Reflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne Hartnell

Send us Fan Mail Things I’ve Learned Solo Travelling Since My Divorce Solo travel after divorce hits differently. It’s equal parts freedom and fear, excitement and vulnerability. You’re no longer part of a “we,” and sometimes, that absence echoes but there’s also something quietly powerful about that. You’re choosing yourself. Your own adventure. Your own rhythm. In this episode I share a few thin...

Send us Fan Mail What I Know About Divorce Now, That You Can't Know Yet. In this episode, I share everything I know about life after divorce that you simply can’t know until you live it. My own lived experience and that of my clients. From the duality of grief and gratitude, to the quiet freedoms and small joys that only come when you reclaim your life, this is a reflection on integration, se...

Send us Fan Mail Are you wondering whether to stay in your relationship? Or thinking about finally leaving your marriage? Often my clients come to me questioning “good enough” relationships where nothing feels catastrophically or dramatically wrong, but something still feels off. In this episode, I lead you through 10 powerful questions designed to help you see clearly whether your relationship is...

Send us Fan Mail Navigating separation, uncertainty, and emotional overload during the holidays — without guilt, shame, or pressure. The holidays are supposed to be a wonderful joyful time of the year. But what if your relationship is falling apart, already over, or hanging by a thread? In this episode, Sallyanne talks honestly about the emotional weight of Christmas when you’re navigating separat...

Send us Fan Mail Wondering whether to stay or leave a marriage? Thinking about separation or divorce? When you’re sitting in uncertainty, it’s easy to overthink. To rely on our head to bring us to a decision. But clarity doesn’t come from thinking harder. It comes from alignment. In this episode, Sallyanne unpacks the three decision centres - the head, the heart, and the gut - and shares a simple...

Send us Fan Mail Clarissa Rayward is a wife, mum to two, accredited specialist family lawyer, and lover of chocolate, coffee, and anything colourful and also the Director of Brisbane Family Law Centre, a multidisciplinary practice where lawyers work alongside counsellors and financial experts to provide holistic support to clients navigating divorce and separation. Connect with Clarissa: Website I...

Send us Fan Mail Thinking you "should" be over it by now? You're not behind or doing things wrong. Your nervous system just hasn’t caught up yet. In this episode, I share why healing from divorce, infidelity or separation takes more than time, and what your body actually needs to feel safe again. Drawing from neuroscience and nervous system wisdom, I explore how you can start giving...

Send us Fan Mail Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban’s relationship has been splashed across headlines lately, with speculation about separation, divorce, and division of assets. But... their relationship - whether they stay together, separate, or divorce - is none of our business. And yet, the way the media frames these stories reveals how we expect divorce to look: messy, high conflict, destructive. B...

Send us Fan Mail Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of intimate partner violence and abusive relationships. Please take care while listening. In this powerful and tender conversation, I’m joined by Cat Dunn award-winning OBM, mentor, speaker, and founder of Life After I Left . Cat shares her lived experience of leaving an abusive relationship and the deep healing journey that follow...

Send us Fan Mail Parallel parenting after divorce is approach for separated parents who struggle with high conflict, dysfunctional interactions or communication breakdowns. In this episode, Sallyanne breaks down what parallel parenting is, who it benefits, and how to put it into practice. We will explore the advantages for you and your children, practical strategies to make it work, and how this a...

Send us Fan Mail Discover how personal stylist Lisa Stockman helps people through life’s biggest transitions - from divorce to dating again - with styling that rebuilds confidence, identity, and ease. In this episode, I welcome back Lisa, for a deeper conversation about how style can anchor us through life’s biggest changes. Lisa has been styling people of all different shapes, sizes, life stages,...

Send us Fan Mail Most people imagine co-parenting as two exes attending school events together, making decisions hand-in-hand, and communicating smoothly. But for many separated parents, that ideal isn’t realistic or possible, and forcing it can actually increase conflict and stress. In this episode, I bust common myths about co-parenting, explain why what you think you know might be wrong, and sh...

Send us Fan Mail Starting over after separation or divorce often means rethinking not just your love life, but your career too.  In this episode, I’m joined by Career & Life Coach Annique Teycheney to explore why job hunting feels a lot like dating - and why the key to both is knowing yourself first. We talk about values, boundaries, green & red flags, and how to recognise the roles (and r...

