Picayune Conversations

To wrap up Season 1 of Picayune Conversations, Lindsay and Calvin discuss the idea of "first thought, second thought," noting that even though some patterns of thinking may be reflexive/automatic, we do maintain the choice of whether to reorient and give an alternate meaning to a scenario or experience. This powerful realization is applied specifically to self-compassion and self-respect, but can...

It's tempting, especially for intuitive individuals, to avoid making (and maintaining) "pet theories" about others. This discussion explores the importance of humility and hypotheses for those who rely- however reliably- on their intuitions for understanding human behavior. Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6

Can people from different generations be friends? What are the benefits of intergenerational friendship? Calvin & Lindsay share some thoughts (and experiences!) about forging and maintaining relationships beyond the lines of generational subgroups. Specifically, they discuss the importance of giving younger generations the chance to be teachers, and encouraging older generations in awareness o...

Counselors and therapists often describe themselves as "eclectic" in their approach to helping clients. But not all eclecticism is the same! This short conversation explores the difference between borrowing a broad range of tactics/skills/techniques and borrowing from sets of (sometimes) conflicting ideas about how people function and change. Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6

Calvin and Lindsay discuss their approach to running a private practice, including avoiding the traps of hyper-focus on client care, seeing employees as mere revenue generators, treating 1099 employees like W2 employees, and underpaying folks you work with. Contact us: https://forms.gle/QedHEjtHmgUFwFuQA

Lindsay interviews Calvin about his 2021 book "The Cooperative Family: How Ridding Ourselves of Competitive Goals Helps Us Flourish" Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6 Purchase the book: https://henosis-press.square.site/pro ... https://www.amazon.com/Cooperative-Fa ...

Lindsay & Calvin discuss how Adler's ideas about movement away from inferiority toward superiority are relevant in architectural design. King Arthur's Round Table, Daniel Libeskind's Jewish Museum (Berlin), Mont Saint Michel, La Sagrada Familia, and even the modern American shopping mall are all discussed as emblematic of the experiential power of architectural design. How we design, build, ex...

Lindsay and Calvin discuss the importance of curating a social media experience by being mindful and intentional about what we expose ourselves to and what we participate in. A passive approach to social media engagement leads to a feeling of helplessness and (often) anxiety and depression. An active approach leads to accessing and saturation in life-affirming and enriching media that is positive....

Calvin discusses the popular idea that spouses/partners must make sacrifices to one another if a relationship is to go well. Statements like "happy wife, happy life" or "just learn how to say 'yes dear'" are worth a laugh, but quietly contribute to a fundamentally unhealthy approach to relationships. Petulant participation in a relationship is a recipe for disaster, but so is chronic 'virtuous' se...

Lindsay & Calvin discuss several areas in which folks tend to unnecessarily pathologize normal experience, including conflict in relationships, compelling (some say "negative") emotions, and mistakes in parenting. Questions? Comments? Suggestions? Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6

There are two modes of perceiving mental health conditions. Psychology of Possession focuses on what we have : e.g., "I have anxiety/depression/anger issues" Psychology of Use focuses on what we do with what we have, and acknowledges that many of the symptoms we currently classify as "diseases" are- in fact- quite useful. Lindsay & Calvin discuss the importance and implications of understandin...

No, we're not talking about cultural/public cancellation- we're talking about cancellation POLICIES for service-based businesses! Lindsay & Calvin discuss the importance of equality and respect in developing a policy, and the implications of following through with whatever policy you have. Contact us: https://forms.gle/eJtnXzBQKrACJEu2A

Lindsay interviews Calvin about his recent article in the Journal of Individual Psychology, which deals with the emotion of contempt and its place in contemporary political discourse. Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6 Article: Armerding, C. D. (2022). Contemptuous political artisanship: An Adlerian conceptualization and call to action. Journal of Individual Psychology, 78(4), 479-489...

Lindsay & Calvin discuss how Adlerian therapists work with early memories. In addition, we talk through the earliest memory of a famous public figure, and demonstrate what the memory can say about a person's approach to perceiving and acting in the world. We try to answer the questions: What is the meaning of early memories? How reliable are memories? Should I try to figure out what is symboli...

Lindsay & Calvin share their success in drumming up business by avoiding fancy (and expensive) marketing gimmicks, and instead focusing on doing excellent work, staying true to their values, and pursuing human flourishing for everyone they employ, including themselves. Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6

Lindsay and Calvin discuss the understandable- but fundamentally damaging- idea that the solution to anxiety is safety. Applications to phobias, parenting, and everything in between are explored. Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6

Can dreams tell you something about yourself? What do dreams symbolize? Do they reveal hidden truths about you? Calvin and Lindsay discuss dreams and how they can reveal what Alfred Adler called the "lifestyle," our patterned way of managing challenges. One of Lindsay's recurring dreams from childhood serves as an example of how we can understand and work with dreams. Contact us: https://forms.gle...

Lindsay and Calvin discuss common myths/misunderstandings about boundaries by focusing on the basic principle of mutual respect. What are some examples of boundaries? How do you set boundaries? Why does it seem as though others don't respect your boundaries? We cover this, and more! Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6

Lindsay and Calvin continue their discussion of effective parenting strategies, this time opting to answer some questions sent in by some of our viewers! We cover what to do when your children are in conflict, how to stop sounding like a broken record, and how to deal with a child lying to you. Send in more questions if you have any! Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6

Lindsay and Calvin continue their discussion of effective parenting strategies, this time opting to answer some questions sent in by some of our viewers! We cover what to do when your children are in conflict, how to stop sounding like a broken record, and how to deal with a child lying to you. Send in more questions if you have any! Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6

Counselors/therapists, come train with us in England this summer (2023)! Click here to find out more about our 4-day intensive course in England: https://subscribepage.io/n0RJPA?fbcli ... Lindsay and Calvin discuss the importance of mutual respect in relationships, as well as some practical take-aways that couples can use to improve their day-to-day interactions with spouses and/or partners. Conta...

Calvin & Lindsay share a few quick parenting strategies/nudges that pack a big punch without a huge overhaul in your approach to parenting. Special focus is given in this video to younger children, and future episodes will address other hacks that may better apply to older children and adolescents. Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6

Authenticity is a virtue heavily promoted by Western, individualist cultures, and for good reason. But does the virtue of authenticity have its limits? How might authenticity push up against other values/virtues that are necessary for thriving, social living? Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6

Rather than seeing problematic emotions or behavior as diseases, we can see them as adaptations that were (at one time) necessary, but now are poorly suited to the challenges we're facing. This doesn't excuse behavior, but can stir us up to compassion (including self-compassion), willingness to change, and curiosity about the challenges we're facing in the present moment. Contact us: https://forms...

Do you ever want to make a change, but then struggle to implement the behaviors needed to make that change? This video explores the idea that this is much less about lack of discipline or fortitude, and much more about desire. Ask us anything, make suggestions, or just let us know you're listening/watching! Contact us: https://forms.gle/Y9hhTNEhzNx9sdwr6