Psychology of Dating Podcast

Numerous issues and problems can arise in dating. For example; how to have a difficult conversation, where do I go for the next date, how do I manage my anxiety in dating, how do I get more dates? Problem solving is a skill which can be learnt and refined.  In this episode: - Learn about the Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) skill called 'Problem Solving', to help you achieve your dati...

Dating burnout can include feeling fatigued, hopeless and anxious. In this episode the impact of masking behaviours is explored as a key contributor to burnout. Masking involves concealing true emotions, thoughts, behaviours to conform to social pressures or a perceived ideal. Learn steps to shift masking behaviours in order to attract people who do not judge your true self.  FREE Guide on Top 3 M...

Nadine completed a one month intensive yoga teacher training in India 2015. This episode explored 3 key lessons from the experience and how this can relate to improving dating outcomes.  Themes covered in this episode: - comparisons - expectations and mindset - impact of environment FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:  https://www.nadineneukirch.com Thanks for tuning in to The Psychology...

Forming clear goals in dating helps you stay focused on what is important to you. Goal setting can increase the time and effort you spend in building skills and strategies to overcome dating hurdles. In this episode: - Learn about SMART goals and the benefits Have a dating question or topic you'd like to hear about on this podcast? Send Nadine a message via the contacts page on her website: h...

Loneliness is a universal human emotion that can commonly occur in dating.  In this episode: - Learn about the definition and function of loneliness - Strategies to help manage feelings of loneliness and increase feelings of connection FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:  https://www.nadineneukirch.com Thanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast . If you found this episode h...

Feeling heartbroken? Lonely, sad, angry, numb. Breakups can bring up intense overwhelming emotions and rumination. In this episode: - Learn about actions that can exacerbate heartbreak - Learn about strategies to healthily process breakup emotions and thoughts FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:  https://www.nadineneukirch.com Thanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast . If...

Have you suddenly been ghosted by someone, left waiting for a reply to a message, unsure if you should contact them or wait? Not knowing how to respond when someone pulls away can create intense anxiety, anger, or other uncomfortable emotions. In this episode: - Learn key tips to decide when and if you should contact someone if you're waiting on a message - Understand how to clarify your need...

Have you felt disheartened/overwhelmed with use of dating apps? It can be common for people to feel burnout with the apps and want to quit using them altogether. This however limits opportunities to meet people and reach your ultimate dating goal. In this episode: - Listen to common challenges with dating apps - Learn about factors within your control to shift your dating experience on the apps wh...

This episode features special guest Dan, a former client who shares his key transformations and learnings from 9 months of coaching.  In this episode Dan shares insights into: - Expectations and realities of coaching  - Power of tuning into your emotions in dating - Benefits of slowing down dating decisions - Managing the fear of rejecting others FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:  http...

Do you feel a sense of pressure in dating? Feeling disheartened, worried you are 'failing' or 'not getting it right'? Building skills and focusing on what you are doing in dating is highly beneficial, however, it is also important to acknowledge factors outside of your control. In this episode: - Learn about benefits and downsides of perfectionism - Learn about factors within y...

This episode features special guest Amber Grubemann. Amber is a confidence and dating coach for women across the globe, helping people move from casual to exclusive relationships. In this episode: - Amber and Nadine share how they know each other, from personal coaching, to business coaching, to friends - Amber shares her top tools to help people in dating & Nadine shares hers. Including the &...

Do you have a desire to meet someone in person? Feeling tired of the dating apps? Unsure where to start and how to approach someone? In this episode: - Learn about key places and events where you can meet people - Learn skills in starting conversation & reframing rejection when you ask someone out FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:  https://www.nadineneukirch.com Thanks for tuning i...

Have you had a pattern of knowing someone who is nice, consistent, kind....yet you find the connection boring, no spark, just don't feel it? Yet the people you are highly attracted to end up being avoidant, hot/cold, love bomb, and don't work out. In this episode: - Consider how to best decide if it would be helpful to keep dating the 'nice' person, or end the connection - 4 ti...

Some people can have a default setting of going into self-blame when faced with a difficult dating situation, and others can have a reflex to automatically blaming others. These extreme ways of thinking and interpreting situations can increase difficult feelings and reduce ability for change. In this episode: - explore the impacts of self-blame - explore the impacts of blaming others - consider wa...

Validation is a key skill to strengthen relationships, reduce conflict, and help build a sense of self. In this episode: - definition of validation and self-validation - links between validation and dating - steps to validate yourself and others Eist, H. I. (2015). DBT Skills Training Manual, Marsha M. Linehan (2015) New York: The Guilford Press. 504 pp.: DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheet...

A limited sense of self can lead to increased relationship challenges and a feeling of being directionless. A limited sense of self can also lead to increased anxiety in dating, difficulties making decisions, and high reliance on external validation.  In this episode: - learn key components of what makes up a sense of self - learn about impacts of a limited sense of self for dating - origins of li...

It is common for the human brain to have a negativity bias, focusing on worries, worst case scenarios, and general negative thoughts. This negativity bias can also be experienced in dating. Gratitude is one practice which may increase appreciation for life and help the mind access alternate thoughts. In this episode: - Learn about studies on gratitude practice and the effects - Guided meditation o...

It is common for the people we date to have differences, in values, hobbies, routines, interests. How can you know whether this is a dealbreaker or if it can benefit the relationship? In this episode: - Learn about challenges with automatically ruling out a relationship if there are differences - Explore strategies to identify if the differences are workable or a dealbreaker - Learn strategies to...

Dating apps are a large part of the dating experience in the modern day. While the apps can be useful ways to connect and meet new people, there are common mistakes people make when using them which can lead to dating burnout. In this episode: - Learn about 6 common mistakes people  make when using the apps - Learn about techniques to increase effectiveness of the apps to connect and go on dates F...

Our minds can often be thinking about the past or future, looping in rumination or worry thoughts, which increases emotional distress. 5 Senses Grounding is a psychology strategy to help anchor the mind to the present moment, and can be used to manage anxiety or stress in dating.  In this episode: - Listen to a guided mindfulness meditation on 5 senses grounding exercise Write to Nadine (Clinical...

There are 10 types of unhelpful thinking styles from Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), these can frequently come up in dating. This limits perspectives in situations, creates biased thinking, and can create increased emotional distress or unhelpful behaviours. In this episode: - Learn about the 10 unhelpful thinking styles from CBT - Hear examples from the thinking traps and how they relate to da...

In dating people can pursue perfectionism, for themselves and others, in the pursuit of their ideal relationship. Perfectionism however can have adverse consequences, including increased guilt, feeling inadequate, doubt, and stress. In this episode: - Learn about the costs of perfectionism and benefits of 'good enough partner' - Steps to cultivate being a 'good enough' partner...

Dating and finding the relationship you desire is a journey, we don't how long it will take, and it is most helpful to be consistent and motivated. Motivation can help people overcome barriers and challenges in dating, and improve the dating experience.  In this episode: - Learn about 3 motivation states -Learn how to use rewards and self-care to improve motivation FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset...

Polyvagal Theory is a way to help understand the states of your nervous system, and it's automatic survival functions and physiological responses. In dating you may experience moments of joy, fear, anger, or hopelessness and low mood. Polyvagal theory may help you understand how to identify and shift your nervous system states and emotions, to feel more calm and connected in your dating exper...

Dating situations can commonly bring up anxiety, stress, or apprehension. Worry about the situation can be a common automatic coping strategy, however not the most effective. In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) there is a skill called 'Cope Ahead Planning' which can help the mind switch from worry to problem solving. In this episode: - Learn about the impacts of worry and anxiety - Le...