Reflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne Hartnell

Send us Fan Mail There's no denying that divorce is challenging. And when you're divorcing someone who is high-conflict or narcissistic, the challenges are next level and can feel relentless. In this first of a two part series, I offer you some tips and strategies for dealing with a toxic, high-conflict or narcissistic ex during your divorce and beyond. Part 2 to follow Book a free intro...

Send us Fan Mail Dating After Divorce - How To Know You're Ready... Or Not. Key signs you're ready (or not) to step out into the world of dating after a breakup, separation or divorce. Tune in for: How you know you're ready to date again. Questions to ask yourself before you launch yourself out into the world of dating after divorce. My 2 rules for dating after divorce. Download my...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I chat with Danielle Zetzer, founder and principal of specialist family law firm Respect Legal. Dani has the superpower of helping people feel like anything is possible. A powerhouse collaborative family lawyer, she puts her neck out on a daily basis to change systems through a bold, unconventional and social impact approach to  the law.  She (not unlike me) isn&a...

Send us Fan Mail So, your ex (or soon-to-be-ex) is speaking badly about you to your kids. Unfortunately it's not uncommon for an ex or co-parent to speak a little more frankly or openly with the kids than is necessary. What can you do if your ex is badmouthing you or speaking badly about you to your kids? In this episode I talk through: What badmouthing is and what it can look like (it's...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode I share the FIRST THING you should do if your partner tells you they've been having an affair and they are leaving, or that they want a divorce. I was asked this question in an interview recently and my answer may come as a surprise. I share the first thing I believe you should do in this situation - the first thing anyone should do if the "divorce"...

Send us Fan Mail How to know you've healed from your divorce? Healing after divorce isn't a linear pathway. Whether you chose your divorce or it was a decision made for you that you could not control, there is grieving, processing and healing to be done. In this episode I talk through 15 signs that you've healed - or are healing - after your divorce. This is for you if you are: Thin...

Send us Fan Mail Communicating on a regular basis with someone you’d rather never see or speak to again is pretty tricky, but this is what many of you will have to do, or are already doing after you’ve divorced or separated. Communicating with your ex if they are high-conflict toxic or narcissistic is particularly challenging. In this episode I step you through one key strategy you can use to comm...

Send us Fan Mail Will Divorce and Moving Between Two Homes Damage Your Kids? My daughter's lived experience. In this extra special episode of the podcast, I chat with my daughter Eva about her memories, reflections and experience as the child of divorced parents and moving between two homes. I ask her: What she remembers about our divorce What we did well as divorced parents What she wishes w...

Send us Fan Mail Healing After Divorce - are you seeking closure or validation? In this episode I explore the concept of seeking closure after divorce or betrayal. What's underlying our need to want or to seek closure? Are we looking for closure? Or are we actually seeking validation and permission to feel? Validation of our experience and permission to feel or react however we choose. Anothe...

Send us Fan Mail Reclaim YOU and rebuild your life after divorce with this sneak peek into one of the exact processes I use in my work as a divorce coach. In this episode I step you through one of the processes I use with my 1:1 clients to reflect, reclaim and liberate them after divorce. It's an invitation and a behind the scenes look at how I can support you through your divorce and to recl...

Send us Fan Mail Working with me is an investment. Time. Energy. And money.  Coaching is a significant financial commitment and investment.  And the ROI is significant. In this episode I talk you through the cost of NOT working with a divorce coach and share some of the ways I’ve saved my clients thousands. The average hourly rate for a family lawyer is $500, and can be as high as $1000. Yes, real...

Send us Fan Mail Divorce. Separation. Splitting your assets and money. Reorganising your kids' lives in two homes.  Co-parenting.  The family law stuff. It's hard. There’s no denying it.  Whether you chose it.  Whether it was a mutual decision or you’ve been blindsided.  Whether it’s as amicable and co-operative and respectful as it can be OR if it’s higher conflict and getting nasty… DI...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I talk you through 6 key things you need to survive divorce. And yes, you may well need legal & financial advice. You might need a real estate agent or mortgage broker. Yes, you'll need to have some hard conversations with your ex and maybe your kids and... These 6 things underpin everything when it comes to what you need to not only survive your divorce,...