Send us Fan Mail For anyone stuck in survival mode, deciding whether to stay or go, or rebuilding after divorce. How to rewire your beliefs, release what’s weighing you down, and create real change after separation or divorce. If you’ve been stuck in divorce survival mode—burnt out, overwhelmed, and carrying the weight of your divorce (or your should-I-stay-or-go decision) on your shoulders—this e...

Send us Fan Mail Divorce can keep your nervous system on constant high alert -  heart racing, mind spinning, emotions all over the place. In that state, clear, calm, strategic communication feels almost impossible. In this episode, I’m sharing why nervous system regulation is the communication superpower during separation and divorce. You’ll learn: What dysregulation actually is (and how it hijack...

Send us Fan Mail Leaving a relationship when nothing is dramatically wrong can feel hard. If your partner's a good person? If no one would understand why you're unhappy? Before walking away from your marriage or leaving your relationship, ask yourself this one thing. In this episode, Sallyanne explores the quiet, complicated space of choosing yourself - even when your relationship isn’t...

Send us Fan Mail You didn't become selfish. You became self-honouring. What if being called “selfish” isn’t an insult, but a sign you’re finally choosing yourself? In this episode, we explore the powerful shift from self-abandonment to self-honouring in relationships, through separation and during divorce. If you’ve been made to feel guilty for setting boundaries, prioritising your needs, or...

Send us Fan Mail An episode about choosing kindness, courage and compassion through separation, divorce and beyond - especially when it isn’t coming back your way. When you’re going through divorce, kindness can feel like the last thing you’re supposed to choose - especially when others are telling you to go harder, or when the system feels harsh, scary and adversarial. In this episode, I share my...

Send us Fan Mail Feeling emotionally, physically and energetically depleted during separation, through divorce, even beyond? Divorce burnout is real. This episode introduces Spoon Theory. A simple explanation and easily implemented way to help you protect your energy, avoid burnout, and focus on what truly matters. The Spoon Theory written by Christine Miserandino Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coac...

Send us Fan Mail Waking Up to Your Own Life Whether you're questioning your marriage or relationship, navigating separation or divorce. If you’ve been hiding under the covers, eyes tightly shut, afraid to really look at your life, avoiding what hurts, staying stuck in the same stories, this episode is for you. I talk about:  ✨ Why staying in the dark can feel safer  ✨ The fear of really loo...

Send us Fan Mail How to Hold It Together While Falling Apart During Divorce How to Keep Going in the Hardest Days of Your Divorce  💙 This episode is shared in loving memory of my beautiful Mum, Helen Hartnell, who taught me how to do hard things with kindness, compassion and grace. The early days of separation and divorce are hard - it feels like your whole world is unravelling and there is no so...

Send us Fan Mail  You don’t have to choose between being kind and being clear. In this episode of Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate , I share how to bring gentle strength & quiet power into mediation, so you can stand firm on what matters without escalating conflict. In this episode I outline: Why you feel pressured to pick a side - agreeable or aggressive What it looks like to be anchored in yo...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Darren Mort — a Melbourne-based family law barrister, producer, and passionate advocate for children’s wellbeing in the context of separation and divorce. With decades of experience working in family law including complex and high-conflict cases, Darren’s s impact goes well beyond the courtroom. Darren is the founder of the To Be Loved Network , a ch...

Send us Fan Mail Divorce as more than just an ending. It's a reckoning. An awakening . Whether you’re in the early stages of separation, in the messy middle, or still quietly sitting in the “should I stay or go? ” space, this episode is for you. Divorce is rarely just the ending of a relationship. It can interrupt your identity, shake you to your core. And it can also be the powerful beginnin...

Send us Fan Mail  Two of the most powerful words in any relationship? “I’m sorry.”   In this episode, we explore what a true apology sounds like.  No shame, blame or guilt. No excuses, no “I'm sorry but,” no deflection. Just accountability, humility, and the choice to take radical personal responsibility and own your part. Whether you're navigating separation, divorce, co-parenting, or s...