Parenting Doctors Podcast

Episode 8: Do You Want to Be Right or Do You Want to Connect? Understanding Narcissistic Patterns in Relationships There comes a point in some relationships where conflict stops being about solving a problem and starts becoming a battle for emotional survival. In this episode of What We Were Never Taught, we explore narcissistic patterns—not as labels to place on people, but as relationship dynami...

Episode #7: The Relationship Blueprint / Relationship Story Arc In this episode of What We Were Never Taught, we introduce the concept of the Relationship Blueprint—the unconscious emotional template that shapes how we experience love, conflict, and connection across our lifetime. Most people assume relationship struggles come from either “this partner” or “childhood alone.” But the truth is more...

Episode #6: The Conversation Most Couples Never Have How to Talk About Hurt Without Creating More Hurt Most couples don't avoid difficult conversations because they don't care. They avoid them because they don't know how to talk about hurt without escalating conflict, triggering defensiveness, or creating even more pain. In this episode of What We Were Never Taught, Dr. Dan explores one of the mos...

Episode #5: You Think You’re Explaining Yourself—But You’re Actually Losing Them In most relationships, disconnection doesn’t happen in big, dramatic moments—it happens in small conversations where defensiveness takes over before understanding can land. In this episode of What We Were Never Taught, I explore why defensiveness is one of the most common and most damaging patterns in relationships, a...

In this 4th episode of What We Were Never Taught, we explore one of the most recognizable patterns in relationships: why some people tend to cling when they feel disconnected, while others pull away when emotions become intense. Drawing from attachment theory in a simple and accessible way, this episode breaks down how different attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant—sha...

This is my Episode #3 of my new relationship show podcast. Why Emotionally Unavailable People Attract Each Other: The emotional skills we were never taught about intimacy Emotionally unavailable people often attract each other because the relationship feels familiar, safe, and validating of their existing beliefs about intimacy. Familiarity feels like chemistry Neither person has to face deep vuln...

In this episode of What We Were Never Taught, we explore one of the most painful dynamics in relationships: what it really means when people feel like they are no longer being heard. Most people assume the problem is that someone has stopped listening. But in reality, listening often breaks down slowly over time due to emotional overload, repeated misunderstandings, defensiveness, and disconnectio...

After spending more than a decade focused on parenting and families, I’m beginning a new conversation about relationships, emotional connection, communication, and resilience. In this first episode, I share parts of my own journey through divorce, shame, growth, and the realization that many couples are never truly taught the emotional and communication skills needed to navigate difficult seasons...

This is my first parenting podcast in 5 years.  I am returning to encourage a new generation of parents.  I will be drawing from my books. My first Parenting Podcast in 5 years.  I woke up this morning at 3 a.m. and put together my first parenting podcast in a long time.  My greatest gift, my calling, and my purpose is ENCOURAGEMENT.  I came back to this parenting podcast because I want to reach a...

I had the joy of interviewing Addison Ruscoe, Voice of the Riverview Rams.  If you like the art and science of sports broadcasting, this podcast is definitely for you.  If you love sports or the character of sports, this is a good one.  Great life lessons, and the value of discovering purpose is at the heart of today's podcast.  We also discussed Ram Football for 15 minutes toward the end of today...

My Daughter is Playing in the Regional Championship Varsity Football State Playoff Game Tomorrow Night.  Why Not?  A coach who had a huge impact on my life is a man named Von Shepherd.  He touched me in many ways at a window of time when I needed him most.  He taught me several quotes and lines and phrases.  He had a simple two-word question that I remembered today being out on the field at Riverv...

Listen to some of the minutes toward the end of my interview with Meghan Buchanon, a true overcomer who we all can be inspired by.  A few of these minutes can apply to the Everests that we all face.   A few of these minutes were taken from my interview with Meghan Buchanan, an Aerospace Engineer, Adventure Athlete and Motivational Speaker. She has set her sights on becoming the 1st Rocket Scientis...

Today's interview is with Meghan Buchanan, an Aerospace Engineer, Adventure Athlete and Motivational Speaker. She has set her sights on becoming the 1st Rocket Scientist to climb the 7 Summits, 5th US WOMAN to complete the EXPLORERS GRAND SLAM (climbing the world’s 7 Summits and last degree ski to the North and South Poles), and eventually 1st US WOMAN to complete the Adventurers Grand Slam (unsup...

