Reflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne Hartnell

Send us Fan Mail You Are Not Too Much: Reclaiming All of You in Love, Divorce, and Beyond Owning your desires, speaking your truth, and asking for what you need does NOT make you too much. All of that is an intricate and intimate part of you. In this episode, we explore the fear of being "too much" and how it holds us back from the love, joy, and fulfillment, the deeply connected life (&...

Send us Fan Mail Life, Christmas & The Holidays After a Divorce You Didn’t Want The holidays can be tough after divorce, particularly an unwelcome divorce, and when grief, loss, or betrayal are fresh.  In this episode, we explore how to navigate this season with grace and self-compassion. Key Themes: 🎄 Giving yourself permission to feel your feelings 🎄 Grieving infidelity and the marriage yo...

Send us Fan Mail Things That Make Christmas & The Holiday Season Hard After Divorce - and what you can do to let them go This episode is all about the Christmas & the holiday season —  one of the most joyful times of the year, but also one of the hardest if you're going through or healing from a divorce.  I share about some of the things that can make Christmas and the holidays feel e...

Send us Fan Mail An exploration of 20 questions you can ask yourself about your relationship breakdown, separation or divorce to expand your awareness & understanding of your relationship, your behaviour, your relationship patterns, and attachment styles, facilitate healing and consciously choose what's next for you after divorce. REFRAME your experience of divorce, and transform it into...

Send us Fan Mail What You Don’t Need to Survive Divorce – Part 2 A continuation of last week’s episode focusing on the things you don’t need—the distractions, the unnecessary pressures, and the noise that only make navigating divorce harder. How to simplify your separation / divorce journey and strip away what you don’t need, so you can focus on what truly matters. Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coa...

Send us Fan Mail What You Don’t Need to Survive Divorce – Part 1 When you're going through a divorce, it can feel like there’s so much you need to juggle and a lot you need to sort. But while some things are crucial - sound legal & financial advice, emotional support, a clear strategy and future focus - there’s also a lot you don’t need.  In this episode, we’ll explore what you can let go...

Send us Fan Mail It can be especially challenging to leave someone who is a really nice, decent human being. Someone you care about, maybe even still love. This episode is all about divorcing a nice guy / gal. The unique challenges of leaving someone and a marriage that's not "bad" just not what you want, or when you feel that niggling feeling there's more waiting for you, ther...

Send us Fan Mail Divorce is hard. And when things get hard, it can be tempting to use alcohol to numb, escape, avoid the hard. In this second part of my conversation with Kathryn Elliott, we discuss how reframing your relationship with alcohol when you're navigating divorce can be your superpower. Kathryn is one of Australia’s leading specialist alcohol and binge drinking coaches for high-fun...

Send us Fan Mail Doing Divorce without (or at least with less) alcohol - a conversation with Kathryn Elliott, The Alcohol Mindset Coach. This is part one of a two part series. Kathryn is one of Australia’s leading specialist alcohol and binge drinking coaches for high-functioning professionals.  Her expertise and comments regularly appear in lifestyle, health, business and women’s media nationally...

Send us Fan Mail Can I get divorced if I am still living under the same roof as my spouse / partner? In this episode I step through some of the do's & don'ts of being separated under one roof - a situation which can become something of a family law nightmare if not carefully managed. A Clarity Consult with me will help you create a strategic plan and make smart, empowered, grounded d...

Send us Fan Mail Some recent DMs and client questions answered for you on this weeks episode. 1. How do I get over a break-up I didn't see coming? 2. What to do when my ex is constantly late for pick up / drop off / change-over of kids? 3. I had an affair and I want my wife back but she won't talk to me 4. How do I deal with or overcome loneliness after divorce as an introvert / homebody...

Send us Fan Mail Navigating Grief in Separation & Divorce and Still Doing the Hard Things   Divorce necessarily involves loss and triggers grief. AND we still need to show up for ourselves, our kids, in life and at work. All while having to make some big decisions and do some hard sh*t. How can we do the hard things, the practical tangible things, get on with day to day life, making big decisi...

