Pinoy Love Language

What's wrong with being overly considerate of others? In this episode, we will explore: The beauty and shadow of being considerate Why you are inconsiderate with yourself: culture & conditioning How being overly considerate of others can affect your life Why the western approach to self care tips don't work for Filipino women (&men) How to practice being considerate with yourself w...

The problem with pity as it relates to your Filipino relationships. In this episode, we will explore- What is Awa(Pity) How does culture shape Awa in you and your family? What's the difference between Awa and Empathy Harm that Can Result from Awa Reshaping Awa to Empathy ...atbp This episode is brought to you by the your Free Assessment Guide for Filipino Women Navigating Guilt, Emotional Burnout,...

In this episode, we will explore- research why we spend less time in family gathering especially with loved ones with differing political views Reasons why we disagree and the different conversation styles used by immigrants and Filipino Americans. Ways to have better connection despite disagreements with political views. atbp.... This episode is brought to you by Story Therapy, a holistic approac...

In this episode, we explore- Difficulties navigating relationships with Filipino in laws when it comes to boundaries Why Filipino parents seem to discount your personal space What you can do today today to navigate this challenging relationship with love. If you need support navigating your relationship with your partner and how it relates to navigating relationships with your in-laws, book a free...

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Are you running with an old, outdated edition of your story that keeps you safe but limits your life to be the greatest-story-ever-told? In this episode, let's explore: How you have been conditioned to believe an outdated story about yourself The power of your imagination to update your story The Framework I use to help others reclaim their TRUE story How to align your IMAGINATION to your desire L...

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Are you running with an old, outdated edition of your story that keeps you safe but limits your life to be the greatest-story-ever-told?  In this episode, let's explore: why you will need more than changing your thoughts to change your story the power of your imagination, for better or worse aligning your imagination to your desire and more....atbp

What do you do when you want to evade or can't completely remember your childhood memories? You want to transform your inner critic, your wounds, but at a loss of words. In this episode, let's explore: the hurting child turned hurting adult why you need more than talk therapy how to give voice to your inner woundings or trauma and instill hope for your brighter future. Links mentioned: 5 D...

When culture is a better explanation than not giving an explanation or feeling what needs to be felt. This is part 2 of Culture as Excuse episode. In this episode, let's explore the purpose of culture is it me or my culture? who's behind the mask of culture atbp...many more To read the blog article: https://kalamansijuice.com/culture-as-excuse-using-culture-as-a-fallback-for-unprocessed-tr...

When culture is a better explanation than not giving an explanation or feeling what needs to be felt. In this episode, let's explore the purpose of culture is it me or my culture? who's behind the mask of culture atbp...many more To read the blog article: https://kalamansijuice.com/culture-as-excuse-using-culture-as-a-fallback-for-unprocessed-trauma/ To see Roanne's offerings: https://...

Why does the word "loob" often use in the Filipino language? Is it indicative of the inner workings of the Filipino psyche? In this episode, let's explore- the concept of loob What does it say about the worldview of the Filipino? What is kusang loob? How does the concept of kusa cause conflict in the Filipino/x homes? Ways to reconnect with this indigenous trait while adapting to the...

Why does the word LOOB appear so often in the Filipino lexicon? The English language do not do justice in its translation. At best, I translate it as the innermost workings of the Filipino psyche/soul. In this episode, let's explore: the concept of loob and its indigenous qualities what it means to be Malakas ang Loob How this trait is useful to the Filipinos in the motherland How this trait c...

In this episode, we explore, how to support a Filipino mom in her healing journey through accessing therapy for herself. Let's talk about: How to be supportive from the lens of an immigrant Filipino receiving therapy How to ask questions about mental health care while giving space to save face What potential questions to ask to without asking direct questions ...atpb If you're interested i...

Healthy boundary setting is essential but when its not culturally relevant can bring more harm to the relationship than good. In this episode, let's explore- What does boundary mean to you? Cultural nuance of boundary setting and space in the Western vs Filipino culture Blessing and Curse with the concept of interdependence Reframing your boundary setting to a more culturally responsive approa...

DECOLONIZATION is not a linear process but a route that is similar to a rotonda (round-about) where there are multiple entry points and exit routes. In this episode, let's explore: the Myth around a linear path to DECOLONIZATION the difference between (the mindset) UNCOLONIZED vs COLONIZED Filipinx The Path to UnCOLONIZE to DECOLONIZE and the many in-betweens The Eastern teaching on UN-Coloniz...

There is no doubt the years of colonization has deeply influenced the Filipino but has it completely colonized the Filipino psyche? In this episode, let's explore: the uncolonizable Filipino his practice and ancestral leaning to pre-colonial knowing how the uncolonizable Filipino manifests itself in everyday life the myth that the Filipino today can be wholly understood by his colonized mind a...

This is Part II of Island Talk , the first part is the very first episode of the Pinoy Love Language podcast. thank you po for listening! In this episode, we will explore- Ancestral communication style of early (indigenous) Filipinos Why the Filipino speaks in codes When what is conveyed is the opposite of what they mean. Ay sus! How to listen in to stories beyond what is articulated ...atbp. Link...

Kapwa is the value of deep interconnected-ness from which a Filipino traditionally navigate his world from. It is the ability to see someone as a part of you and you in them. In today's episode, we will explore the light and shadow side of this core value & why it can be a challenge to adhere to with our kapatids that are in diaspora.   In this episode, we will explore- the beauty of the...

What's an artful way to respond to tita and her intrusive questions and comments?  In this episode, we will explore- Why Filipinos asks personal questions How to enter spaces so that you can have a better cultural and familial experience Strategies to artfully and gracefully respond to tita so you can both have a win-win interaction with each other When to bring your shield in Filipino potluc...

Why do Filipinos like to ask personal questions?  Why do they greet by posing a question which feels more like an interrogation? In this episode, let's explore- the cultural function of asking questions for a Filipino difference between task oriented and relationship oriented questions the downside of social support groups how to be culturally ambidextrous rather than rigid Links shared by Ro...

What's the difference between shame and guilt and is there any evolutionary function for each? Does culture influence our feelings of shame? In this episode, let's explore- the evolutionary function of guilt guilt in a collectivistic culture vs in America how the focus on function and productivity can influence self-inflicted guilt antidote for guilt at iba pa...(and many more). Mentioned links in...

Honoring our elders and those who came before us is a beautiful gesture. When does the concept of utang na loob and the expectation to be grateful create harm in ourselves and in our relationships? In this episode, let's explore: the difference and adaptive use of being grateful versus gratefulness from fear-based intention how do you know if you have repressed your emotions in the name of utang n...

Are Catholics/ Christians the same elsewhere? In this episode, let's explore: Filipino religiosity in the motherland vs in America how immigration can transform the Filipino spirituality/religiosity how folk Catholicism is a buffer to colonized form of religiosity how do you see your God? ....and many more Check these out: Kalamansi Juice Blog  https://kalamansijuice.com/blog/  Self-pace...