting more analyses + excerpts from my next book, ANIMA: The 5 Aspects of the Feminine Unconscious...

My book publishes Oct 31. You can get it at a discount + free bonuses: 1. How To Brainwash Yourself course that pulls mind control principles from my cult experience for positive identity transformation. 2. An advance copy of Anima: 5 Aspects of the Feminine Unconscious . My next book (to publish 2026) on female psychology. 3. My entire premium meditation library from MindValley/Insight Timer. To...

I connected with Sascha over a post he made of “why women in their 40’s are the unhappiest ever.” Whether that’s true or not, it’s food for important conversation about modern dating and relationships. Sascha Haert is a coach for women. Tbh, I used to have a lot of judgement of men who coach women (and of women who only coach men). But he has a lot of great insight on: Why successful women hardly...

Working with horses is the most profound thing I've done in many years. Most recently I've been training with Sergio Faerman. Sergio is a former semi-pro MMA fighter, horse therapy trainer, and “gaucho” (Latin American tradition of cowboy). He and I first met training MMA, and I’ve been training in horse riding with him. We discuss why men need to learn horseriding, how horses teach you to...

Justin Nault is a nutrition therapist. We have a fascinating discussion on metabolic health, hormones, nutrition, and the mind. Justin on IG: @justinnaultofficialHis supplement company: iamclovis.com00:00 Guest Introduction: Who Is Justin?00:56 Justin's Music Career and Body Dysmorphia01:33 Journey Into Health and Wellness04:10 Plant Medicine and Life Changes04:46 Nutrition and the Paleo Diet0...

Netflix’s Adolescence has sparked much debate around masculinity. Is it feminist propaganda? Or an important awakening around the “manosphere”? I analyze the series from the perspective of the male collective unconscious: What the show got right, what it got wrong, and how it fits in with modern culture, including Andrew Tate, redpill, the manosphere, Jordan Peterson, Joe Rogan, and more. Video ve...

Why do women like possessive men? Miiska returns to the podcast to discuss dating and relationships. Plus, his major life changes: his new found fame and recent death of his father. Miiska Van Renterghem is Finland’s #1 men’s coach and personal development podcaster. He’s also a good buddy and former client of mine. Hack your brain chemistry for unshakable confidence: Anabolic Psyche mini-course o...

Lucilla was once Denmark's top female pickup artist. Now she's a worldwide midwife (and the wife of Andreas from last episode). We discuss her unusual Journey as a woman in the early pickup community, her approach to developing confidence, social skills, and authenticity. 00:00 - Pickup, coaching 02:00 - Social skills, dating in teens 05:20 - Is dating easier for guys or girls? 06:30 - Who needs l...