Parenting Doctors Podcast

Nobody wants to think about our children's future problems.  The reality is that adversity is right around the corner.  Listen to this parenting podcast as I give an extreme example of trauma and why one young man ended up with post-trauma resilience rather than a debilitating condition.  He attributed his resilience to his strong family support.   See Dr Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/...

There are two key factors at play - temperament and reinforcement.  Parents may over-emphasize temperament and over-value personality.  We do it all of the time.  "That's just his personality."  Strong-willed individuals may require more work.  Defiance may require more work.  Thus, shaping and reinforcement for that child's individual needs requires something different.   See Dr Dan’s new book: h...

Healthy Families Allow for Disagreement Parents struggle with this one.  They use terms like "disobedience," or "rebelliousness."  Parents are unsure how to allow for disagreement while still maintaining authority in the family.  In today's parenting podcast, I lay out the specific rules for allowing for disagreement.   This is taken from Dr. Dan's new book You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist....

What is most important when dealing with aggression toward others, back talking, property destruction, defiance, and noncompliance?  65% follow through and are consistent more than two times per week.  Lots to discuss about this. See Dr Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

This week's parenting podcast is The Ultimate Family Sleep Challenge!  We are all sleep deprived.  We as parents need more sleep.  Our children need more sleep.  Today, I present the Ultimate Family Sleep Challenge.  Let's consider the behavioral sleep recommendations and consider how we can apply good sleep practices to the kids. See Dr Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=me...

There are many stressors young people face.  I go through some of the stressors young people are facing as reported by my colleagues (social workers, psychologists, professional counselors, and others) throughout the country.   See Dr. Dan's new book on parenting at   https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

Dr. Dan explores the key solution to manipulation and passive aggressive behavior.  He says that parents need to name it.  And encourage (even expect) direct and honest communication.   Check out Dr. Dan's new book:   https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

Today's podcast is about an argument between a father and a son.  A father goes on to try to enforce the son to tell the truth with discipline, consequences, and punishment.  When situations develop within the family, truth emerges out of a relationship.  When there are parent-child power struggles, multiple perspective can develop.  Parents involved in family details may develop elaborate consequ...

Many parents inquire about "encouraging disagreement."  It might sound better if I emphasize "allowing disagreement."  Many ask, "What does that mean?" The new generation of healthy families consists of multiple ideas and perspectives.  If teens don't feel heard, they feel shut down.  If pre-teens aren't respected, you come across as a tyrant.  If young children aren't encourage to think on their...

I present two interventions today that can make a difference, along with some key tips for healthy functioning when dealing with a tough adolescent.   See Dr Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20  

Many parents pathologize childhood using terms like "He's an attention seeker," OR "She's so oppositional," OR "He's a tormentor," OR "He's A defiant kid!"   These kinds of vague descriptions may help us cope, but they do nothing to help children help.  We need to help kids recognize that behavior is based on choices.     We offer a 5-step specific problem solving method that is the answer to thes...

Kids may be starting school soon.  In FL, school is in full swing.  Many schools are completing their first full week.  Some of the kids are in a "candy store."  Many others are overwhelmed.  Kids are experiencing pressure, stress, and demands.  Lots are being asked of them.  We want to reinforce self-compassion! I also provide a mindfulness technique using smell that can help kids get out of thei...

Parents are paying $20 an hour and sometimes as much as $50 an hour for video game tutors.  What's the problem with tutors? 1) Lowering self esteem and confidence  2) Reinforcing addiction (video game) 3) Reinforcing followship rather than leadership   See Dr. Dan's new book:   https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20

Check out the following videos at our Parenting Doctors youtube channel: The Dr. van Ingen Clinical Psychology & Parenting Show on Anger. (Dr. Dan and Professor Dr. Sarah present together) on Loving Angry Children: 5 Golden Coin Insights to Working with Anger in Families This week's podcast presents 5 techniques, 5 ART's: Anger Reduction Techniques, that can help both parents and their children (k...

We live in a strange Digital Culture.  Everyone revolving their lives around cell phones.  But, not everyone.  Healthy Families are working against these water currents.  Healthy families have parents who say "No Phones At Dinner!"   Check out Dr. Dan's book You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist at Amazon now.     https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20    

I share some of my failures in life, mostly growing up.  In my book: You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist  https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20 I mention that parents should know their top 10.  I share some of my top 10 and other minor failures.   I'm a big proponent of being unafraid of anxiety. Likewise I'm a big fan of being unafraid of failure.  To help our kids learn t...

Guilt is good. Shame is not.  

This is a simple warning to parents.  Yes, it's an unbalanced view on social media.  The view presented here is not all encompassing and obviously doesn't include the positives about social media or recommendations for families.  This podcast is a direct warning about what your kids' lives can look like without limits and considerations.   See other podcasts and our youtube channel  https://www.yo...

10 Keys to UNLOCKING confidence in Kids.  We don't have to wait until kids are young adults to develop confidence.  That's what happened to me, quite honestly.  Instead, let's develop confidence early.  Here are the 10 Keys to Confident Kids.   

Many parents have rough backgrounds.  Many parents have "triggers" and when you deal with the stuff of raising kids who may yell, back talk, name call, or accidentally break a dish/glass, this can TRIGGER stuff in you.  Check out this podcast and LOVE ANYWAY!!!  

Persistent Redo's, patience, and the power of praise When a 4-year old says "what" inappropriately and noncompliantly, what should a parent do?   Check out this brief and terrific example!  

Social Media is related to unhappiness.  Does it cause anxiety?  We are still waiting on randomized controlled empirical research to determine the relationship between social media and anxiety disorders.   But, let's just a take a look at anxiety problems generally speaking.  And, let's examine what happens with each of these examples that I mention today.  What should parents do?    First, parent...

Some personal reflections on our new book:   You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist: 7 Keys to Excellence in Parenting.

Helping Children, Preteens, & Teens with Secure & Confident Comebacks   Children need to know what to say as an alternative from sinking low, playing in the mud, lowering themselving and entering into the negative.  Instead, what is a secure and confident comeback in the face of being mocked?  

As parents, we have to overcome our histories to be excellent.  If you were raised in anger, you have to overcome that reinforcement history and respond in different ways than how you were trained.  If you grew up regularly criticized, you will have to overcome a tendency on your part to find the negative and overreact with the heavy hand of criticism.   Ambivalent soothing and ambivalence in the...