Parenting Doctors Podcast

It is important to teach children how to validate emotion.  Interestingly, it helps kids to remind them that they don't even have to agree when they validate emotion.  An apology requires sincerity with minimizing.    

Balancing Privacy and Protection With Teenagers' Social Media 1) Encourage Transparency 2) Smart Technology 3) Social Media Family Standards (and Limits)    

Sports has three goals for kids: 1.  To learn how to follow directions from somebody besides your parent; 2. To develop character which including learning to be unselfish; 3. To have FUN!   In this brief podcast, I identify a key book that every sports parent should read.  John Tauer's book,  Why LESS is MORE for WOSPs (Well-Intentioned, Overinvolved Sports Parents): How to Be the Best Sports Pare...

You can Agree   Or   You can Negotiate   The goal of negotiation is three-fold:   Develop PUP – poise under pressure Help children Accept that they have choices. They don’t have to agree.  Reinforces negotiation and teaches them to think critically.

This is a large topic.  Some of the keys include what parents can do and what teachers can do. Besides psychological treatment, let's discuss some things parents can do.  I remind us of the behavioral rehearsal, specifically the goodbye ritual.  Another reminder of healthy attachment with two moments of warmth per day.   A reminder of the importance of speaking good into our children / and calling...

This is a large topic but I wanted to give you some quick solutions.  First, we need to be aware of how the meltdown may be behavioral, emotional, or an attachment issue.  Second, we want to address the issue of reinforcement - there are things we do that reinforce tantrums.  "You must go to the coffee appt."  "You must go to the job interview."  Or, the child needs to go to school.   I provide an...

We have an extensive video on our youtube channel that articulates the five golden coins of loving angry children!  Check us out at www.parentingdoctors.com This podcast focuses on the key points in a few minutes.  

Children will go down the rabbit holes of negative cycles.  Sometimes these cycles include manipulation or passive aggressive behavior.  Parents can nip these behaviors in the bud by speaking good into children.  Nip Negative Cycles in the Bud by Speaking Good Into Children!

In our first parenting podcast of the year, we return to explore decision making.  Many parents are susceptible to approaching their parenting as maximizers versus Satisficers.  Maximizers will go to 10 stores in order to find the perfect pair of jeans.  Satisficers will be content with the jeans at the first store because they are "good enough."  So often, we as parents put our "maximizer mentali...

This completes our four recommendations for balanced families: 1) Family Dinners 2) Two moments of warmth with each child per day And parts 3 and 4 are completed in this podcast: 3) Consistency - when parents are perceived as reliable... 4) Rituals and Traditions - the bedrock of healthy families....

Growth Versus Fixed Traits In Our Children:  Why We Sometimes Restrict Emotional Development?   Some parents will say "Oh, he's just shy!" Or, "he's got a rebellious streak."  These types of comments over-emphasize fixed character traits and undervalue the reality that our children are on a path of growth and development.  

When children say "I hate you," "Go Away," "Time to go home - to a guest," these comments involve avoiding the subject.  Anger Management is essentially being vulnerable by staying on the subject.  Practice, practice, practice!  

Part 1 emphasized the importance of family dinners.  Our second recommendation emphasizes the importance of daily moments of connectedness.  2 moments of warmth per day!  

This week's parenting podcast starts off my four recommendations for maintaining poise on the balance beam of family life.  What are those things that families can do to stay balanced?  Part 1 --- Family dinners!  

Helping our children manage their anger is extremely critical for well-being and the long-term success of their future.  There are several things we can do to help our children manage their anger.  The first and most important element for families is for parents to see "expressing anger appropriately" as a positive for family well-being.  

Youth deal with many stressors nowadays.  Social media pressures and over scheduling in academics, sports, and activities are just some of them.  The following podcast consists Five Pieces of Advice that Every Family Should Apply.  

The last thing kids need is conditional love. Instead, they need unconditional love.  No matter what kids do, healthy parents will love them no matter what.  Drugs, teenage pregnancy, juveline detention, not getting Ivy League scholarships, not winning, not breaking records, misspelling on tests, etc.  All of these things and more prevent unconditional love.  Why is that?  There are many reasons f...

There are so many advantages to losing a basketball game and as parents we can turn losses into life lessons, emotional resilience, and the ability to embrace adversity like amazing cancer survivors  Tiffany Powles Garber  or my sister  Katherine Colino  who embraced adversity and defeated cancer (with God's help). Let's join together and teach our kids life lessons as we value losing and failing...

Facilitating Courage In The Family: Bravery & Vulnerability Facilitating courage has to go beyond belief - and to personal impact.  I provide 3 Keys to applying courage in the family. 1.  Reinforce effort more than outcome. 2.  Share moments of breakthroughs with your children.   3.  Take the time to be vulnerable.   We are talking about acceptance and courage to be vulnerability.  

How to improve communication between a teacher and parent when a child has a behavior problem in the classroom. If your teacher is dealing with behavior problems with your child, and gives you a vague explanation, try to ask for a specific example.  If they can’t, ask him or her if they would be willing to write down the incident so you can walk your child through the incident and what could have...

I spoke to over 90 mental health experts in the Midwest during three days last week.  Many reports that parents put significant pressure on their kids when it comes to academics.  College scholarships depend on academic excellence.  Jobs depend on academic success. Likewise, parents put significant pressure on their kids when it comes to academics.  College scholarships depend on academic excellen...

This week's Parenting Podcast is titled "Parenting Teenagers With FOMO -- Fear of Missing Out." There are a range of stressors that tweens and teenagers are dealing with nowadays. FOMO is one of those stressors, particularly as it relates to teenagers and their cell phones. I identify five solutions to approaching FOMO with your teens.

Family dinners remains one of the best predictors of healthy families.  Discussing grief at dinner time includes accepting feelings and self care.  Other practical things to do in honoring the legacy of the loved one include: 1.  Slideshow 2.  Small remembrances 3.  Humor 4.  Identifying positive attributes 5.  Gratitude

Today's podcast is Five Action Steps to Help You Teach Your Child To Never Quit!   In My practice, I am seeing quitting happening quite frequently on the sports field or court.  It is not uncommon for kids to quit family games, from monopoly to the wiffle ball game, or the chess game with Grandpa.  Parents have to put forth some effort to reverse this trend. Here are some action steps parents can...

A man was going through a difficult time and his daughter remarked to the gentleman that she "wasn't proud of him."  What does a father say to this experience?  Is the only and "normal" respond sadness and despair?  Or, is there another approach he can take to the relationship? And, what does a parent - child relationship need to buffer against the ups and downs of life, the highlights and lowligh...