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Charisma and personal magnetism aren't about being the handsomest or most impressive person in the room. It's about knowing how to connect with people in ways that other folks can't. Understand how to build the right connections with people and amazing women won't be able to stop thinking about you... instead of someone else. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What the story of one man's failure teaches us about pe...

Now that Neon Genesis Evangelion is available on Netflix, what can we learn about love, life and loneliness from Shinji Ikari? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why so many fans relate to Shinji Ikari How the End of Evangelion and "The Beast That Shouted AI at the Heart of the World" represent two paths for Shinji... and us Why our fear keeps us from making the relationships we most need How loneliness can turn to...

Incels are spending tens of thousands of dollars on plastic surgery to become Chads and they're still miserable. Here's why your life isn't getting better... and how to fix it. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why there are no external solutions to an internal problem How a micro-revolution can give you back control over your life Why you're stuck in your comfort zone... and how to escape it Why it's important to...

Flirting with amazing women is far less complicated or difficult than people think it is. Here's the secret. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why we rarely recognize flirting when we see it The key to finding your flirting style What makes the difference between conversation and flirting How to make women become addicted to you An underused secret technique for successful flirting ...and so much more RELATED LINK...

This common belief is ruining your relationships and making it impossible to find the dating success you want. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How one simple change in your mindset means the difference between romantic success and failure How guys sabotage their own chances with women What Doctor Horrible's Sing-Along Blog teach us about Nice Guys and Bad Boys Why being wrong can help you connect with women Why...

Millennials in general and Millennial men are having less sex than ever. Why? And what does this have to do with #metoo and the recent #sexstrike? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What the Economist gets wrong about Millennials and sex Why #MeToo IS to blame for the "sex recession"... kind of Why a "sex strike" is bad activism How our attitudes towards sex affects our ability to please our partners The REAL reaso...

You've been waiting patiently, and it's finally here! This week, the Doc - and special guest host Crystal Donovan - take your questions from the NerdLove Hotline and dispense wit, wisdom, dating advice and digressions into side topics. Loved this episode? Have a dating question you'd like to hear answered on here? Call your question in to 512-522-6513 and leave a voice mail! Show Highlights:  How...

Almost every man who struggles with dating, is holding on to these self-limiting beliefs: beliefs and assumptions about yourself and the world that hold you back from achieving your true potential. It's time to break free from the lies we tell ourselves and discover what we're truly capable of. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How to understand what self-limiting beliefs  really  are How to recognize our own self...

Young men are having less sex than ever. But what's more important is how you respond to that information. Here's what's ruining your chances with women. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: ▶︎ How "why are men having less sex" is the wrong question ▶︎ The #1 reason why men ruin their chances with women ▶︎ How your attitude affects your love life ▶︎ The problem with "women are too picky" ▶︎ What a toxic waste monster...

Why aren't more women interested in casual sex? What can guys do to find women who're interested in a no-strings hook-up? It's time to talk about the TRUTH about women, casual sex and how to find it... SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:  ▶︎ Why women prefer relationships to hook-ups and casual partners ▶︎ How the orgasm gap affects our relationships ▶︎ Why being The Cool Girl works against women AND men ▶︎ Why "cas...

"Just be yourself" is some of the worst advice that you can give someone who wants to get better at dating. It's also the most important. So here's how to quit being yourself and learn how to become your BEST self. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: ▶︎ Why "just be yourself" is useless advice ▶︎ What we REALLY mean when we say "just be yourself" ▶︎ How you can learn to change who you are ▶︎ Why most people fail at...

Many virgin men-- especially older virgins -- believe that no woman's going to want to sleep with a guy who has no experience… but they can't they get that experience without having sex. So let's ruin any chance of this episode being monetized and talk about what anyone — even a virgin — can do that will make them an amazing lover. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What women REALLY think of male virgins Why under...

