Rise Up Restored

Becky and Tiffany sit down with Beckie Hennessy, LCSW, to discuss the basics of boundaries. In essence, boundaries are simply what's okay and what's not okay for you. Beckie explains that boundaries are not telling someone else what they can or cannot do, nor are they to control, punish, influence the way someone feels, or hurt someone. In this episode, Beckie offers some sample narratives to use...

Becky, Tiffany, Autumn, and Becky's husband, Richard, sit down to discuss separations. Separations are often used when there's been a boundary violation, or simply to give one another space to breathe and reset. They can help with bottom lines and boundaries, and can be used to save the marriage, not always as a step toward divorce. The hosts agreed that there's a lot of surrender in the separatio...

Members of the podcast team, Becky, Autumn, and Tiffany sit down together to talk about Check-ins and answer anonymous questions.  They share their insights on what check-ins are, ways to check-in, learning to speak up for yourself, & trusting your gut.  They discuss the importance of vulnerability & connection, safety & intention.  Checking in with self, safe others, and God can strengthen healin...

Becky and Tiffany sit down with special guests, Ali and Anarie, to share their thoughts on dating with betrayal trauma. They discuss how to prepare to date, and agree that it's helpful to learn to be okay with being alone and not using dating in an attempt to fill a void. Although it can be difficult to begin dating again, Ali shares how she knows God will catch her and hold her when things get pa...

Becky and Tiffany sit down with Tiffany's son, Hunter. Hunter shares how engaging in therapy and extracurricular activities has helped him move through his experiences with his father living in addiction and mother in betrayal trauma. Realizing he's being greatly affected by things that aren't his fault has given Hunter permission to be vulnerable and learn to talk through issues—even when he does...

Becky and Tiffany sit down with Dan Drake, licensed clinician, CSAT-S, and CCPS-S, to talk about Disclosure and Polygraphs.  Dan believes that empowerment of the partner, honesty, and trust are foundational for the healing and recovery of both partner and addict.  Through the use of full therapeutic disclosure and polygraphs, Dan feels a new and better foundation can be laid to rebuild relationshi...

Becky and Tiffany sit down with TC to share her story. Married for twenty years, with 3 teens, TC and her husband are currently serving as coordinators for their area for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Addiction Recovery Program.  Her struggle with an eating disorder and her husband's gaslighting led her to doubt her intuition that there was something wrong in her marriage.  She s...

Becky, Autumn and Tiffany welcome back Jessica Holfeltz, LCMHC and Sex Therapist, to talk about pleasure and sexuality. Jessica shares that each of us has the right to feel pleasure, experience it, express it, ask for it. In order to address the stigma surrounding pleasure, we need to talk about it. She says that pleasure is joy and men and women are that they are to have joy. Jessica reminds us t...

Becky, Autumn and Tiffany sit down with Jessica Holfeltz, LCMHC and Sex Therapist, to talk about Healthy Sexuality.  Jessica says that one of her career passions is teaching the importance of sexual health, sexuality, and connection.  She shares and discusses the 6 foundational principles of healthy sexuality, including Consent, Non-exploitation, Honesty, Shared Values, Protection from STIs, HIV,...

Becky and Autumn sit down with Heidi to share her story.  Heidi shares how she has experienced restoration and healing through Christ amidst betrayal trauma. She is a divorced mom of three and discusses how isolated and alone she felt due to her now-ex-husband's behaviors surrounding pornography. Heidi explains how the connections made in support groups helped her understand boundaries and to take...

Becky and Autumn sit down with music therapist, Megan Ronnow. Megan shares how music therapy can help us change our behaviors as well as heal the body and mind. Megan describes how music therapy is helpful in easing anxiety, managing pain, and increasing mindfulness. It enhances quality of life and helps people stay in the present moment. Megan explains that music is powerful because it's a way of...

Becky and Autumn sit down with Ali to share her story. A lover of going to concerts and doing yardwork, Ali shares how her relationship with the Lord has been strengthened during her journey through betrayal trauma and her divorce. She talks about how, after learning of her husband's sex addiction ten years into their marriage, she felt both a great desire to lean on God and a great sense of anger...

