Reflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne Hartnell

Send us Fan Mail The reason I travel alone has nothing to do with not having a partner or people to go with. It's something else entirely. In this episode I'm sharing the three parts of a recent trip. 1. A retreat with extraordinary women led by my business coach Robyn Gooding 2. Time with my daughter Eva, and  3. The stretches where it was just me. Each one taught me something different...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode I'm joined by Emma Wright - feminist health coach, certified cognitive behavioural and intuitive eating coach, and author of Body Confident - for a conversation I've wanted to have for a long time. Because Emma and I work with essentially the same woman. In my world, she's capable, successful, has built a great life on paper... and yet she's sta...

Send us Fan Mail Want more? Feel like where you are, what you have, the life you're living is not quite "it"? Wanting more than what you have? That doesn’t make you wrong or flawed or mean you’re asking too much. It’s information.  You inner knowing pointing you toward what's true, what's right, and what your life is actually asking for. This episode goes deep on what&apos...

Send us Fan Mail This episode is for the 2am version of you. The one feeling like everything is coming apart and wondering when it's going to stop. This isn't a quick fix or a pep talk but simply a different way of understanding what's actually happening when you fall apart.  Because maybe it's not what you think it is. Maybe you're not falling apart. Maybe you're fal...

Send us Fan Mail If you've been waiting... To feel ready, for the fear to pass, for someone to show you the way this episode is going to land somewhere uncomfortable. And then, hopefully, somewhere freeing. Sallyanne talks about the quiet story so many carry through asking questions about a relationship, separation or divorce: that when things settle, when they feel stronger, when someone sho...

Send us Fan Mail Divorce is not the worst thing that has or could happen to you. But maybe staying is. What if divorce isn't the tragedy in your story? What if it's the turning point? In this episode, Sallyanne explores one of the most confronting reframes in her work that for many, the marriage ending wasn't (just) loss. It was the beginning. This isn't toxic positivity. It&ap...

Send us Fan Mail There's a kind of loneliness that comes with divorce. During it. Afterwards. And sometimes, before you've even left your marriage. It's the kind nobody warns you about. Not the dramatic, crying-on-the-couch kind. A more subtle, insidious kind. One that's slow and sustained. The kind that sneaks in over months and starts to convince you - quietly, stealthily - t...

Send us Fan Mail For anyone navigating separation, divorce, or parenting and rebuilding life afterwards, there is so very much uncertainty. The legal process. The financial picture. The parenting rhythm. Even your sense of identity This episode is about finding - or creating - a sense of peace when everything else seems uncertain. When the ground feels like it's moving underneath your feet, a...

Send us Fan Mail If you've been stuck in the loop (should I stay, should I go, is this all there is) this episode is for you. I want to tell you about a woman I know. She's self-aware, thoughtful, doing her best, doing the work.. And she cannot bring herself to make the call, even though some quiet part of her already has. I see her constantly in my work. Different names, different stori...

Send us Fan Mail There's a pattern that shows up across almost every stage of the divorce journey - in those questioning whether to stay or leave, those in the thick of it, and even those rebuilding on the other side. It's a quiet, self-protective voice that whispers: what's the point? In this episode, Sallyanne unpacks the psychology behind that voice: why we sacrifice our own hope...

Send us Fan Mail Living Together Apart — The Identity Episode Living Together Apart is one of the hardest configurations of separation  and one of the least talked about when it comes to the inner experience. The logistics? We've covered those. But the identity disorientation? The strange grief of proximity? The quiet way you starts to come back to yourself even in the in-between limbo that i...

Send us Fan Mail Have You Outsourced Your Decision-Making? Learning to trust your own decisions again. In this episode of Reflect Reclaim & Liberate , divorce coach and strategist Sallyanne Hartnell explores one of the most overlooked challenges of post-divorce life: learning to trust your own decisions again. After years in a relationship - consciously or not - many have outsourced their deci...