The power dynamics of dating directly affect your dating success. But who REALLY holds the power when it comes to dating? Why do so many people get the power dynamic of dating wrong and what's the REAL power when it comes to love, sex and romance? Show Highlights How many of the "rules" about dating are self-limiting beliefs in disguise What we're REALLY talking about when we ask who has the power...

Did the #MeToo movement change flirting forever? Can men no longer approach women? What makes the difference between flirting and harassment in this day and age? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:  The two types of complaints about #MeToo The goal behind the meme that men can't flirt anymore How men are getting the point of #MeToo wrong The MOST important part of flirting How to avoid being yet another creeper RELA...

Don't forget: I'm taking your questions for the NerdLoveLine special! Call  (512) 522-6513 and leave a voicemail with your question! The American Psychological Association updated it's guidelines for the treatment of boys and men to say that toxic masculine ideologies are bad for men. Does this mean that masculinity is now a mental illness? Or is this an acknowledgement of the difficulties that me...

Don't forget: I'm taking your questions for the NerdLoveLine special! Call (512) 522-6513 and leave a voicemail with your question! Tell me if this has ever happened to you: you've started off trying to make some major change your life. You want to get better at dating, be more social, learn how to approach women, flirt a bit more... but once you've gotten started, nothing seems to be improving. M...

There are the right ways of getting back with your ex. And then there are the wrong ways. And then there's what Offset did to Cardi B., which is one of the most astoundingly stupid ways of trying to get your ex back. Here's why those "grand romantic gestures" aren't romantic at all. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Why it's so hard to let go of an ex  Why "Grand Romantic Gestures" are actually creepy  How public p...

To fap or not to fap... that is the question. Are there health benefits to giving up masturbation? Is porn addiction a real thing? And just what is the NoFap movement, anyway? It's time talk about sex with someone you love… yourself. Show Highlights: Why the "dangers" of masturbation haven't changed in hundreds of years
 The connection between testosterone and masturbation Why NoFap gives "super p...

Friends, do you suffer from uncontrollable longing for someone who barely knows you're alive? Are you unable to get over that break up, even after months or years? Do you have the sinking feeling that nobody in the world could be as right for you or mean as much as she does? Are you afraid that this was your last chance for true love? Then you may suffer from a disease known as Oneitis. Symptoms i...

How do you tell the difference between when someone's flirting with you and just being polite? And why are we so bad at telling the two apart in the first place? SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How men and women both misjudge flirting behavior in others Why "Straight Dude Thinking" gets in the way of flirting success  Why we mistake politeness and friendliness for interest How to recognize the signs that someone...

One of the subjects I come back to fairly often is the idea of toxic masculinity. It's something that I personally feel is important to talk about because of how much it directly affects men and makes our lives that much harder and that much worse. However, whenever we talk about masculinity in any form, there is such a regular response from people, in the comments and on twitter and elsewhere, th...

When we talk about being more attractive to women, we tend to focus on the surface. We talk about how to dress, what to say, how to act. But that's the polish, the sizzle, not the substance. It may get people's attention, but without any substance to back it up, it won't keep it. Your lifestyle is what makes you more interesting and more desirable to women. When you have built the right lifestyle,...

Success, whether in life or in relationships, doesn't come from having the perfect plan or never making a mistake. It comes a mindset that strips away the things that hold you back and keeps you focused on what matters. You learn to avoid all of the ways you sabotage yourself and develop the emotional strength it takes to get up and win. Whether you're looking for love or chasing your dreams, if y...

How often has the frustration of being single gotten to you? How many times have you asked yourself:  why aren't you going to get any better? Why do other people find love and you don't? Why aren't you able to build the life that you want to live and be the man you dream about being? It's time to talk about the reason why so many guys won't find a girlfriend or lover... and what you can do to avoi...

If you're looking for advice on dating women, then you're going to find many, many self-proclaimed experts in the female mind. The problem is that most of them are almost entirely wrong. Worse, they  set men up for failure by insisting on an outlook that puts men and women in conflict. It's time to talk about  WHY men often have a hard time understanding and relating to women... and why it's so im...