Reset With Renee

Gen X ·   "I dug deep, paid my dues, do what’s expected of me, absorb expectations– any other way is soft”.  ·    Where is the resilience, discipline of younger generations? ·    Stuck between boomers & younger generations – doesn’t feel fair ·   Dealing with ageism Younger Generation s are challenging the Status Quo .  ·   Why devote all of me to a company that will betray me?  ·   Cultu...

GenX often feels a "rub" in parenting & in their profession or work life. GenX is the first generation to raise children in a child “centric” way.  Previously, children were to be “seen & not heard”.  GenX didn’t have access to social media or the internet, so they were not as educated or aware of differences outside of their environment. GenX takes pride in their work ethic &amp...

Common Mistakes My Clients Make (With or Without CPTSD) 1.    Making decisions or interacting with others from a place of HURT 2.    Making decisions or interacting with others from a place of PROTECTIVE PARTS Do You Do This? Listen to find out if you engage in a power struggle between your parts & theirs. Stop the Fawn/Collapse or FLIP Many people on a healing journey have “go to” nervous sys...

What is the common denominator in my work with clts? ·     Attachment vs authenticity & imperfect caregiving ·    Nervous system regulation 4 Fs & window of tolerance & polyvagal ladder ·   Protective Parts & Wounded Parts ·   Room to develop connection to self & others ·   Integration & connection b/w mind, body, heart, spirit, soul, & universe A CPTSD survivor has to...

This is so common. People change over time & when one partner "awakens" to a healing journey, it prompts the other partner to stay with the status quo, "I am the way that I am" OR lean into an assessment of the relationship & their life satisfaction. You can both decide to grow & the relationship could grow or one or both could decide the relationship is no longer a...

IFS “this is what I’ve been searching for” full body chills – I want this!  Talk therapy wasn’t enough. Overview of the model Self energy 8 Cs : confidence, calmness, creativity, clarity, curiosity, courage, compassion, and connectedness. 5Ps patience, perspective, presence, playfulness and persistenc      Exiles/YWP - "I hurt" Protective parts (managers & firefighters): I must/won’t...

Power is useful, a resource; & can be used for good or to cause hurt or harm.  This episode applies to all relationships in your life.  The goal is to be in right relationship with others, each person in their personal power. If something feels “off” check to see if there is a power struggle, hustle, or leak.  1.   Victim, Perpetrator, Rescuer triangle – know what it is & how to get off it...

For communication to go well: 1.  Capacity - Each person needs to have the time, space, energy, & privacy needed to be present, attuned, engaged, regulated, & able to self soothe. 2.  Having clarity of intention – is this about increasing intimacy through shared vulnerability; is it about addressing differences/pragmatics, is it about asserting boundaries, asking for pragmatic help of need...

INTIMACY = “Into ME” “I see” For intimacy you would need the following ingredients, steps, or skills: 1. Self-awareness: what’s happening inside/outside 2 . Self-reflection: what’s working/not working 3. Self-regulation: How to down regulate or up regulate Differentiation, Self regulation, & Attachment - Ability to hold onto Self (David Schnarch, author of Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Pas...

1. Acronyms ANXIETY DRIVEN Forget/Fuck Everything And Run False Evidence Appearing Real False Emotions Appearing Real (seeing the world through defensive frames) EMPOWERMENT DRIVEN Face Everything And Rise (note & drop the story, note the facts or problem, what is here now, what’s possible) 2. Fear creates discomfort, conflict or conflict avoidance, “anxiety”/non-neutral energy & power str...

WHY DREAMS MATTERS 1. Dreams for Self · Are wishes, hopes, & aspirations you have for your life, are a part of your identity, & give purpose & meaning to your life. · Dreams like values & rituals, help anchor & reinforce our connections. · They are allowed to change or evolve. What were your dreams when you were a child, a teen, getting married, retiring? 2. Dreams with Others...

TAKE 3 on the KAP podcast recording.... Progress NOT Perfection:  some audio & editing issues exist but I wanted to share & move on...!   Renee with @ResetWithRenee discusses her KAP (Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy) experience in Boulder at IPI in December 2022 & shares an overview of the year-long IPI training she is completing.   @IntegrativePsychiatryInstitute ...

What does it mean to ' RESET "?   The end of the year is great time to reflect on what to: keep loosen, relax, or let go add to or expand  set as intentions for the upcoming year     My clients hire me to guide them on their journey when they are invited by life to RESET from "coping" to "healing".  It can be hard work ( I know ) & yet so worth it!    A...

BIDS : TOWARDS, AWAY, AGAINST or if not responded to a person will PROTEST. If bids or protest are NOT met: RUPTURE.  Repair is needed. Without repair, people LEARN TO DISCONNECT. If this pattern of disconnection becomes habituated people learn:  NOT TO TRUST -  1) SELF 2) OTHERS 3) "THE WORLD" This all relates to developed ATTACHMENT STYLE.  In the absence of relational repair...

Listen to learn how different generations approach mental health.   You will learn that connection is the medicine for many physical & mental health challenges.   Knowing how do connect from a place of regulation, not reactivity, is key.   How do you & your family do with that?   Notice with curiosity & compassion (and without judgment) this holiday season...what wo...

Issues of power & control are threaded throughout the fabric of our relationships & systems.  Increasing awareness of the coercive control dynamic is a first step in individual, relational, & collective growth.  Safe homes, families, communities, & systems depend upon this collective understanding.  Listen to learn more about this relevant topic.     Q...

In this episode, Renee speaks with Jason Mark Glasson about how he has learned to live from his heart & how he brings his learning & experience to helping others. Currently, Jason works with men who feel a connection to their soul, know they are meant for more, yet find themselves not living a life they truly love. Jason guides them to align head and heart, connect to the wisdom of their h...

Episode 5: WEEKLY SNAPSHOT (10/11/22) 1. Right Relationship 1. Do not Under or Overuse of power 2. Use your voice grounded in your truth 3. With kindness & clarity 4. Without judgment 5. No intensity/drama Really hard for trauma survivors to set boundaries without being critical/too much or under-boundaried 2. Podcasts (see links at bottom) 1. Joe Rogan & Gabor Mate 2. Transforming Trauma...

Conflict is inevitable in relationships but many people don’t know how to handle it. Listen to learn how your nervous system, attachment style, & personality can block repair attempts. Becoming self led is an important relationship skill!

Are you led by fear or love? Listen for an opportunity to increase your connection & grow your EI.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-state-our-unions/202208/the-rise-lonely-single-men The Rise of Lonely, Single Men Dating apps and a drastically changing relationship landscape. Posted August 9, 2022 This article is active today on media & presents an opportunity for discussion of relational skills for all & especially for men.   Key points: 1. Intimacy = “into me I see” 2. HOW (Honest,...

About your host & the intention of this podcast….CPTSD, narcissistic abuse recovery. How to live, lead, & love with a whole heart….