Pleasure in the Pause: Midlife Conversations About Menopause, Sex & Pleasure

Navigating perimenopause and menopause can feel like uncharted territory for millennial women, but it doesn't have to be a journey of uncertainty and anxiety. Lauren, author of the upcoming book "Millennial Menopause," brings a fresh, compassionate perspective to a topic that has been shrouded in silence for far too long. Together, we explore how this generation can rewrite the narr...

What happens when you feel disconnected from your sexuality in midlife? When hot flashes, body changes, and societal myths about aging make you question your sensual self? In this raw and transformative episode, multi-published erotic author Anna Sansom shatters the outdated narratives that keep midlife women feeling invisible and sexually irrelevant.  Drawing from her experiences as a queer woman...

Have you ever looked in the mirror and felt like a stranger was staring back? Have you mourned the body you once had, or grown frustrated that your form, vitality, and sensuality no longer resonate as they once did? If these feelings sound familiar, know that you are not alone. This episode delves into a deeply personal exploration, drawing directly from a body love challenge I led earlier this ye...

Have you ever felt like your body was speaking to you, but you didn't know how to listen? In this episode, I'm inviting you into a sacred space of body love and self-discovery.  Reclaim your sensuality and step into a powerful new chapter. The Midlife Pleasure Collective is a monthly membership designed to help midlife women reconnect with their bodies, embrace their desires, and cultiva...

Today, I'm pulling back the curtain and sharing something deeply personal - 12 profound lessons I've learned navigating my 50s. If you've ever wondered whether your best years are behind you, if you've felt invisible or diminished by societal expectations of aging, this episode is for you. I'm here to tell you that midlife isn't about fading away, it's about step...

Have you ever felt like a stranger in your own body, wondering where the vibrant, confident woman you once knew has gone? If you're navigating perimenopause or menopause and experiencing unexplained mood shifts, anxiety, or a profound sense of disconnection, you're not alone. In fact, 60% of women experience what researchers call "not feeling like myself" during this transforma...

We know how to be mothers, nurturing and giving endlessly, but have we forgotten how to be lovers? For years, we've been celebrated for our selfless motherhood, yet midlife presents a powerful invitation to shift the narrative.  Reclaim your sensuality and step into a powerful new chapter. The Midlife Pleasure Collective is a monthly membership designed to help midlife women reconnect with th...

In this milestone 54th episode of Pleasure in the Pause, I’m unveiling five revolutionary pleasure principles designed to empower women navigating perimenopause and menopause. Breaking through societal taboos, this intimate exploration offers midlife women a roadmap to reclaiming their sexual wellness, body confidence, and personal joy during an often misunderstood life stage. Are you ready to awa...

What if you had a partner in your health journey, someone who didn't just tell you what to do, but helped you figure out what actually works for you? And what if, instead of feeling overwhelmed by midlife changes, weight gain, brain fog, anxiety, and fatigue, you had someone in your corner helping you cut through the noise, stay motivated and create a personalized plan to thrive? Today's...

Are You Struggling to Get a Good Night's Sleep in Midlife? Sleep is a critical component of health, yet many women in midlife find themselves battling insomnia, disrupted sleep patterns, and nighttime anxiety. Many midlife women, especially busy mothers, find sleep elusive. They often feel wired and tired, running on adrenaline.  Perimenopause can exacerbate these issues, causing fatigue, dis...

Use code PLEASURE offers an exclusive discount for 15% off Joylux vFit Why is it that men's sexual health products, from Viagra to testosterone supplements, are openly advertised and celebrated while women's intimate health solutions are censored, shamed or simply ignored? Why in 2025 is the word vagina still considered taboo today? We're diving into a conversation that challenges t...

Are you ready to transform your understanding of pleasure and midlife? Join me as we celebrate a milestone 50th episode of Pleasure in the Pause, reflecting on the most powerful conversations that have reshaped how women understand their bodies, sexuality, and personal power during perimenopause and menopause. Are you ready to awaken your sensuality and feel more empowered in your body? Access the...

