Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal

We've all said it: "That would be a deal breaker for me." But what happens when the thing you swore you'd never tolerate actually happens, and you find yourself still choosing to stay and work things out? In this episode, we're talking about deal breakers and non-negotiables in betrayal recovery, without the pressure to be tougher or to draw a harder line, and without telling...

When betrayal scrambles your sense of what's real, clarity can feel impossible. In this episode, I sit down with coach and master NLP practitioner Betsy Pake to talk about how women find their way back to their own truth when everything feels overwhelming. Betsy works with women navigating the painful question of whether to stay in or leave a marriage, and she brings a refreshingly non-prescri...

What if everything you've been taught about self-care is keeping you stuck? In this episode, we reframe self-care as what it actually is — compassionate, essential, and foundational to real healing — not a luxury spa day you earn after you're already burned out. If you've ever set aside a big block of "me time" only to feel like the whole day is ruined the moment it falls apa...

Bitterness after betrayal is one of the most misunderstood parts of the healing journey. In today’s episode, I sit down with Tesa Saulmon, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and founder of Root to Bloom Therapy, to have an honest, compassionate conversation about what bitterness really is, why "just forgive" can actually cause harm, and what the path fro...

Everyone talks about the crisis. Everyone talks about the breakthrough. But nobody talks enough about what happens in between — the messy middle of healing. In this solo episode, we are sitting down together to talk honestly about the messy middle of betrayal recovery. What it actually is, why it is so disorienting, what traps to avoid when you are in it, and what to actually do to keep moving for...

Most women healing from betrayal are told to think their way through it. But what if finding yourself again requires going somewhere deeper than your mind? In this episode, host Halle Roderick sits down with embodied integration coach Natasha Ramlall to explore why healing from betrayal is just as much a somatic process as it is a mental or emotional one — and what that actually looks like in prac...

Have you ever set a boundary — or tried to — and immediately felt like you were doing something wrong? You are not alone. And here's what most people don't tell you: that discomfort is not a sign you're doing it wrong. It's a sign you're doing something new . In this episode, we're digging into what boundaries actually are at a body level — not just as a concept to understa...

What does it look like when a mother and daughter do the healing work together? In this special episode, I'm joined by my daughters to pull back the curtain on the Becoming Together Mother-Daughter Retreat, an intimate gathering just outside Sedona, Arizona, designed for moms and daughters who are both actively doing their personal growth work and ready to bring it into their relationship. We...

In this episode, we explore one of the most overlooked patterns in betrayal trauma recovery: the subtle but powerful difference between caring and controlling. This episode unpacks the trauma-driven urge to manage a partner’s recovery after betrayal — and why trying to control the conditions of someone else’s healing can quietly disconnect you from your own. If you’ve been exhausted trying to hold...

This question has the power to change how you show up in your healing: "What message does the way I show up in my relationship give to my husband about the status of the relationship?" If you're healing from betrayal trauma, the honest answer to that question might be uncomfortable. In this episode of Rooted and Rising Healing , we're talking about one of the most important — and...

If you’ve been telling yourself “I should be able to handle this on my own” … this episode is for you. In betrayal trauma, it’s incredibly common to resist getting help—even when you’re overwhelmed, exhausted, and hurting. You may feel like asking for support means you’re weak… or that no one will truly understand what you’re going through. But what if that resistance isn’t strength… What if it’s...

What does hiking the Grand Canyon have to do with healing after betrayal? Everything. This week, your host takes you on a trail and shares the raw, powerful lessons mother nature herself taught her about recovery — and why your healing journey is less like a destination and more like the most important hike of your life.  After spending the weekend hiking the Grand Canyon, your host, Hali Roderick...

What if separation wasn’t the end of your marriage… but the beginning of safety? In this episode of the Rooted & Rising Healing Podcast , we’re talking about one of the most fear-filled topics for betrayed partners: Separation. Space. Taking time apart. For many women, even hearing the word separation triggers panic: Does this mean we’re done? Is divorce inevitable? If I ask for space, am I gi...