Members of the podcast team, Becky, Tiffany, and Autumn sit down together to answer anonymous questions from listeners. They share their insights on the difference between surrender and "giving up" and their thoughts when the loved one is working recovery, but you no longer feel love.  They finish the podcast with their personal thoughts on LOVE.  Love for their kids, their loved ones (including a...

Becky and Tiffany sit down with Karen to share her story.  Karen helped in the development of the Healing Through Christ 12-Step program, is a mom of five and grandmother of seventeen.  She shares how her relationship with the Savior has been strengthened during her journey through betrayal trauma. She shares that after learning of her husband's sexually acting out behaviors during their twenty-fi...

Becky and Tiffany sit down with Anarie to share her story.  Anarie shares how her relationship with God has been strengthened during her journey through betrayal trauma and divorce. She talks about how she internalized the shame and damaging beliefs that are common with women who have been betrayed. Anarie shares that when her husband's years-long pornography use fully came to light and they event...

Becky, Tiffany, and Autumn come together to share their toolkits for transitioning into the new year.  Tiffany shares how she actively recognizes, shows gratitude for, and closes the previous year and how she welcomes in the new year.  Autumn shares a form her family fills out individually each year, she chooses a word for the upcoming year, and her idea to deep clean just one little area in her l...

Becky and Autumn sit down with Ryan Raleigh, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor. Ryan shares his personal and professional journey and insights about meditation.  He describes meditation as the process of "looking inward" at your body sensations, thoughts, images floating by, and what is happening all around you. Ryan says he is particularly interested in how meditation can heal trauma and...

It's our Holiday Questions and Answers 2020 podcast!  Members of the podcast team, Becky, Tiffany, and Autumn gather together virtually to answer anonymous questions from listeners. They share their individual thoughts and insights on navigating common holiday triggers, providing good holidays for children when betrayal trauma has happened, and surviving and thriving during family events when not...

Co-host Tiffany and special guest co-host, Beckie Hennessy, sit down with Becky, host of the Rise up Restored podcast, to revisit her story. Becky grew up in a very religious home where she tried hard to check all the boxes. She began dating her husband in high school, and he was upfront about his problem with pornography. However, after they married, this honesty from her husband did not fix the...

Becky and Tiffany sit down with mother of three, Kristi. After growing in her faith in her teens, she was assaulted in college. Due to this tragedy, she felt her subsequent marriage problems were her fault. After fifteen years of marriage, they divorced, and that's when Kristi finally learned of his infidelity. Since the divorce, her life has been filled with changes and challenges as she has work...

Hosts Becky and Tiffany sit down with Beckie Hennessy, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, for a Q&A session. They share their individual thoughts and insights on understanding the differences between a therapist and a coach, as well as information on full therapeutic disclosures. They finish by sharing their ideas on how to "call out or call in" when interacting with members of clergy who are not su...

Becky and Autumn sit down with Amy P. to share her story. A wife, mother, and grandmother, Amy shares she had a close connection to God growing up. She feels blessed to be able to love others and feels this gift has helped her through the hardships she has experienced. Amy shares that for over twenty years of their marriage, Amy and her husband were engaged in a dance of attempting recovery and he...

Members of the podcast team, Becky, Tiffany, and Autumn, sit down together to answer anonymous questions from listeners. They share their individual thoughts and insights on how to make peace with the addict's feelings of abandonment and the common use of excuses in recovery.  They continue by talking about how to "be there", in a healthy and safe way, for addicted loved ones.  And the team finish...

Becky and Kristy sit down with Amy R. who discusses how she discovered two-and-a-half years ago that her husband of eighteen years was struggling with pornography use. She describes her state of shock and the symptoms of betrayal trauma she experienced. Although her husband confessed everything and they sought help right away, there were many layers to work through. Amy feels her husband had compa...

Becky and Tiffany sit down with Sariah Hoffman, a yoga therapist in Lehi, Utah. Sariah shares how her work in helping those suffering from betrayal trauma has changed her life. As someone who suffered from betrayal trauma, she learned years ago that the definition of yoga is the cessation of the fluctuation of the mind. If she could breathe, focus, and see things clearly, she began to see herself....