Rise Up Restored

The Rise Up Restored Podcast Christmas Gift this year is an episode on self-compassion! Tiffany and Becky are joined by licensed and experienced therapist Shelley Dunford-Hardy. Shelley's Master's degrees in Clinical Psychology and Spiritual Psychology have brought greater focus on self-compassion as an important tool in her work as a therapist. Shelley shares how research has shown that the most...

Becky and Tiffany sit down with Keara to share her story of betrayal trauma and healing. Keara shares how her husband disclosed his porn use seven years into their marriage. Every disclosure had her forgiving him instantly and spending all her energy trying to make their home environment tidy and calm. After one particularly painful disclosure, she found she didn't have it in her to forgive. "I wa...

After many requests from listeners, hosts Becky, Autumn, and Tiffany come together to check-in on how they are really doing in their personal healing journeys.  They share what they have learned, how they have changed, and how they are still struggling.  This episode is a beautiful reminder of the power of self-awareness, physical self-care, and being gentle with ourselves, with some important rem...

Becky and Tiffany are joined by Tara, the daughter of a sex addict and a betrayed spouse.  She is the Executive Director of S.A. Lifeline, which provides resources for addicts and those experiencing betrayal trauma. Tara shares that she was a long-time believer in God at her core, but that her black and white thinking led her to feel God's love was conditional. Tara shares the difficulty that came...

Becky and Tiffany sit down with Andi to share her story of betrayal trauma and healing.  Andi shares how her husband's porn use didn't stop after marriage like she thought it would. She spent the next several years battling the feeling of not being enough, and in an attempt to mitigate the chaos her husband's up and down emotions brought in the home, Andi fought hard to stay even keeled in her own...

Josh Walpole, Associate Clinical Mental Health Counselor, joins our hosts to discuss 12-Step Groups and how they can support healing and work synergistically with therapy.  He shares the basics of the 12 Steps, attending meetings, self-care in meetings, sponsors, surrender, and the "spiritual therapy" that is 12-Step.  Josh shares that just like the origins of 12-Step, you can address every angle...

Becky and Autumn sit down with Candy to share her story of betrayal trauma and healing. After about six years of marriage, Candy's husband told her he had a pornography problem. Candy explains that it was difficult at first to see the link between the porn and their lack of connection. Over time, she realized that, because of the betrayal trauma, she didn't trust herself or her decisions.  To Cand...

Todd Olsen LCSW, co-founder of LifeStar and clinical director of Circles of Grace (formerly LifeStar Salt Lake), joins our hosts to discuss Polyvagal Theory and how it applies to Betrayal Trauma. Learning about the nervous system is helpful to increase compassion for oneself, and to increase respect for others working through trauma. Todd walks the hosts through a set of exercises to help identify...

"Music gives soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." -Plato Welcome to Part 2 of sharing the Music of Our Hearts!  We are excited to share from members of the Rise Up Restored team (including voices you have never heard!) some of their favorite songs and how they have helped them on their healing journeys!!   Tiffany's song- Known by Tauren Wells...

"Music acts like a magic key, to which the most tightly closed heart opens."  – Maria von Trapp Part 1 of sharing the Music of Our Hearts!   Members of the Rise Up Restored team (including voices you have never heard!) share some of their favorite songs and how they have helped them on their healing journeys!   Autumn song- Climb by Adona Tiffany song- Just Like Fire by P!nk Deborah song- I Believ...

Becky and Tiffany talk with Heather, whose close connection with God started as a young child and continued throughout her younger years. After marrying her life-long friend, Heather was shocked when he lost his job because of an undisclosed pornography addiction. Over the next 15 years, Heather felt increasingly isolated and broken as she was cut off from family and friends.  Shame, depression, a...

Becky and Autumn sit down with Amy Claire to share her story of betrayal trauma and healing. After discovering that her husband of thirteen years had been hiding being gay and his years-long, widespread betrayal, Amy Claire explains the gut-wrenching pain she experienced. She took a break from God and from her religion as she realized her whole marriage had been a lie. Not having the tools to reco...

