Processing Trauma Out Loud

In today’s episode, Kandace & Sher discuss another topic in their series on things that are hard to do on the healing journey, but worth doing. Identifying and discovering hidden beliefs and perceptions can feel very hard to do when it requires time, intentionality, and allowing someone else to ask us questions. Listen in as Kandace and Sher give an example of Sher discovering a belief that wa...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to believe we are worthy of love coming from a history of complex childhood trauma. Though it can be extremely hard to see what we needed as a child, but did not receive, it’s worth doing the work of healing so we can believe we are loved today. Listen in as Kandace and Sher open up a conversation on things that are hard about the healing...

In todays episode, Sher talks about the importance of having someone to tell our hardest stories to. Those stories we feel we can never tell anyone, but long to be free from the shame of them. Listen in as Sher speaks from her heart about her own journey of speaking the unspeakable. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extr...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up their 4-part series of how we heal from the painful experiences of self-betrayal. In this final step, they discuss why slowing down is essential when we are breaking free from patterns that bring us pain and feelings of deep shame. Listen in as Kandace and Sher offer the hope of healing from years of self-betrayal. If you have a chance, please rate and...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the importance of listening to our bodies as a means of discovering what we need. Understanding what dysregulation is and does is a form of self-care that can positively change our lives. Listen in as Kandace and Sher give examples of how they have used this understanding to help heal from self-betrayal.  If you have a chance, please rate and review thi...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher further the conversation on what it means to heal from self-betrayal. The first step is naming the truth of our correct situation with just one person. Listen in as Kandace and Sher talk about why this is often a very difficult step to take, but once taken with a safe person, can be life-changing. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on you...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to betray ourselves because of the complex childhood trauma we experienced. Self-betrayal is a painful adaptive behavior we learn as children. Listen in as they share the hope of moving out of self-betrayal and into healing, starting with these three steps. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streami...

What To Do Instead of Spiritual Bypassing In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue the conversation on spiritual bypassing and offer ways we can avoid using it. Listen in as Kandace and Sher address why spiritual bypassing is something we’ve probably all done, but can now learn a better way.  If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your f...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what spiritual bypassing is and how it has influenced their healing journey. Spiritual bypassing is one way we avoid feeling painful emotions that are often messy and feel shameful. Listen in as Kandace and Sher begin this important conversation.  If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedbac...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss why they keep showing up each week to record Processing Trauma Out Loud and the lessons they have learned over the last year. Listen in as Kandace and Sher express their heart’s desire to keep providing a space for those who are on the journey of doing the beautiful work of healing. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your prefe...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher conclude their series on what it means to have an abandonment wound and how we heal. The hope of healing this wound from experiencing complex childhood trauma is more than possible. Kandace and Sher both understand the pain of this wound and offer hope through how they are healing. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred stre...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher further their discussion on what it means to have an abandonment wound. Listen in as they share stories and describe this painful wound in more detail. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuable and contributes to the success of this podcast. Email: kandacesher at gmail dot...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means when we have experienced an abandonment wound in childhood. Being left alone repeatedly as a child, especially when care was needed, sends a child’s body into high levels of stress. Left unaddressed, we often struggle into adulthood feeling like there is something deeply wrong with us. Listen in as Kandace and Sher start a three-part serie...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what grieving has historically looked like for Kandace and how the recent loss of her brother has impacted her. Listen in and see if you can relate or become curious about your own grief journey. ___________ If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuable and contributes...

In today’s episode, Sher discusses her journey from not being able to cry over her own painful stories to now being able to honor her tears of grief. We often feel if we let our tears come, they will never stop. But in letting our tears come, we can release the pain we’ve held in our bodies. Listen in as Sher allows us a glimpse into her story of tears and invites us to be curious about our own st...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it could mean if we are able to express what we need when we feel triggered in our closest relationships. Confessing that we have complex ptsd without shame can lead to deeper healing when we are met with compassion, leading us to take responsibility for our healing. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss this important topic. ___________ If you hav...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the complex trauma we experience when we have habitual misattunement in childhoood. Listen in as Kandace and Sher explain why habitual misattunement can leave a child with feelings of unworthiness and confusion.  Email: kandacesher at gmail dot com TikTok: @processingtraumaoutloud Facebook: /processingtraumaoutloud Instagram: processingtraumaoutloud You...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what attunement means and why it’s so important for healthy childhood development. Listen is as Kandace and Sher start a conversation that is good to have in order to heal and bring healing to others. Email: kandacesher at gmail dot com TikTok: @processingtraumaoutloud Facebook: /processingtraumaoutloud Instagram: processingtraumaoutloud Youtube: https:...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up their three part series on looking at how trauma seeks to mar a person’s glory. A person’s God-given identity - one who is loved and worthy of good care - is not able to change because of trauma.  Listen in as Kandace and Sher talk about the ways Sher has set healthy boundaries in using her glory to offer deep care and kindness to others. Email: kandace...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue the conversation about what it means that we have glory and what it looks like to reclaim who we were always created to be. Childhood trauma wounds us and creates deep struggles, but it will never be able to define who a person is. Listen in as Kandace and Sher give hope to anyone who has suffered through the pain of complex childhood trauma.  If you h...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher give hope to those who have experienced complex childhood trauma by discussing what it means that we have glory. Though trauma often wounds us deeply, it doesn’t define who we are and who we were created to be. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss the beautiful reality of our ability to overcome the harm that trauma brings into our lives. If you have a chance,...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher talk about what it means to heal from the painful emotional experiences of having body hatred. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss why knowing our stories about our bodies can help lead us on this healing journey with deep self-compassion and kindness. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback...

In today’s episode Kandace and Sher discuss how Sher is doing after processing the story she brought last week to our listeners. Listen in as Kandace and Sher also talk about what our relationship to the mirror involves and how shame from being abused complicates how we feel about our bodies. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedba...

If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuable and contributes to the success of this podcast. Email: kandacesher at gmail dot com TikTok: @processingtraumaoutloud Facebook: /processingtraumaoutloud Instagram: processingtraumaoutloud Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdXcQkR0sd2f9c8Lo_c_3Og Music: Caleb Pax...

If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuable and contributes to the success of this podcast. Email: kandacesher at gmail dot com TikTok: @processingtraumaoutloud Facebook: /processingtraumaoutloud Instagram: processingtraumaoutloud Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdXcQkR0sd2f9c8Lo_c_3Og Music: Caleb Pax...