Processing Trauma Out Loud

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue the discussion on dreams and desires. When we feel blocked in pursuing our dreams and desires, we can slow down and be curious about the stories that are asking for more healing. Listen in as Kandace and Sher wrap up this two-part series of the goodness of tapping into our dreams and desires.  Link to Sher's course on Art and Healing:  https://www.proc...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start off the New Year talking about dreams and desires for 2024. If you find it hard to know what you desire and struggle to dream, there’s a reason. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss some of their hopes and desires for the coming year. Link to Sher's course on Art and Healing:  https://www.processingtraumaoutloud.com/arthealingcourse?fbclid=IwAR16Sh1-zqJj...

In todays episode, Kandace and Sher continue the topic of arousal structures. Understanding our particular arousal structures and how they are connected to our childhood trauma, can help us move out of painful patterns and into new ways of showing up in our relationships. Listen in as Kandace and Sher take on this difficult, but important topic.  Link to Sher's course on Art and Healing:  https://...

In todays episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the topic of arousal structures. Understanding our particular arousal structures and how they are connected to our childhood trauma, can help us move out of painful patterns and into new ways of showing up in our relationships. Listen in as Kandace and Sher take on this difficult, but important topic.  Link to Sher's course on Art and Healing:  https://w...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher process several reasons why we can find it so difficult to ask for help. Whether it’s feelings of shame, feeling like we’re a burden, or feeling like no one cares, we can slowly move towards asking for help knowing healing is available. Listen in as Kandace and Sher express their invitation to reach out and ask for help today. Link to Sher's course on Art and H...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss why it’s so important to find our courage to ask for help. Though asking for help is a simple request, it’s more complicated when asking for help in the past did not end well. Listen in as Kandace and Sher bring this important topic to the table.  Link to Sher's course on Art and Healing:  https://www.processingtraumaoutloud.com/arthealingcourse?fbclid=...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher have a conversation around what it means to honor our losses and the importance of grieving to heal. Though grief can be sometimes take our breathe away, every tear we cry on the journey matters.  Link to Sher's course on Art and Healing:  https://www.processingtraumaoutloud.com/arthealingcourse?fbclid=IwAR16Sh1-zqJj2fmsF2tpx2z4JP3p6Q7BYSr5q22ct0RADkbTHiuBdtfmR...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher look back on this last year and name a few things they are grateful for. One of the greatest gifts of staying on the healing journey is experiencing the joy of having safe and secure attachments. Listen in and consider what it might mean for you to begin your healing journey today! Link to Sher's course on Art and Healing:  https://www.processingtraumaoutloud.c...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher interview Dawn Kuhlman, trauma-informed mediator and director of March Mediation in Liberty, Missouri. Dawn’s desire to bring compassionate understanding in helping her clients navigate conflict comes from her own healing journey of having complex trauma. Listen in as the conversation takes us to a beautiful conclusion that we can never give up hope to heal and...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up a 4-part series processing why having self-compassion is a key to healing from the affects of childhood trauma. When we begin to tell our stories of shame and are met with deep compassion and love, we begin to heal. Listen in as Kandace and Sher invite you to begin the healing journey.  Link to Sher's course on Art and Healing:  https://www.processingtr...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue discussing the importance of having self-compassion in order to heal from developmental trauma. Listen in as they talk about what self-compassion is and how it develops.  Link to Sher's course on Art and Healing:  https://www.processingtraumaoutloud.com/arthealingcourse?fbclid=IwAR16Sh1-zqJj2fmsF2tpx2z4JP3p6Q7BYSr5q22ct0RADkbTHiuBdtfmRPk If you have a...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss why it can be difficult to develop self-compassion if you’ve grown up believing that you are the problem. Until we see our stories more truly, from a posture of self-compassion, we can remain stuck in harsh, negative emotions towards ourselves. Listen in as Sher asks Kandace questions about her experience of what shaped her beliefs as a young child.  Li...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a new topic in their cultivation series about what it means to be self-compassionate. In early childhood, self-compassion either develops or it doesn't. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss their journeys of moving away from self-contempt and into a posture of self-compassion that seeks to heal.  Link to Sher's course on Art and Healing:  https://www.pro...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Shar discuss the topic of being aware of our dreams and desires. When we’ve experienced childhood trauma, we are typically living in survival mode until we heal. Healing opens up space for us to connect with what we’re called to do and what gives us joy. Listen in as Kandace and Sher talk about what a few of their dreams are! If you have a chance, please rate and re...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher talk through Sher’s journey of healing through using watercolors and creating her recent online course Art and Healing. Listen in as Kandace interviews Sher about how painting with watercolors has become a bottom-up approach to her own healing and now can be a resource for you as well! If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred...

In todays episode, Kandace and Sher discuss specifics on how to develop greater self-awareness. Though we will never be perfectly self-aware, we can become more self-aware and experience greater satisfaction in our relationship to others and to ourselves. Listen in as Kandace and Sher highlight the ways they’ve increased in their own self-awareness. If you have a chance, please rate and review thi...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their cultivation series discussing the topic of self-awareness. Developing self-awareness can help us heal from the effects of childhood trauma. Listen in as Sher engages with Kandace about her recent experience leading a story work weekend and how having self-awareness deepened her joy of serving others. If you have a chance, please rate and review t...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher conclude the topic of cultivating the trait of being a good listener. Though we will never be perfect listeners, we can become listeners! Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss what it means that we all have to work through forming judgements and assumptions as a listener. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming serv...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss how it feels to be deeply listened to. What does it mean when someone leans in and genuinely desires to hear more? Listen in as Kandace and Sher name three things they’ve experienced in the presence of a good listener. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuable and c...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion on cultivating the trait of being a deep listener. When we’ve experienced complex childhood trauma, we know something of what it means to feel dismissed in conversation or consumed in conversation. Listen in as Kandace and Sher talk through the experience difference and invite you to be curious about your own experience.  If you have a...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher begin a new series looking at how we cultivate specific traits we want to grow in as we heal from the affects of complex childhood trauma. Deep listening is a gift we are given and a gift we can offer in order to experience feeling seen and heard. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss how deep listening is a trait we can develop as we experience being seen and...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to have an inner-critic. Critical thoughts that seem to control us can be confronted and cared for. Listen in as Kandace and Sher give three things we can do when critical thoughts arise.  If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuable and contributes to th...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher process how healing often involves mystery. If we’ve had childhood trauma, we will think we need certainty to feel safe. But what if we can heal without knowing the outcome by focusing on just taking the next step? Listen in as Kandace and Sher explore what it means to sit and ponder with curiosity and intention, letting our questions lead the way. If you have...

In today’s episode Sher discusses what it means to reclaim our creativity when we’ve experienced complex childhood trauma. Listen in as Sher tells of her personal experience of reclaiming her creativity and the invitation to join her in an upcoming class she is offering. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuab...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher reveal their own attachment wound coming from experiencing complex childhood trauma. For those who have experienced complex childhood trauma, the wound of losing safe and secure connections happened in multiple ways. Coming to terms with how this affected us is extremely hard, but worth it in order to heal today. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss this hard...