Parenting Doctors Podcast

Parents are paying $20 an hour and sometimes as much as $50 an hour for video game tutors.  What's the problem with tutors? 1) Lowering self esteem and confidence  2) Reinforcing addiction (video game) 3) Reinforcing followship rather than leadership   See Dr. Dan's new book:   https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

Check out the following videos at our Parenting Doctors youtube channel: The Dr. van Ingen Clinical Psychology & Parenting Show on Anger. (Dr. Dan and Professor Dr. Sarah present together) on Loving Angry Children: 5 Golden Coin Insights to Working with Anger in Families This week's podcast presents 5 techniques, 5 ART's: Anger Reduction Techniques, that can help both parents and their children (k...

We live in a strange Digital Culture.  Everyone revolving their lives around cell phones.  But, not everyone.  Healthy Families are working against these water currents.  Healthy families have parents who say "No Phones At Dinner!"   Check out Dr. Dan's book You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist at Amazon now.     https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20    

I share some of my failures in life, mostly growing up.  In my book: You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist  https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20 I mention that parents should know their top 10.  I share some of my top 10 and other minor failures.   I'm a big proponent of being unafraid of anxiety. Likewise I'm a big fan of being unafraid of failure.  To help our kids learn t...

Guilt is good. Shame is not.  

This is a simple warning to parents.  Yes, it's an unbalanced view on social media.  The view presented here is not all encompassing and obviously doesn't include the positives about social media or recommendations for families.  This podcast is a direct warning about what your kids' lives can look like without limits and considerations.   See other podcasts and our youtube channel  https://www.yo...

10 Keys to UNLOCKING confidence in Kids.  We don't have to wait until kids are young adults to develop confidence.  That's what happened to me, quite honestly.  Instead, let's develop confidence early.  Here are the 10 Keys to Confident Kids.   

Many parents have rough backgrounds.  Many parents have "triggers" and when you deal with the stuff of raising kids who may yell, back talk, name call, or accidentally break a dish/glass, this can TRIGGER stuff in you.  Check out this podcast and LOVE ANYWAY!!!  

Persistent Redo's, patience, and the power of praise When a 4-year old says "what" inappropriately and noncompliantly, what should a parent do?   Check out this brief and terrific example!  

Social Media is related to unhappiness.  Does it cause anxiety?  We are still waiting on randomized controlled empirical research to determine the relationship between social media and anxiety disorders.   But, let's just a take a look at anxiety problems generally speaking.  And, let's examine what happens with each of these examples that I mention today.  What should parents do?    First, parent...

Some personal reflections on our new book:   You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist: 7 Keys to Excellence in Parenting.

Helping Children, Preteens, & Teens with Secure & Confident Comebacks   Children need to know what to say as an alternative from sinking low, playing in the mud, lowering themselving and entering into the negative.  Instead, what is a secure and confident comeback in the face of being mocked?  

As parents, we have to overcome our histories to be excellent.  If you were raised in anger, you have to overcome that reinforcement history and respond in different ways than how you were trained.  If you grew up regularly criticized, you will have to overcome a tendency on your part to find the negative and overreact with the heavy hand of criticism.   Ambivalent soothing and ambivalence in the...

It is important to teach children how to validate emotion.  Interestingly, it helps kids to remind them that they don't even have to agree when they validate emotion.  An apology requires sincerity with minimizing.    

Balancing Privacy and Protection With Teenagers' Social Media 1) Encourage Transparency 2) Smart Technology 3) Social Media Family Standards (and Limits)    

Sports has three goals for kids: 1.  To learn how to follow directions from somebody besides your parent; 2. To develop character which including learning to be unselfish; 3. To have FUN!   In this brief podcast, I identify a key book that every sports parent should read.  John Tauer's book,  Why LESS is MORE for WOSPs (Well-Intentioned, Overinvolved Sports Parents): How to Be the Best Sports Pare...

You can Agree   Or   You can Negotiate   The goal of negotiation is three-fold:   Develop PUP – poise under pressure Help children Accept that they have choices. They don’t have to agree.  Reinforces negotiation and teaches them to think critically.

This is a large topic.  Some of the keys include what parents can do and what teachers can do. Besides psychological treatment, let's discuss some things parents can do.  I remind us of the behavioral rehearsal, specifically the goodbye ritual.  Another reminder of healthy attachment with two moments of warmth per day.   A reminder of the importance of speaking good into our children / and calling...

This is a large topic but I wanted to give you some quick solutions.  First, we need to be aware of how the meltdown may be behavioral, emotional, or an attachment issue.  Second, we want to address the issue of reinforcement - there are things we do that reinforce tantrums.  "You must go to the coffee appt."  "You must go to the job interview."  Or, the child needs to go to school.   I provide an...

We have an extensive video on our youtube channel that articulates the five golden coins of loving angry children!  Check us out at www.parentingdoctors.com This podcast focuses on the key points in a few minutes.  

Children will go down the rabbit holes of negative cycles.  Sometimes these cycles include manipulation or passive aggressive behavior.  Parents can nip these behaviors in the bud by speaking good into children.  Nip Negative Cycles in the Bud by Speaking Good Into Children!

In our first parenting podcast of the year, we return to explore decision making.  Many parents are susceptible to approaching their parenting as maximizers versus Satisficers.  Maximizers will go to 10 stores in order to find the perfect pair of jeans.  Satisficers will be content with the jeans at the first store because they are "good enough."  So often, we as parents put our "maximizer mentali...

This completes our four recommendations for balanced families: 1) Family Dinners 2) Two moments of warmth with each child per day And parts 3 and 4 are completed in this podcast: 3) Consistency - when parents are perceived as reliable... 4) Rituals and Traditions - the bedrock of healthy families....

Growth Versus Fixed Traits In Our Children:  Why We Sometimes Restrict Emotional Development?   Some parents will say "Oh, he's just shy!" Or, "he's got a rebellious streak."  These types of comments over-emphasize fixed character traits and undervalue the reality that our children are on a path of growth and development.  

When children say "I hate you," "Go Away," "Time to go home - to a guest," these comments involve avoiding the subject.  Anger Management is essentially being vulnerable by staying on the subject.  Practice, practice, practice!