Send us Fan Mail This is the story one of my 1:1 clients shared about her experience of divorce, and of working with me while she navigated her way through a complex, high-conflict, mulit-layered divorce. She described her journey through divorce as like being one through a dark, cold tunnel. In sharing here, we both hope that you find what you need to either muster the courage to step into your o...

Send us Fan Mail How to Overcome Numbing Avoidance & Procrastination When You Need to Take Big Steps, using somatic practices. Guest episode with Rio Richards, therapist and grief integration coach.  Rio specialises in helping adults navigate the profound and complex journey of loss and trauma, which is a part of the divorce journey. With a somatic and psychodynamic lens, Rio guides individual...

Send us Fan Mail Divorce & Reclamation - Reclaiming Power and A Sense of Control Amidst Uncertainty Even if you think it's not, divorce is about reclamation. This episode is about choosing & reclaiming YOU. Divorce is hard and heartbreaking. It's a journey through hard decisions, difficult choices, but really, it's divorce is a courageous journey back to you. How to reclaim...

Send us Fan Mail Decision fatigue is the mental and emotional drain you feel after you’ve made too many decisions particularly in a short period of time.  And let's face it - divorce will require you to make some big, life-changing decisions, with long-term consequences. In this episode I talk through how you can support yourself to thrive through the overwhelm, manage decision fatigue and ma...

Send us Fan Mail What divorce really means (and it's probably not what you think or are expecting). We tell ourselves - and are told by our social network, cultural connections, family, friends, and our deep ingrained conditioning - so many stories about what divorce means. From personal lived experience, as well as having coached so many through divorce to the end and beyond, this is what I...

Send us Fan Mail Loneliness during relationship breakdown, separation and divorce - even after divorce - is a universal experience. Even if you chose to end the relationship, loneliness can (probably will) be part of your journey. And there are 5 specific types of loneliness that show up for anyone navigating relationship, separation or divorce challenges. Tune in to hear about the 5 types of lone...

Send us Fan Mail Even if you've never experienced anxiety in your life before, divorce is one of the most stressful and destabilising life events that it can trigger anxiety. And Divorce Anxiety is a very real phenomenon with specific triggers and responses. Given separation and divorce impacts almost every aspect of our life, turns our world on it's head, and fundamentally alters the dr...

Send us Fan Mail An episode that steps you through how to have hard conversations and navigate conflict in healthy ways. Creating emotional safety to connect and engage in healthy conflict is crucial in having hard conversations. And let's face it, if you're separating or getting divorced, you're likely going to have to have some hard conversations. So, whether with your current par...

Send us Fan Mail Creating Emotional Safety - in relationships, during divorce and beyond. Whether you're currently in a relationship that feels challenging, you're separated or navigating divorce, or you're looking at life, dating, and relationships afterward creating emotional safety is key.  A healthy relationship requires us to know how to cultivate emotional safety—for ourselves...

Send us Fan Mail Divorce Is Hard and... that doesn't mean you should stay (or should have stayed) married. Divorce is hard... and that doesn't mean you shouldn't choose it. Over the past few years, I’ve supported dozens of clients in successfully navigating their separation and divorce in healthy ways. In this episode I share, from my own personal lived experience of divorce and reo...

Send us Fan Mail Sex After Divorce: Playful, Pleasure-Focused, and Liberating After a separation or divorce,  you get to consciously reframe a whole lot of things and choose to do them completely differently. Sex is one of those things.  Post divorce sex can be incredibly liberating… a little intimidating or anxiety inducing, sure, but once you embrace it as part of your reclamation and rediscover...

Send us Fan Mail Divorce is hard, painful and filled with emotion - whether you chose it or not. Navigating a more peaceful, lower conflict divorce minimises the damage done. But how? In this episode I offer you 20 tips to help support you in a low - or at least lower - conflict divorce. Free Download - How To Have Hard Conversations Compassionate Courageous Conversations Guide Sallyanne Hartnell...

Send us Fan Mail If you're wondering whether to stay or leave a relationship or marriage... If you're asking the hard questions about your marriage and questioning whether it's a hard season you're moving through or if it's really over between you, this episode is for you. 5 indicators that you might want to stay. 5 indicators that your relationship can survive this heavy,...