Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE

Mark and Steve get VERY raw and real about the struggles during their deep addiction years. Knowing what they know now—if they could go back in time, WHAT would they do different?  Be open, honest and seek help WAY sooner vs. staying stuck in shame and secrecy ! Face the PAIN and REAL underlying issues vs. believing it was all about the porn! Be open about the real possibility of being able to bre...

In this episode, Mark and Steve walk you through three REAL LIFE examples of HOW to use the "Surrender Tool" in times of overwhelming emotions like fear, lust, anger, resentment, betrayal and more. Learn how to go from "Me" to "We" and WIN through Surrender!  Visit the PBSE website at:  pbsepodcast.com Find out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension Counseling Learn mo...

Our natural tendency in addiction, betrayal trauma and current scary world events is to attempt to INCREASE the CONTROL we have over our lives! This is exactly the OPPOSITE of what we truly need in recovery and in life. In this episode, Mark and Steve talk raw and real about exactly HOW to "SURRENDER" trying to control things when you feel the most out-of-control! Although it sounds like...

Right now a lot of people across the world are feeling pretty "powerless"! But, those of us who have suffered from addiction, betrayal trauma and other significant trials—WE actually possess the raw experience, resilience, knowledge and tools to STEP UP and STEP INTO the role of "Servant Leaders." In this episode, you'll learn how to GET OUT of your "Coronavirus Brain...

During times of HIGH emotional stress, like the COVID 19 pandemic, "triggers" go up for the population as a whole, and especially for those dealing with addiction! The HIGH STRESS can impact us in many ways— Financial fear and instability Increased feelings of anxiety and depression--both individually and socially Feeling a lack of emotional safety and stabilitiy Increased strain on rela...

When it comes to sexual behaviors, we live in a world where there is a very broad spectrum about what people consider to be "healthy" and "not healthy." In this podcast, Mark and Steve talk raw and real about their personal experience with this and working with men across the globe. You'll learn Can "sex" become an addiction?  What are the levels on the path to s...

Everyone who gets trapped in porn addiction struggles with the "big mystery" --why do I keep going back to this crap? Why can't I just say 'NO!' once and for all?" The reason is that pornography radically changes the brain. In this episode you'll learn: After viewing porn and reaching climax, the viewer often pounds his fist on the table and asks, "What was...

Trauma is ALWAYS part of a marriage relationship—either trauma we bring with us from childhood or trauma created while we're married. Either way, trauma can open a chasm of disconnection and conflict between us, or it can bring us close together than ever! It all depends on whether we battle each other or join forces and battle the trauma together. In this podcast, you'll learn the 5 Ste...

Most of were raised to believe that "conflict is bad" and to be avoided at all costs! The truth is, in healthy relationships, conflict should be expected and even encouraged!  Conflict doesn't destroy a marriage—it's the way it's handled that does. In this podcast you'll learn: The differences between "conflict" and "contention."  How to engage in...

In order for a porn addict to move into "real" recovery, AND a spouse to begin healing her betrayal trauma, as a couple you MUST begin setting BOUNDARIES! Why? Because the MOST connected relationships are those with boundaries.  First, there must be boundaries that create "safety" in the relationship. Without safety, intimacy (into-me-you-see) is impossible.  Some of the most i...

This episode is for women suffering from betrayal trauma AND their husbands who truly want to understand them.  What are the symptoms of Betrayal Trauma? What are the feelings and words in your head and heart? Betrayal Trauma has a massive impact on a woman’s sense of self-worth:  ·       Personal inadequacy (physical, emotional and sexual)—“I’ll never be enough!” ·       Insecurity—in the marriag...

When a spouse finds out about her husband's infidelity through porn use, an affair or other sexual behaviors, a flood of emotions can come rushing in—shock, confusion, anger, fear, inadequacy, anxiety, depression and many more. All of this is part of what is known as "Betrayal Trauma."  In this episode, Mark and Steve talk raw and real about Betrayal Trauma— You are NOT going crazy!...

A recent article in a popular publication claimed that "porn is the perfect stress reducer." In this episode, Mark and Steve get raw and personal about their experience. In the "short-term" porn is a "drug," an escape and gives a perceived "sense of control" over one's life. Porn gives a temporary feeling of self worth, connection and satisfaction. In t...

There's a big debate about what is pornographic and what is not. In this episode, Mark and Steve talk raw and real about how defining "porn"—it's less about what's being taken in, and more about the impact it's having on the viewer and others.  To the brain "meaning" is everything! It's all about your INTENTIONS. Parts vs. People Something to be consume...