perimeno-PAUSED

This one is Heather's episode, and she comes with a topic. Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather get into neurodiversity, what it actually means to live with ADHD, autism, or any combination of the above, and why so many women in midlife are only just now getting the vocabulary to describe what their whole life has felt like. They talk about masking, morning routines, medication decisions, the exhaustion...

Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather are back, freshly returned from their respective summer adventures and in the mood to get into it. This one covers the quiet shift that happens somewhere after 45, when the scarcity mindset starts to lose its grip, hustle gives way to something that actually looks like wisdom, and you realize that not having all the answers might be the whole point. They talk about pa...

Episode 20: Is It in the Cards? What starts with a random knock at Rebecca’s door from a young man warning that a fire is starting in her yard somehow turns into a conversation about tarot, intuition, divine nudges, and whether the universe is constantly trying to get our attention (spoiler: we think maybe yes). We talk about why tarot gets such a weird rap, where some of that fear-based religious...

Episode 19: Catching Up and Getting Woo We’re back together and doing what we do best: catching up on life, big feelings, and mildly unhinged spiritual tangents. Rebecca is fresh off a deeply meaningful retreat in Australia, Heather has closed another chapter in corporate life, and Jessica is in the very real “oh wow, I really did this” phase of startup while still striving toward that steady payc...

In this special extended episode, we sit down with narcissist-proof coach Dorothy Livio Vaughan for an honest, tender, sometimes uncomfortable conversation about what narcissism actually looks like up close, and why it can be so hard to see clearly while you're still inside it. Dorothy walks us through how these patterns show up, why we instinctively know the truth long before our minds catch...

This one started as a bad day. Mars entered Aries, a business partner was being a lot, and somebody was eating Easter candy at a genuinely alarming rate. So Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather did what you do when you need to recover: they got together and talked about everything. Which TV characters they secretly are (Beth Dutton, Hermione Granger, Samantha Jones on testosterone pellets, among others)....

Friendship changes as we do, and this episode gets into all of it. Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather talk about the friendships that deepen, the ones that drift, and what connection, loyalty, and mutual effort look like in midlife. It’s warm, thoughtful, and for anyone who has ever treasured a soul-friend, grieved a friendship, or realized they no longer have energy for one-sided relationships. About...

In this episode, we talk about the work nobody sees but that somehow always gets done. Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather unpack the mental load, emotional load, and constant behind-the-scenes labor so many women carry at home, at work, and in relationships. It’s honest, validating, and for anyone who has ever felt exhausted by everything they’re holding that no one else seems to notice. About the host...

At what point does something stop being a luxury and start becoming a necessity? In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather talk about all the things they do to hold themselves together in midlife: workouts, supplements, hormones, skincare, beauty treatments, better bedding, nervous system support, and the creature comforts that make life feel more livable. We get into what is vanity, what is...

What would you say to the young woman you used to be if she would actually listen? In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather look back at their younger selves with honesty, tenderness, and the kind of wisdom that only comes from living a little more life. They talk about what they wish they had known about self-trust, shame, boundaries, rest, relationships, and the fact that your brain is not...

Peace sounds simple until you try to keep it. In this episode, we talk about what it really means to find and protect our peace in midlife when life is full, loud, and constantly asking something of us. From family dynamics and relationships to work stress, overthinking, and expectations, we unpack the ways our peace gets disrupted and why it can feel so hard to hold onto it. We get honest about b...

Spring is here, the astrology is astrology-ing, and we are talking about renewal, fresh starts, and what wants to bloom in this season of life. In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather explore the energy of spring, the pull to begin again, and the difference between reinventing yourself and returning to yourself. We talk about what we are releasing, what we are calling in, and how midlife gi...

In this episode, we talk about crying at work, almost crying at work, crying in the bathroom at work, and the very blurry line between being professional and being an actual human being. Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather unpack the moments that push us over the edge in midlife: overwhelm, criticism, hormones, burnout, being asked for one more thing when we are already hanging on by a thread. Funny, ho...

Have you ever walked into a room with purpose and then immediately forgotten why? Same. In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather talk about brain fog, missing words, lost phones, misplaced glasses, and the very specific midlife experience of feeling like your brain has 47 tabs open at all times. We get into stress, sleep, hormones, perimenopause, and the strange mix of humor and fear that ca...

Hosted by Rebecca, Jessica & Heather Why do our brains jump straight to the worst possible outcome… even when nothing bad has actually happened? In this episode of PerimenoPAUSED , Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather dive into the fine art of catastrophizing: that familiar midlife mental spiral where a neutral situation somehow turns into a full-blown disaster movie in your head. About the hosts: Re...

Hosted by Rebecca, Jessica & Heather Something happens in midlife where your tolerance for nonsense drops dramatically, especially when it comes to bad customer service. In this episode of PerimenoPAUSED , we talk about the small moments that can instantly ruin your day: endless hold music, being transferred five times, chatbots pretending to be human, subscription services you can’t cancel, a...

Why does my body feel like it’s completing a security update without my permission? In “What Is This Body Part?” we get into the very real, very absurd physical changes of midlife, including new pains, new textures, new “wait, has that always been there?” discoveries, and the constant mental math of “Is this hormones, stress, aging, or just Tuesday?” It’s equal parts validation and comedy, with a...

Perimenopause is ready to throw hands 😅 In this episode, we unpack the random rage, tears, and emotional whiplash that shows up out of nowhere—and what to do when you can’t tell if you’re “fine” or five seconds from a meltdown. In “Why Am I So Upset?” we talk about the emotional side of midlife and perimenopause from the hair-trigger sensitivity, to the irritability, the grief-y feelings, and the...

Hosted by Rebecca, Jessica & Heather Imposter syndrome: that voice that shows up right when you’re stretching into something new. In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather share our own stories of reinvention: leaving jobs, moving states, launching new work, stepping into leadership, and saying yes before we feel completely ready. We talk about what it means to feel like an imposter even...

For Lunar New Year, we wanted an episode that feels like a reset without the pressure to “new year, new you” our way into burnout. In this conversation, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather talk about fresh starts and beginning again in midlife by releasing what no longer fits, and choosing our next chapter on purpose. We get into the small, practical ways to turn intention into real movement and momentu...

Hosted by Rebecca & Jessica Valentine’s Day: hallmark holiday, sacred ritual, or just another thing to add to the calendar you’re already managing for everyone else? In this episode, Rebecca and Jessica unpack the many “-tines” of midlife love: Valentine’s, Galentine’s, and the everyday kind that looks like staying connected when you’re running a household. We talk about how intimacy changes o...

Hosted by Rebecca & Jessica What happens when life hits pause, and you realize it might actually be an invitation? In our very first episode of PerimenoPAUSED, Rebecca and Jessica introduce the show and the midlife shifts that brought us here. As staunch Gen Xers, we reflect on MacGyvering our way through a phase that feels disruptive, disorienting, and strangely liberating all at once, from l...