Send us Fan Mail This episode isn't the easiest listen, but the key messages are important. If you're navigating divorce, separation, or even just sitting with the question of what comes next, these five truths are the ones I see come up again and again with my clients.  And I'm sharing them, not to make the process harder, but to stop you from making it longer than it needs to be....

Send us Fan Mail This episode started with a small, ordinary moment — someone I love asking me to write down the recipes I've cooked for my family across the years. The problem? Most of them don't really exist. Not properly. They've always been instinct. Memory. A bit of this, a bit of that. Adjusted every time. And it got me thinking about life after divorce. Because we carry this...

Send us Fan Mail We talk a lot about what we become after divorce. Stronger. More independent. A "new version" of ourselves. But what if the real shift isn't about becoming anything at all? In this episode I reflect on something that doesn't get talked about enough. The quiet, sometimes disorienting process of unbecoming.  Shedding the roles you played. The expectations you car...

Send us Fan Mail There comes a moment in many relationships when you ask yourself: “Am I ever going to be enough for them?” It’s not always about insecurity or worthiness. Sometimes, it’s about exhaustion. Exhaustion from trying harder. Exhaustion from hoping you’ll be met. Doing all the emotional labour. From reshaping yourself to make the relationship work. For years, we can bend, accommodate, a...

Send us Fan Mail A guided companion to help you disentangle after divorce. Loosen attachment, ease your anxiety around decisions - those already made or yet to be made - reclaim yourself, and move forward with clarity. You don’t have to “get over” your ex.  You don’t have to force "closure". You’re not doing it wrong, or behind. Sometimes the best way to move forward is to ask better que...

Send us Fan Mail When the relationship is over but the attachment isn’t - and why it’s harder than you think, even if you chose it. Why is it so hard to move on after divorce, even when you know it was the right decision? Why do you still miss them… question yourself… replay the good moments… or wonder if you made a mistake? In this episode, we explore the emotional reality no one prepares you for...

Send us Fan Mail COURAGE. CONNECTION. JOY. What happens when you step outside your comfort zone can transform your post-divorce life more than any legal document or co-parenting plan ever could.  In this episode of RR&L , I share a personal story of stepping outside my comfort zone, into new spaces, meeting strangers, and discovering the connection, joy, and possibility that waits on the other...

Send us Fan Mail Leaving a long-term relationship is more than just a breakup. It’s a complete reset.  You’ve invested years of your life - and now you’re navigating a new space, a new version of life, unsure who you are without them. In this episode, we talk about the hard truths of starting over: The emotions no one warns you about Rediscovering your identity and reclaiming your life What it rea...

Send us Fan Mail You can be deeply hurt and still have work to do.  Even if your partner left, had an affair, blindsided you, or if you were the one who chose to end the relationship, even if you know it was the right choice. In this episode, we talk about what radical personal responsibility really means, why it doesn’t equal blame or shame, and how facing your own patterns can free you from repe...

Send us Fan Mail NB - language warning for this one. There’s a few F💣 In this episode, I share a client story about what happened when an unexpected message from an ex arrived around Christmas, and tipped something she thought was healed. I share the process we used together to slow it down, name what had been activated, and write a response that was honest rather than “nice.” I talk through: Why...

Send us Fan Mail In this final episode of the year, I’m sharing a powerful set of reflection questions to help you look back with compassion, honour your growth, and step into 2026 with clarity and intention. Whether you’re navigating separation, divorce, co-parenting, identity shifts, or simply a season of change, these reflecton prompts will help you understand yourself more deeply, release what...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we explore the moment you quietly realise you can’t carry the relationship alone anymore. You’ll hear:  • What the “quiet exit” actually looks like  • How belief without change becomes burnout  • Why hope without action becomes a cage  • The moment you stop trusting in his potential and start loving yourself more  • What to do when you’ve been over-functioning to...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Sallyanne talks about the activating or triggering comments that can come your way during separation or divorce. Even before you separate.  You’ll learn practical, grounded ways to respond (rather than react) without spiralling, without defending yourself, and without giving away your power. We explore:  • Why these comments land so deeply  • How to separate their...