Ruwando Podcast

For many men, their introduction to personal development was the infamous “pickup community”. My friend “Worldwide Psychologist” Andreas and I speak on our experiences, good and bad, and how it led to deeper understandings in self-discovery. We also cover why we replay childhood relations, installing values into your kids, and why staying connected to yourself is important. 00:00 Discovering who y...

Higher consciousness through sex? If you've ever felt in an altered state from falling in love, taking MDMA, or really great sex, then you may have experienced what Timothy Leary called the “Neurosomatic Circuit”—the state of consciousness that comes with a deep connection between mind and body, typically through sustaining sexual arousal. This episode covers how sexual arousal can be used to enha...

My friends Kris and Lily came back from a breakup to coming back together and now happily married with two kids. In order to do so, they both had to drastically change themselves and their reality. We discuss major turning points in a romantic relationship, balancing ideologies in a relationship, and some key (and possibly taboo) principles about how men and women can find deep harmony together. I...

"A man's beauty represents inner functional truths: his face shows what he can do." (Albert Camus) Trauma (inhibitions to normal function) shows up in out nonverbal communication— facial expressions and posture. We can read one's emotions through their resting faces and micro-expressions. Here's how to read, and modify yours from trauma to ease and confidence. 00:00 - Intro 01:40 - Body language -...

Why do you get nervous? Do you “choke” in important moments? i.e. Meeting someone you’re attracted to, public speaking, conflict or competition? How to “conquer your inner weakness” really comes down to how to change your stress response. The episode breaks down how to change your stress response. We’ll start with the biologically process of acute stress, and how to “practice right emotions” so th...

Mrs. Meepagala rejoins the pod after 100 episodes. (She was on ep100 before we had kids). We speak on power dynamics and imbalance in relationships, mother and father figure differences, the beauty of surrendered woman, and our personal experiences with “trad” gender roles. If you’re a man in a committed relationship that’s not going the way you want, you may want to join my small group program: h...

A few months ago the Economist wrote an article on the political gender gap— how men are becoming more conservative, and women more liberal. While this seems like a recipe for conflict, in many ways this is a return to human nature. This episode covers the evolutionary roots behind political leanings, the reasons for recent cultural shifts, and some fascinating studies about how your political lea...

Marine heals PTSD with brain mapping and plant medicine. Brain-mapping is a relatively new technology that trains a person to recreate neural patterns. Veteran marine Luke Jensen speaks on how he healed his PTSD through brain-mapping and plant medicine and how these modalities can help people with unwanted emotional patterns like anxiety and depression. We discuss the Marine Corps, PTSD psychologi...

Almost all internal conflict can be described as the Heart vs. Mind Dilemma— Your thoughts want one thing and your feelings want another. The episode covers how to solve this dilemma: When to listen to your head over your heart? When to listen to your heart over your mind? How do you calibrate your intuition? 00:00 - Heart vs. Mind Dilemma 01:35 - Announcements 04:13 - Distortions of the head and...

The desire for dominance is within all men. A man has to be connected to his dominance in order to be a useful lover, father, leader, teammate. But how does a dominant man act? What does it mean to be dominant in relationships, without being a jerk? This episode covers the psychology behind informal power dynamics, how to be a more dominant male, the real importance of dominance in relationships,...

There is power in the masculine dark side— The thoughts, feelings, and instincts that don't fit in society's morality. But what is your dark side? How do you integrate the dark side in a healthy constructive way? Jung's “shadow” is the part of your psyche that you dissociated from, and therefore put it in the “dark”. Uncovering the dark masculine and shadow work requires looking at deep impulses a...

How powerful is language manipulation? I originally invited Joshua Lisec on to discuss writing, but we ended up speaking about his most recent book, Unhumans: The Secret History of Communist Revolutions. We discuss how philosophy shapes a society, the evolution of Marxism in society, soft vs hard power, dangers of far right and far left, and some interesting history nuggets of communist propaganda...

Is there a difference between Western vs. Eastern dating culture? Last time Hans Comyn was on the podcast he shared a controversial opinion that ruffled some listeners’ feathers— that Western men are better off dating non-Western women. We discuss this point of view and some key questions such as: Why is dating different in East vs West? Are men attracted to traditional women? Is choice of women r...

