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Hey NerdLovers, did you know that Doc has a new podcast? I've teamed up with my good friend (and actual doctor) Dr. Liz Powell to bring you some of the best dating discourse and relationship advice on the Internet, as well as some of the most eye-opening and jaw-dropping stories and topics around sex, love and dating. And hoooo doctor is this one a doozy.  If you've been missing the old PDNL podca...

Let's be honest: dating can be a trial. For a lot of men, dating isn't something you enjoy, it's something you endure. From trying to meet women, to getting a number, to actually getting women out on a date... it's more like pulling teeth than meeting a potential partner. Today, I want to give you all some advice I wish I had gotten back when I first started dating. Because, if you're checking out...

The most magnetic, charming and well liked people aren't popular because of their looks, their money, or their bodies. People like them because of they make others feel and the value that they bring into other peoples' lives. These 5 qualities will help you create stronger, more profound connections with others, teach you to be instantly charismatic and become incredibly well liked by everyone aro...

Right now, we are living through the most stressful, even outright traumatic year that most of have ever faced in our lives. Even if you're in a relatively good place, we're all getting hit with bad news, more stories of police violence, political corruption, the continuing pandemic, even potential fallout from the election. It can be incredibly hard to have a positive attitude and solid confidenc...

Have you struggled with relationships that were bad for you? Maybe you've been in a toxic relationship with somebody who was always manipulating you into ways of getting what they wanted, leaving you feeling like a doormat. Maybe you had friends who treated you badly or would pressure you into going along with jokes at your expense or doing things that made you uncomfortable or went against your v...

Growing up, I knew I was struggling with things that other people seemed to be able to do without a second thought. I thought I was just lazy, that I needed to be more disciplined and to take things more seriously. But it never worked, and I never understood why. Now, after a lifetime of searching, I finally have the answers.  This week, I want to talk with you about my experiences with having bee...

The #1 reason why so many men struggle with dating is very simple: they don't know what it takes to be successful with women. Attraction isn't a checklist; having all the right "stats" isn't going to magically make you attractive to women. Learning to succeed with women isn't about having the right car or the right body, it's about learning how to become your best, most desirable self.  That's why...

Rejection hurts... but the  fear of rejection can often hurt even worse. In fact, when we give into the fear of rejection, we often set up a pattern that can affect us throughout our lives. Rejections we've experienced in the past can end up affecting us NOW. When we give into the fear of rejection, we can end up reliving that fear, long after it's happened... feeling the pain as though it's happe...

What makes one relationship last, while another falls apart? Why do you seem to have found your dream relationship, only to have it turn into a nightmare? Your partner may seem perfect, but it takes more than shallow commonalities to make a relationship work. Just because things are amazing in the beginning doesn't mean that everything is going to work out on it's own. If you've ever wondered whet...

It's very easy to feel like you're forever going to be defined by your worst decisions or your biggest mistakes. But while you can't change your past, you  can change your future. By examining one of the best redemption arcs in modern media, we can learn how Prince Zuko overcame trauma and earned his redemption... and find how we can learn to find our own in the process. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: How our r...

One reason why a lot of guys have a hard time meeting women is because they've put ALL of their focus on ONLY talking to women, and even then, only women that they're attracted to. The truth is that the most popular and socially successful men — the ones who do the best with women — tend to be the ones who talk to everyone . Part of the secret to their success is that they know how to connect with...

What does it take to turn your life around? How can you learn to recognize negative patterns in your life that are sabotaging your progress? And what does it take to break those patterns and make positive lasting changes? This week, I've invited my friend and coach Arden Leigh of The Repatterning Project to talk about how to recognize the patterns in your life that are holding you back and what it...

Women often say that they want a nice guy, so why do so many of them think that nice guys are THE WORST? The trouble is that Nice Guy's behavior works against them; what they see as positive and respectful is actually pushing people away. Here's why being a Nice Guy drives women away... and why it can be so hard to STOP being a Nice Guy. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What "Nice Guy" behavior says about them Wh...

Over the course of my career, I've dealt with a lot of people who haven't had much dating experience — from people who've only had one or two girlfriends in their lives to literal 40 year old virgins. They all had in one thing common: they had the same fears, beliefs and anxieties regarding dating and women that made them give up. Here's how to break through your dating fears, conquer your anxiety...

This week, we have a special bonus episode: a live episode where my patrons got to ask me anything — from dating advice to moving to Austin to what shows I've been binging during the lockdown. Plus guest appearances from Mr. Senior Kitty! If you want to take part in the next AMA, be sure to support the podcast by becoming a Dr. NerdLove patron! SIGN UP FOR  THE DATING ACCELERATOR PROGRAM Don't for...

Sexting and knowing how to flirt over text is a skill that's invaluable whether you have a friends-with-benefits relationship, a long-distance relationship, or if you and your partner are looking to keep things exciting. In fact, knowing how to start sexting with someone the right way may be one of the most invaluable skills you can develop for keeping the spark in your relationship. But you have...

How happy are you with your life right now? If you're like most people, y ou probably have a list of major changes you've wanted to make. You may even have looked at the current pandemic as your chance to work on yourself and get your life where you want it to be. Now tell me, how far HAVE you gotten on that list? The odds are not very far. Y ou probably attacked it like a man possessed… only to f...

Last time, we talked about the recent trend of folks reaching out to their exes, why it's happening so frequently and why it can be comforting to try to rekindle an old relationship. But it's far too easy to fall back to old patterns and old routines with your ex, which means you're going to make the same old mistakes that lead to new pain. Today, I'm going to teach you the RIGHT way to get your e...

With the stress and the chaos of the COVID-19 pandemic, more and more people are reaching out to their exes for comfort, for connection and something more. But is it ever a good idea to get back with your ex? If you're thinking of trying to get your ex back — or reaching out to them again — then you need to be able to answer these 5 questions first. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: Why we look to our past relatio...

Self-isolation can be a trial for even the happiest lovers. Couples under quarantine are starting to feel the strain on their relationship. Relationships are rarely tested the way that they're being tested now, and many people are discovering their relationship isn't as happy or as strong as they they thought. In some parts of the world, divorce rates are starting to skyrocket as soon as quarantin...

The COVID-19 pandemic doesn't mean that your love life has to be put on hold. In fact, relationships are more important than ever. People are still meeting, dating and even falling in love during social distancing. The coronavirus pandemic has forced us to think about dating in new and different ways. In this replay of the live workshop, Dr. NerdLove will talk about how dating has changed, how we...

Loneliness is one of the unspoken side-effects of sheltering in place. And yet, we need our social connections more than ever. How can you build and maintain a social life when social distancing is the rule? In my latest live, free seminar, I talk about how to build and maintain those important social connections, meet new people and strengthen the friendships you already have. Want to take part?...

How do you manage anxiety in the middle of a pandemic? How is living under quarantine affecting you? In my first LIVE teleseminar, I talk about how to manage stress and maintain your emotional health during the COVID-19 pandemic. Want to take part? The next seminar is on 3/31 at 3 PM CST. Join me at the  Dr. NerdLove Facebook Page  and be sure to join  the NerdLove Academy group ! DOCTOR'S NOTE: S...

I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours! This week: he and his girlfriend have been stuck in a long-distance relationship because of the COVID-19 pandemic. How can they keep their relationship alive while they're apart? Book a private coaching session with D...

The reason why you have such a hard time getting over your ex is because most folks have the wrong idea about breakups. The pain of a break-up is equal parts mental and physical. When you're struggling with how to get over your breakup, you're almost never handling BOTH halves of the equation. Getting over your ex quickly and successfully requires that you address both sides of the breakup. So tod...