Send us Fan Mail Whether you're wondering whether to stay or leave a relationship or marriage, or you're in the middle of your divorce, it can be hard to see a light at the end of what can be a really long tunnel. In this episode I share 20 things my divorced clients (and I) want you to know about life on the other side of divorce. Let these things pull you forward on the hard days. Let...

Send us Fan Mail MONEY & DIVORCE One of the biggest barriers women (especially but not exclusively) face when leaving a relationship or marriage is financial.  Not having full visibility or access to money and financial resources of the relationship.  Not having the freedom to spend or invest in an exit plan or strategy.  Fear of the unknown if you leave.  Fear of the financial implications of...

Send us Fan Mail In Part 1 of this 2 part episode, I step you through a number of divorce mistakes that I regularly see made, why you can't afford to make them, and what to do instead. Seeking some more support? Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS   Book your FREE INTRO CALL directly in my calendar Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a free intro call Fr...

Send us Fan Mail In Part 2 of this highly requested episode, I step you through a number of divorce mistakes that I regularly see made,  why you can't afford to make them, and what to do instead. Seeking some more support? Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS Book your FREE INTRO CALL call directly in my calendar. Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist How you can work with me Book a fre...

Send us Fan Mail The Biggest Mistakes You Can Make in your Divorce In this episode I discuss 4 of the BIG mistakes I see people (not my clients, of course 😉) make in divorce. And, they may surprise you. Divorce mistakes are costly in terms of money, time and energy so avoiding these key mistakes can save you. Time. Effort. Energy. Emotion. And money. Listen to this episode so you don't make...

Send us Fan Mail Living together apart. Living with your ex after separation. Separated but living under the same roof. As I predicted back in January,  this is becoming increasingly common for many couples right now.  Due to rising costs of living, interest rate rises, mortgage repayments and the rental "crisis" more separated couples are finding themselves living together while they na...

Send us Fan Mail You want to leave but... Your marriage feels hard... You think it's over and you want to leave but... In this episode I share with you: Some things to consider if you want to leave or your marriage / relationship feels hard Decision paralysis vs the dangers of jumping to the end The difference between healthy challenge or the right kind of "hard" & unhealthy &qu...

Send us Fan Mail All relationships go through seasons (there's a whole other episode of the podcast on exactly that- search the podcast to listen) And all relationships have seasons where they feel hard or challenging If you're in a struggling relationship, asking the hard questions, or unpacking a relationship after separation or divorce, wondering where it all went wrong, this episode...

Send us Fan Mail What does a divorce coach actually DO? What do you actually DO? I share with you a recent conversation with my 84 year old Dad, where I explain what I do and yes, how it relates to football. If you've enjoyed today's episode, please rate & review the podcast to help others find it. Or share it with someone you know who might need to hear it. Explore my COACHING PROGR...

Send us Fan Mail In episode I welcome Dr Emma Fulu to discuss marriage, divorce, relationships and feminism. We discuss: The impact of gender on our experience of both marriage & divorce How feminism can change the way we experience marriage, relationships & divorce & whether it can, in fact save us. Whether as mothers we can "have it all" And why "staying because of the...

Send us Fan Mail DECLUTTERING AFTER DIVORCE Divorce is hard. It's painful and challenging. It means loss & grief BUT... there are also gifts that come as a result. One of the unexpected gifts of divorce can be the gift of DECLUTTERING. Choosing what we keep. What we release. What we shed. What we get rid of. There's stuff to declutter. There's relationships, friendships, people...

Send us Fan Mail Bird Nesting after divorce - what it is and how best to make it work for your family. In this episode of Reflect Reclaim & Liberate I step you through: What a Bird Nesting parenting arrangement is When it works best (and when it might not) Tips to help you Bird Nest successfully after divorce The challenges of Bird Nesting Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS   UNRAVEL - self-paced mu...