Have you ever felt like you were living a life that looked perfect on the outside, but inside, something felt deeply off? Maybe you've spent years over giving, overachieving, prioritizing everyone else, and suddenly you find yourself asking, Who am I now beyond the roles I've played, what do I actually want outside of what's expected of me? Is it too late to rediscover my desires, m...

So often when we talk about breast cancer, the conversation often revolves around survival, diagnosis, treatment and remission, but what's rarely discussed is how it profoundly impacts a woman's sense of self. Beyond the physical toll, there's the emotional and psychological journey, one that reshapes identity, body image, intimacy and even pleasure.  For many young women, cancer tr...

What if I told you that your sex span the period of your life where you experience vibrant, fulfilling intimacy doesn't have to shrink with age? The pleasure isn't just a memory to reflect on, but something you can actively cultivate at every stage of life.  Think about it. We carefully plan for retirement– securing finances, investing in our future and prioritizing our health span. But...

What happens when a woman long accustomed to suppressing her desires finds herself drawn to a fantasy that threatens to unravel everything she thought she knew about herself? “Baby Girl,” the film starring Nicole Kidman, has ignited powerful conversations about female desire, agency and the rarely spoken truths of midlife sexuality.  As our bodies, identities and relationships shift, so too does o...

 What if menopause wasn't something to fear but a rite of passage as powerful and transformative and sacred as puberty or childbirth?  Society often tells us that menopause is something to dread, framing it as the slow fading of our vitality, the beginning of decline, or a problem we need to fix.  But what if menopause isn't the end of anything but the beginning of a new chapter, a time...

How often have you started the new year with big fitness goals only to feel you've already lost momentum by February? If this sounds familiar, you're not alone or stuck. What is the key to staying on track? It isn't about pushing harder but instead shifting your mindset and creating habits that truly work for you.  This week, episode 44 of Pleasure in the Pause is about sustainable...

 What if I told you that the secret to better sleep isn't just about shutting your eyes, but about unlocking something deeper, a sense of inner safety that allows your mind, body, and soul to truly rest?  And what if your struggles with sleep could be the very gateway to greater joy, resilience, and self-discovery?  Before we dive in, let me ask you this. When was the last time you gave yours...

 Have you ever wondered why so much of the conversation about hormones focuses on estrogen and progesterone while testosterone often gets overlooked? Or you've heard testosterone labeled as a male hormone and wondered, does this even matter for me as a woman? Today, we're pulling back the curtain on testosterone, a hormone that's often misunderstood yet plays a vital role in women&a...

Be honest, are you faking it in the bedroom? If you are, you are not alone. Studies show that up to 70% of women have faked an orgasm at least once. But here's the real question: why do we fake it, and at what cost? From the societal pressures to perform to the orgasm gap to myths about what sex should look like, the reasons are complex, and in midlife, as our bodies' hormones and desire...

 What if this year wasn't about fixing yourself but about finding yourself? What if midlife could be the most vibrant, fulfilling chapter of your life, a happy new year? Midlife can be the most vibrant, fulfilling chapter of your life - if you approach it with the right mindset. This week, episode 40 of Pleasure in the Pause is about midlife reinvention tools for 2025!  Want to Make 2025 Your...

Did you know the greatest gift you can give yourself this holiday season isn't under the tree? It's reconnecting with your body and the pleasure already within you. We spend so much of this season focused outward, buying gifts, hosting family, and checking off endless to-do lists. But how often do we pause to give ourselves the gift of presence, the gift of self-connection, the gift of c...

Have you ever noticed how the holiday season seems to amplify everything? Joy feels brighter, but so do feelings of grief and loss. As we approach the week before Christmas and Hanukkah, this time of year stirs up bittersweet memories and a longing for a loved one or what used to be. What if I told you it's possible to hold space for both? To honor what's tender while still inviting ligh...

What if life after menopause wasn't something to fear or dread but instead a vibrant, empowering chapter where you can genuinely thrive physically, mentally, and emotionally? What if your healthiest, most fulfilling, and even most pleasurable years were still ahead? Today's guest is here to help us reframe the narrative around post-menopause and unlock the potential of this next phase. T...