Pinoy Love Language

Grief is not something you get over with,  for it is from the seed of love that grief sprouts from. In this episode- explore the concept of GRIEF through the eyes of two friends: Snail and Ant How grief can be a challenge to those supporting the Griever How the Griever can facilitate his own support and how it looks like to him/her. How support people can sit with the GRIEVER in times of inte...

There is a misconception that you have to be diagnosable Mental Health condition to seek therapy. In this episode, let's explore- myths about therapy vs coaching common reasons Filipinos seek therapy what to do next if you find yourself needing support,  and more Learn more about Story Therapy Here. To schedule a 30 minute complimentary consult, access Roanne's calendar here. To read the blog...

Honoring the wisdom of your body through the art of slowing down. Slow is fast. In this episode, let's explore how productivity mindset can wreck a havoc on your mind and body using your calendar to remind you to slow down the art of noticing, what you forget to do when you're moving too fast the real exercise for the mind/body to accelerate your happiness health Mentioned links and helpful resour...

Do you decide on your own accord? Social Psychologist and anthropologist tells us that culture is like water to fish. You can't deny its existence absent of noticing it. In this episode, let's explore- How culture influences your decision-making how shared identity is an invisible thread that connects us all the independence paradox of American mindset how to belong and initiate alignment with you...

What’s the cost of being the “good one,” the one expected to follow the path promised with lavish confetti and head nods of approval in the family? In this episode, let's explore- Who is the good child? the conditions that raise the good child the curse of the good child, manifestations and cost good to neither good or bad but just is Mentioned and /or other helpful resources: Blog Post: The Curse...

Were you well-provided for- a roof over your head, meals that don't go out of style, went to a good school but feel emotionally malnourished? In this episode, let's explore: how immigration for a Filipino immigrant may aggravate this malnourished cycle manifestations that you are emotionally hungry tips on how to feed your hungry parts and many more... Mentioned in this episode- Kalamansi Juice Bl...

EP 22 What is Pasalubong and why is it so endearing to many Filipinos? In this episode, explore- the definition of pasalubong and why it's valuable in the Filipino culture the light and shadow side of this Pinoy Love Language a case example of using pasalubong to ease up tension in a relationship ...and much more. Roanne mentioned the following - THE 7 PINOY LOVE LANGUAGE COURSE READ THE BLOG FOLL...

EP 21  Why is it that when you asks a Filipino sometimes that they go around the bush rather than telling you straight up what’s on their mind? What is the Pinoy Love Language of Ligoy? In this episode, let's explore- what is ligoy? What is the cultural and social implications of this Pinoy Love Language? How to respond to someone who is using this PLL? Using the RULER Method, a culturally re...

EP20 What is collective co-regulation? In this episode, we will explore- What's the difference between self-regulation (self-soothing) and co-regulation Is coregulation the same as co-dependency? If not, how are they different? How the Filipino culture hone coregulation over self-regulation the case of example of Junjun to learn how co-regulation is activated in a cultural and practical setting. I...

Why is sumbong a language of love for Filipinos and how do you love someone back who's using this love expression? In this episode, we will explore- the PInoy Love Language of Sumbong. What is it? How does it manifest? The shadow and light side of this PLL how to set healthy boundaries Don't forget that you can ask a question to this Pinay Therapist @ info@kalamansijuice.com Visit the blog at www....

Are Filipinos coregulators (someone who finds soothing in reaching out proximity with others)? In this episode, we will explore: what coregulation means codependency vs coregulation what happens to Filipinos in immigration & theis soothing strategies how to coregulate in a healthy manner with Filipino loved ones. Don't forget to visit the blog at www.kalamansijuice.com Access the FREE Pinoy Lo...

How does self-soothing strategies vary between individualistic and collective cultures? In this episode, explore- what self-regulation is and how our caregivers tend to you influence our ability to self-soothe how you learn to cope as children when caregivers do not fulfill your emotional need the connection between the Pinoy Love Languages and how Filipinos seek and express affection ...and many...