There’s a question I hear from betrayed women all the time: “Why can’t I just think my way out of this?” “I understand what happened.” “I know it wasn’t my fault.” “I’ve talked about it a hundred times…” So why does it still hurt? Why do you still feel triggered? Why does your body still feel like it’s living in the aftermath? In this episode of the Rooted & Rising Healing Podcast, we explore...

Betrayal isn’t just emotional — it’s physiological. After betrayal, many women describe feeling like they don’t recognize themselves anymore. Sleep is disrupted. Anxiety increases. Hormones feel off. Mood shifts. Energy drops. The body feels stuck in survival mode. Many begin to wonder… is this just stress, or is something actually happening in my body? In this episode, I’m joined by Family Nurse...

After betrayal, many women don’t fall apart… they step up. They become the strong one. The manager. The researcher. The emotional caretaker. The one holding everything together. But what if that “strength” is actually a trauma response? In this episode of the Rooted & Rising Podcast, we’re talking about overfunctioning after betrayal — the exhausting pattern of fixing, managing, monitoring, an...

Healing after betrayal is not a straight line — and in the beginning, it can feel like you’re drowning in shock, confusion, hypervigilance, and heartbreak. If you’re in the early days of betrayal trauma recovery (or even years into it), this episode is a gentle, grounded reminder that you are not crazy… you are responding to trauma. In today’s episode, I’m sharing some of the most important things...

Grief after betrayal doesn’t move in straight lines — and it doesn’t follow timelines or rules. In Part 2 of our grief cycle series, we explore the later phases of grief that often feel the most misunderstood, overwhelming, or shame-inducing after betrayal trauma: bargaining, anger, depression/mourning, and acceptance with meaning-making. Rather than seeing these stages as something to “get throug...

“You’re not broken. You’re in grief — and it’s showing up as survival.” In the aftermath of betrayal, most women don’t realize they’re grieving.  Why? Because it doesn’t look like death.  It looks like obsession. Shut down. Spinning. Anger. Numbness.  And no one talks about the real beginning of healing: naming what’s actually happening in your body. Stage 1 – SHOCK The initial discovery. You’re f...

One of the hardest parts of betrayal is grieving something no one else can see. This episode gently names the invisible grief of staying. Of still loving. Of rebuilding while still breaking. Because betrayal doesn’t just shatter trust — It shatters your future. Your story. Your sense of self. And no one brings you flowers for that. Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonat...

Betrayal trauma is often talked about as a couple’s crisis, but betrayal is never contained to the marriage alone. In this episode, Hali Roderick and her daughter Morgan Ellsworth explore the often-overlooked impact of parental betrayal on children and the entire family system. As both professionals in the betrayal trauma field, and as a mother and daughter who have lived this experience firsthand...

Trauma bonds are one of the most misunderstood concepts in healing and relationship conversations — and often one of the most painful to confront. In this episode, I’m joined by my friend and colleague Staci Somes , and together we slow this conversation way down. Rather than framing trauma bonds as weakness, addiction, or a failure to “just leave,” we explore what trauma bonds really are: a nervo...

After betrayal, many women find themselves asking, Why don’t I know what I need anymore? This episode explores why that loss of clarity isn’t a personal failure — it’s a nervous system response to relational trauma. When trust is broken, your body shifts into survival mode. Instead of tuning in to yourself, your system starts scanning for danger, trying to stay safe. Over time, this can make your...

In this special shared episode, Hali Roderick joins Amie Woolsey on the Empowered Divorce Podcast for a powerful conversation about betrayal trauma, the nervous system, and the role of somatic breathwork in healing what talking alone often can’t reach. Betrayal doesn’t just live in the story — it lives in the body. When shock, fear, rage, and heartbreak don’t get a chance to move through, they bec...

What does it really mean to stay grounded in yourself when you’re the one doing the emotional work in the relationship? In this episode, I’m joined by Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC - trauma-informed licensed professional counselor, coach, speaker, founder of Betrayal Healing and LiveFree Counseling, host of the annual Betrayal Healing Conference, and author of Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of He...