Becky and Tiffany sit down with special guest Sarah Morales, a Certified Life and Relationship Coach, to share her work and research on Gaslighting. Sarah discusses what gaslighting is and how to know if it's happening in our relationships. She also shares her three-pronged approach to help get unstuck, a list of common red flags, and that finding trusted support people is key to moving through th...

For our 50th episode, hosts Becky, Autumn, and Tiffany sit down to reflect on "Where God Shows Up" in their healing journey.  They share their experiences of looking for the light, recognizing earthly angels, learning about and healing their relationship with the Lord, and EXPECTING miracles, even in the hard times.  God is not just watching on the sidelines.  He is involved!  ***We hope that we l...

Becky and Tiffany sit down with Emily to share her story of betrayal trauma and healing. After discovering her husband's porn usage early on in their marriage, Emily explains that she lived in a state of denial and isolation. It wasn't until ten years later, when her husband confessed to a porn addiction and escalating behaviors, that she began attending addiction recovery meetings and found conne...

Hosts Becky, Autumn, and Tiffany sit down to discuss Shame as a betrayed loved one.  A big part of an addict's work is to address and deal with shame.  But shame is rarely addressed in the healing process for betrayed loved ones, even though shame is something that keeps loved ones stuck, too.  Why?  We can talk about shame and we are going to today!  The hosts discuss the difference between guilt...

Autumn and Becky sit with Nicole to hear her story. Nicole shares that her sheltered upbringing led to naivety regarding sex and pornography, and when her husband shared he had "problems" that they were uncomfortable talking about them. Following an experience that prompted her to lean into a closer relationship with her Savior, Nicole's world was rocked by her husband's "atomic bomb" disclosure o...

Becky and Tiffany talk with Sandy about her story. Sandy talks about how she grew up dabbling in religion and that she can look back and see God present and waiting for her to embrace Him. Coming from divorced homes, when she married they prioritized God and a healthy relationship so as to avoid divorce. About two decades into their marriage, they purchased a farm and operated a business together....

Becky and Autumn sit down with Rachel to share her story. Rachel shares her journey with betrayal trauma and her subsequent healing after many years of anger and pain. Although she'd always known God was there for her, it wasn't until wanting to divorce her husband that she began a true wrestle and companionship with God. During her two-year separation from her husband, Rachel describes the darkne...

Becky and Tiffany sit down with Brianna to share her story. Brianna talks about feeling unworthy of God's love throughout her childhood. Brianna shares how her relationship with God became strained during her first marriage due to her husband's sex addiction and how she was treated. After moving on and meeting her second husband, a sex addict who was open about his addiction, Brianna had an experi...

At this Christmas season, Becky, Tiffany, and Autumn sit down to share one of their favorite things- The "Heart of a Woman" Retreat.   This retreat has been one of the most impactful resources in their individual healing journeys and brought healing to their relationships with God.  The team shares what happens at retreat (hint: it's not a therapeutic retreat led by therapists), their favorite par...

Becky, Autumn, and Tiffany sit down to discuss one of the biggest questions they get- "Is It Me?".  Many people (including the hosts) have wondered if their loved one's actions are their fault or if they caused them. The hosts share their thoughts about responsibility, accountability, boundaries, and recognizing the importance of showing up for yourself.  So, in the end, "Is it you, folks"?  Nope....

Becky and Autumn sit down with Jeni G. to share her story.  Jeni works as a therapist in Arizona and started her blog "Eat My Scabs" in 2012 chronicling her journey of betrayal trauma. She talks about discovering her husband's acting out and pushing back against a therapist when asked to take responsibility for his acting out.  Leaning into her body through yoga and wrestling to trust God again ha...

Becky and Autumn sit down with Erin to share her story. Erin shares how she has worked through many years of betrayal trauma in her marriage. In the first few years after finding out about her husband's pornography addiction, Erin explains how she closed her heart off to everyone, even God. During this dark time, she nearly divorced and was left with many wounds from her husband's deception as wel...

Hosts Becky and Tiffany sit down with Magda to hear her story of betrayal trauma. Magda shares how she knew of her boyfriend's porn problem before they began dating, but it wasn't until four years of staggered disclosures and sifting through her own denial that she saw how destructive these patterns were to their relationship. She shares how she "felt crazy" during this time and didn't understand...