Met anyone who was taught to be namaligno? This is one disease causality that is used in the motherland to explain an unexplained phenomenon. In this episode, let’s explore- What is namaligno? What use does this concept play in the Filipino culture? Does namaligno help heal or delay health care access? ...and many more. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love T...

Why is it important to culturally understand how Filipinos explain the cause(s) of diseases? Does this still influence in diaspora? In this episode, let’s explore- Meaning of Sumpa The difference between Sumpa and Gaba How this disease causality renders delay in care (physical and mental health) How shame plays a role in accessing care ….and many more. INTERESTED IN STORY THERAPY ? Learn more HERE...

Lihi is one way Filipinos in the Islands may use to explain a cause of a disease/ deformity based on maternal deprivation during pregnancy. In this episode, we will explore- What is Lihi? How Lihi affects our help-seeking behaviors How Lihi still influence our modern Filipino mind-set ...and many more. HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bo...

Naku, manang-mana ka sa tatay mo! (you're just like your father) In this episode, let's explore- the disease causality of Mana. what is it? How does it affect the way Filipinos perceive care and treatment how does Mana continue to manifest in our modern world and recommendations on how to bridge the cultural gap on seeking treatment/care. HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, lea...

Your mental health is your health. There is a deep stigma in seeking mental health services that lies in the veins of many Filipinos. In this episode, let’s explore- Why Filipinos don’t (easily) access mental health care Filipino mental health and why the language we use especially with our children is important How we reinforce “toughness” in the Filipino culture How you can pivot your narrative...

In this episode- Discover the antidote for the PLL of TAMPO which is SUYO. What is suyo? How can you attune with your loved one while negotiating a new way of speaking a language you both understand And many more.... HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW Free Webi...

Have you experienced mom upset but not quite angry and when you try to speak to her she claims she’s fine. You give her more distance because you think that’s what she needs and her upset feeling becomes lethal…. In this episode, let’s explore- The PLL of Tampo. What is it? Why someone uses this PLL and their secret longing Tips on how to read TAMPO and recommendations on how to respond to it a cu...

Why can’t you just say what you mean? Many times, socio-political, geography and many other variables that influence culture including history of colonization influence cultural norms and behavior. In this episode, let’s explore- How/Why history shapes our language Why the cultural context of how we use language in the Philippines and in America/diaspora differ and matters How culture and the envi...

You might ask when does utang na loob OR debt of gratitude ever gets repaid. Many children of immigrants feel the burden to not just pay but to overpay I debt they are grateful for but never asked for. In this episode, let’s explore- The concept of utang versus utang na loob What is utang na loob and why its a more salient concept in diaspora The expectation to Re-Pay and how it’s loss in translat...

What is a tagapamagitan and why are their roles scarce in the diaspora? In this episode, explore- The role of cultural mediators in the everyday life of a Filipino How the breakage in communication between immigrant Filipinos and their offspring can be harmed or bridge by a tagapamagitan The different roles of a tagapamagitan Learn ways to demystify Filipino cultural nuances HELP US REACH MORE PIN...

Filipinos are known to have “mataas na pakikisalamuha,” which means the depth of relationality with others goes skin deep. Children in the motherland are taught to heighten their cultural sensing of the other beyond words. Pakiramdam, the sensing of the other beyond words through reading non-verbal cues, sensing and feeling create polarized understanding of each other in America/diaspora. In gener...

Despite the fact that most Filipinos are bilingual, our ways of expression from the American language of expression differ in many ways. In this regard, Filipino immigrants and their children may experience cultural gaps and miscommunication in their relationships. Some of these miscommunication can even result to negative imprints leading to feelings of not being good enough or unloved. To slowly...

What cultural stories have been keeping your from living an abundant life? From your riches? Money is simply a manifestation of your abundant mind-set but does not end there. What stories have you heard growing up about money? About the rich? Or the poor? In this episode, explore: How soap operas can shape your money mind-set How the concept of Togetherness or walang Iwanan can keep you from manif...