Dr. Dan presents his recent show on the Dr. van Ingen Clinical Psychology and Parenting Show with a feature on his upcoming webinar on the Top Ten Best-Ever Anxiety Treatment Techniques. He references a book by Donald Miller who identifies four characters in each of our life story: victim, villain, Hero, & Guide.  There are some good and rich ideas that can be discussed with families on when these...

This podcast helps provide a recipe for emotional disaster.  This insight also helps give us clarity on what we can do to not get stressed out with upcoming performances.   Dr. Dan is a clinical psychologist who works as an anxiety specialist, a parenting author, a national speaker on anxiety and neuroscience [for 10 years], and one who is passionate about Sport Psychology. He has worked with olym...

We interviewed Ariel Faulkner on the Dr. van Ingen Clinical Psychology & Parenting Show.  Today's theme was on female athletes.  If you parent a daughter who is an athlete, this is the podcast for you.  Ariel is a nationally renown expert and she provides specific information to help with the nutrition of your female basketball players, track athletes, soccer players, cross country runners, softba...

Do Teens get angry or have anger flair ups around a lot of stuff?  Yes.  Do they especially around the phone?  Of course!   This week's podcast offers some key anger management techniques that would be helpful to consider.     Dr. Dan is a clinical psychologist who works as an anxiety specialist, a parenting author, a national speaker on anxiety and neuroscience [for 10 years], and one who is pass...

Today's Parenting Podcast is on the Time Technique.  First, he discusses the happiness trap.  Then, Dr. Dan discusses how our relationship with time is related to our degree of happiness.  He breaks down the fact that our tendency to process information looks differently when we are talking about the past, present, or future.     Dr. Dan is a clinical psychologist who works as an anxiety specialis...

"Never Give Up" are three wonderful words that need to get lived out by parents for their kids.  Let's live it, not just say it.   Dr. Dan shared some stories about the people around him who have inspired him to never give up.  Be inspired!  Grow! Change! Evolve!  And let the "Never Give Up" attitude be internalized in your thinking!    

This is a lesson on happiness for all families.     Dr. Dan is a clinical psychologist who is an anxiety specialist, a parenting author, a National speaker on neuroscience, and one who is passionate about Sport Psychology. He has worked with olympic training athletes, world champion power lifters, professional baseball players, college swimmers and tennis players and lots of youth athletes. Dr Dan...

Do you have a high school student thinking about college?  If you are planning for college, this is the premier interview.  This interview itself offers a ton of value to your thinking and conceptualization of key issues for parents preparing for college.    Check out the PARENTS' STARTER KIT TO TEEN SELF- DISCOVERY, Includes "The Top 5 Early Actions That Lead to College Success" Click here Colleg...

Some people hold onto grudges for years.  They allow bitterness, resentment, and unforgiveness to keep them trapped.  This podcast goes into the unresolved emotional pain and a thorough breakdown of how hurt people hurt people.  An additional layer unpacked in this podcast is the reality that not only do hurt people hurt people, but hurt people control people.   Included is a five-point plan to he...

Some people are very difficult to work with.  Naturally, we try to move our children around these people.  This is impossible.  It is better to equip ourselves and our teenagers with the ability to work with difficult people.   See Dr. Dan's series of books available at Amazon. https://www.amazon.com/Daniel-J.-van-Ingen-PsyD/e/B00LERCTP2%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share

Living a fearless life involves going after fears in your life.  In this podcast, Dr. van Ingen discusses phobic fears (i.e. dogs and enclosed spaces), nasty fears and the fear-control sequence (i.e. acting out of that fear with pay back, grudges, bitterness and resentment), and cognitive fears (i.e. irrational thoughts).  Pursuing a defining moment is also discussed including a 4-R Approach.   Fo...

Here is a family dinner conversation.  Parents should routinely talk to their children about what is worthy of crying and what is not worthy of crying.     If you scrape your leg, is that worthy of crying?  Yes.   If you are told that you can't have candy, is that worthy of crying?  No.     Let's establish that there are sometimes when we don't validate feelings.