Processing Trauma Out Loud

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue the discussion on what it looks like to set healthy boundaries in our lives. One of the hardest things we can feel is that we have no options, but we do! Listen in as Kandace and Sher offer an invitation to evaluate your current level of mutually satisfying relationships, and to get the support you need if you need to make a change. If you have a chanc...

In today’s episode, Kandace & Sher have the honor of interviewing Stephanie and Kate about their upcoming story group. Stephanie & Kate also share a little bit of their stories and how story work has changed their lives. Listen in as Kandace and Sher invite anyone wanting to go deeper into healing to join a story work group! If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a four-part series on what it means to set boundaries coming from a trauma-informed perspective. When we are healing from CPTSD, part of our healing will involve learning how to set loving boundaries that protect ourselves and others. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss this important topic. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on y...

In today’s episode, Kandace continues to tell Sher the story of her recent traumatic experience at a local park in her community. Listen in as Kandace and Sher make a plea for everyone in positions of influence to become trauma-informed in order to provide the kind of care someone needs who experiences trauma.  Find Karen's book on Amazon: https://a.co/d/5ezEj3V If you have a chance, please rate a...

In today’s episode, Kandace continues to tell Sher the story of her recent traumatic experience at a local park in her community. Listen in as Kandace and Sher make a plea for everyone in positions of influence to become trauma-informed in order to provide the kind of care someone needs who experiences trauma.  If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming s...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher walk through a recent traumatic event Kandace experienced at one of her local walking parks. Traumatic events that get processed in real time allow our nervous systems to release stored emotions, and therefore, the emotions do not get stuck in our body. Listen in as Sher walks Kandace through this unfortunate experience.  If you have a chance, please rate and r...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher revisit the conversation around attachment styles and healing our attachment wounds. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss what it’s been like to find healing in courageous spaces of love and kindness.  If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuable and contributes to the succes...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss more on the topic of what it was like to use our voice as a child. Listen in as Kandace engages Sher in a recent story where Sher found deeper healing in using her voice in a way she was never aloud as a child.  If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuable and contribu...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher embark on a compelling 2-part series delving into the profound impact of childhood experiences on our voices. They explore how our voices may have been stifled or silenced altogether during our formative years. Childhood trauma often leaves a lingering imprint, manifesting in understandable yet unexpressed anger. When this anger is suppressed or met with punish...

In today’s episode, Sher interviews Kandace about the memoir she has written and will soon publish. Listen in as Sher asks Kandace what her hope is in sharing the stories of her teenage years and how she has come to love the teenage girl she once was. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuable and contributes t...

In today’s episode, Kandace interviews Sher about the violence in her own story, and the further harm of it being witnessed by those who could have helped us as children. Having witnesses today of the harm we experienced in our childhood can lead us into healing in ways we could have never imagined it. Until we do! If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streami...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher celebrate their 100th podcast episode and review their healing journey. Listen in and hear how their podcast has helped other women on the path of healing from childhood trauma.  If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuable and contributes to the success of this podcast. Email...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the theme of childhood emotional neglect. Though childhood emotional neglect can be harder to identify, it’s often the culprit of the struggle we have to express our emotions and get clarity on what we need. Listen in as Kandace engages Sher’s recent struggle to connect what she needed, and how attunement helped us get there.  If you have a chance, plea...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher tackle the theme of Parentification. Children who experience complex childhood trauma often are placed in family roles that they were never meant to be in. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss examples from their own stories.  If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuable and...

In today’s episode, Sher interviews Kandace about her recent invitation to speak on healing hurt in the workplace. Listen in as Kandace shares her passion for bringing people the care and nurture they need to heal trauma and live out their calling. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred streaming service. Your feedback is extremely valuable and contributes to t...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue the conversation about triangulation and how we heal when we discovered we were triangulated as a child. Triangulation occurs more often than we might be aware, but as we learn there’s a better way, we can choose a different path. Listen in as Kandace and Sher wrap up this 2-part series on triangulation. If you have a chance, please rate and review thi...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher talk about the theme of triangulation within our stories of childhood trauma. Triangulation is particularly painful for a child as no child wants to be in the middle of adult relationships. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss what triangulation is and the effects it has on children.  If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your preferred...

Today’s episode comes with a caution as Kandace and Sher discuss the topic of complicity in childhood sexual abuse. Though we know sexual abuse is never the child’s fault, why do many children grow up feeling they played a role in being abused? Listen in as Kandace and Sher talk about why this is true and how we heal from the lies when the real truth emerges. If you have a chance, please rate and...

Today’s episode comes with a caution as Kandace and Sher discuss the topic of complicity in childhood sexual abuse. Though we know sexual abuse is never the child’s fault, why do many children grow up feeling they played a role in being abused? Listen in as Kandace and Sher talk about why this is true and how we heal from the lies when the real truth emerges. If you have a chance, please rate and...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a discussion on the goodness they’ve witnessed from those they’ve worked with as clients. Many times our current day challenges are connected to old, young stories that are asking for care. Listen in as Kandace and Sher highlight how Story Work helps us show up differently in our relationships and careers.  If you have a chance, please rate and review...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the ways they’ve seen Story Work bring healing into the lives of their clients. Until our stories of harm are brought into the light with those who can be with us in our anger and grief, we remain stuck in various ways. Listen in as Kandace and Sher continue this series on why they love Story Work. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podca...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss why they love Story Work as a healing modality when getting help from the effects of childhood trauma. When we’ve been harmed as young children, there are shifts that occur that influence our beliefs about who we are and how the world is. Listen in to part two of this new series on why Kandace and Sher love Story Work and how it has changed their lives....

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss why they love Story Work as a healing modality when getting help from the effects of childhood trauma. When we’ve been harmed as young children, there are shifts that occur that influence our beliefs about who we are and how the world is. Sher names these shifts that come in the form of curses and vows. Listen in as Kandace and Sher start a new series o...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up a two-part series on what it means to have a victim-mindset. Once we find a safe place to share our stories of being victimized, we can move towards the healing we need and leave the victim mindset behind. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss with compassion over why it can be hard to name the victim mindset. If you have a chance, please rate and revie...

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher tackle the topic of what it means to have a victim-mindset. If you were once a victim, and have never received care, it makes sense you would have a victim-mindset. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss this important topic with awareness and deep compassion for those who have been victimized. If you have a chance, please rate and review this podcast on your pr...