Why do we have resistance to certain goals? Especially the ones that are really important to us? This episode covers how to be passionate about your goals, especially if you have a pattern of putting them off. There is a relationship between emotional patterns and behavior, and we can reprogram these emotional patterns. 00:00 - Why do we have resistance to certain goals? 2:44 - What is passion act...

Guru Pashupati speaks on the philosophy behind hanuman, how to train on gada, and other life wisdom. 00:00 - Intro 01:12 - Spiritualism and Martial Arts 12:25 - Different Forms of Guru 13:46 - Life and Playfulness 16:00 - The role of money in our life 19:43 - Symbolism of Hindu Deity Hanuman 25:28 - Violence, Power and Domination 28:16 - Connection of Justice and Power 30:51 - The power of conserv...

The Magician Archetype is the part of your psyche that makes meaning, abstracts reality, and creates your life-- whether you take that literally or figuratively depends on your Magician. This episode covers "magic" in the creative process, the shadow aspects of the magician, the five stages of belief, the importance of the Fool archetype, hacking self-fulfilling prophecy, and how to become the mag...

The Warrior Archetype is the part of the psyche for overcoming obstacles and winning zero-sum competition. It's become the most suppressed aspect of masculinity in the modern era. Activate this archetype within you with the Masculine Archetype Challenge. Comes with a complementary coaching call with Ruwan: https://www.ruwando.com/archetype (Republish from 2020) Get full access to Ruwando Substack...

This book totally changed how I view human behavior, and perception of reality. I focus on the first 4 "non-spiritual" circuits of Timothy Leary & Robert Anton Wilson's circuit model. Republished from 2020. This is the episode that got my wife to like me. I'm still on paternity leave. New episodes coming in June. https://www.ruwando.com/archetype Psychophilosophy, quantumpsyc...

Men go through five distinct stages, each with their own drives, pitfalls, and keys to fulfillment. This episode covers each stage through the lenses of biology, psychology, mythology (Slave to King myth), and Nietzsche's Metamorphosis. Republishing this one as I wait for my next kid to pop. https://www.ruwando.com/archetype Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

The Road of Trials (Hero’s Journey) is a stage of life where the hero (you) are forced to engage in conflicts to gain power. In the movies, it’s the training montage between “All is lost” and “Apotheosis” (god mode). In real life, it signifies how you transform yourself during hard times. Road of Trials: Transform Yourself During Hard Times speaks about needing hard times in life, what to do when...

Modern society is amidst warfare of morals: Family vs. Globalism. Nature vs. Culture. Noah Revoy speaks on the war of perception and information, how part of taking responsibility as a man is in creating/building sovereignty for family, how to build a strong family culture, maintaining parent’s influence on your child, and protecting yourself via self-discipline as internal manipulation. noahrevoy...

What does it mean to “be the rock” in a relationship? Having a man you can depend on is something every woman wants. But what does that actually mean in practice? It’s a mistake if you think relationships are symmetrical. This episode starts with changing your perspective on relationship, why you shouldn’t depend on your woman, how to stay grounded in a relationship, and what it means to be the ro...

Can you prepare for fatherhood? Dan Doty from Fatherhood Unlocked speaks on how fatherhood is changing, how fatherhood shifts your focus in life, the importance of being a father, generational differences in upbringing, and other man stuff. I’m going to be having more dads on the podcast soon to discuss the importance of being a father. It is the King Archetype after all. Make sure you’re subscrib...

NPR recently wrote a piece criticizing p*rn abstinence as somehow misogynistic. I break down the positives and negatives of NoFap, and also how this piece of propaganda is a cultural attack on the male agency. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Tom Billinge and I speak on WarYoga, yoga's violent origins, the Rig Veda, Indian wrestling, martial arts and culture, masculine philosophy vs modernity, and different perspectives on "the gods" Tom is the author of WarYoga, WarYoga: Zurxane, Undying Glory, Age of Heroes. He's also a Muay Thai instructor and knows a lot about history and martial arts. Get full access to Ruwando S...