Owning Your Sexual Self

My number one goal in the work I do is to help you feel more confident in your sexual life and in your relationships. This conversation I’m having with you today will be revolving around my Relationship Regroup. When my coach, Alexa, introduced the Relationship Board Meeting to me, it was something that I thought was really cool, and something Danny and I could sit down and do in our relationship...

This episode is inspired by someone who reached out to me on social media. We’re talking about something I can’t believe I haven’t already done an episode on, the 5 love languages. Love languages are basically how you want to receive love from your partner, and also how you give love. If all you want is to be held, or be cuddling, or a back rub, maybe your love language is physical touch. If your...

This week I’m having  Steve and Shannon Hamaker on to share their experience as a married couple of 16 years with healing and working through depression. What were the conversations around sex that the two of you had growing up? Even though Shannon grew up Irish-Catholic, she always knew she could go to her parents with questions, but didn’t always know the questions to ask. In California she had...

Today I’m super excited to have Dr. Renee Flores here! Renee is an AASECT certified doctor working primarily with older adults. She’s helping open the door and normalizing that it’s okay to have sex no matter what age we are. And making sure everyone knows that there are definitely people and things to do to make sure that that can still happen for you. Older adults come to her for many reasons, s...

We’re talking about exploring all things non-monogamous with Erin Kaley. Erin is a sex, love and PLAY coach who helps women SPICE UP their sex lives, explore fantasies, threesomes, and more with their partner.  If you don’t know, monogamy basically means that you’re committing to one person in the timeframe that you’re committing to that person. I’m having Erin on to educate us on exactly what non...

This week we’re back for round two with my handsome husband Danny. We wanted to come back and talk about the vasectomy process, as people who don’t already have children. I’ve done some research about other couples who chose to not have children, and have found out the difference between being childless, and childfree. Childless- are people that are wanting and or trying to have children and can’t...

I’ve heard of no shave November, but then I came across NNN, or No Nut November, and I knew I had to do an episode about it. What is No Nut November? According to urban dictionary, No Nut November, or NNN, is where “For the whole month of November guys won’t jack off because other guys aren’t jacking off. This is a challenge to show true manliness.”  There aren’t a whole lot of people really parti...

Today we’re talking to my friend and fellow sex therapist Danielle Crotty. We went through the sex therapy and sexual education program at U of M together and we’re sharing our experiences with private practice therapy,  the reality of sexual health concerns, and the lack of education. How did Danielle land in this field? She started her undergrad in nursing, but realized quickly that was not for...

All the way from Cali, today we’re talking to Stephanie Boyd, a breathwork facilitator and pleasure mentor! Breathwork is a powerful way for us to release trapped emotions that have been stuck inside of our bodies. It allows us to literally let the body do whatever it’s meant to do through the power of breath. You can experience many different things through a breathwork session; you can have an o...

It’s the best day of the year, my birthday! So obviously we’re talking about birthday sex! Birthday sex is a mood, it’s a vibe, and something so many people look forward to. But I’m here to tell you birthday sex doesn’t just have happen on your birthday, and how to make it happen all year round. There’s a saying I’ve heard before about blowjobs or other fun, fancy things that they're going to...

Today’s episode and guest are about to blow your damn minds. ​ Cam is a Certified Professional Sex Coach, Certified Sexologist, Registered Counselor, and Registered Tantric Yoga Teacher. As a coach, he helps men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame. How did he get into this work? He  has always been interest...

In this episode we’re diving into my most recent masterclass , and one of my most favorite tools for relationships, my Want, Will, Won’t List. This list will capture and dive a deeper into exactly what you want your sex life to look like and give you the power to create the sex life that you crave. If you’re looking to try something new, or get a deeper understanding of your and your partner’s des...

This week I’m talking all things healing and spirituality with Serena Rose, the Spiritual Sex Coach. Who’s here to show other people what is possible, by showing up as loving, authentic, and vulnerable as she can in any given moment, or in honor of what that looks like. What led her to this work? As a child, she experienced a variety of unique experiences from trauma-based to spiritual occurrences...

This week we’re being raw and real with my husband Danny about why even though we would be bomb ass parents for sure, it’s just not in the cards for us. We have so much respect for parents, to put someone else’s need before your own can take a lot of courage. But neither of us really felt the desire, want or even need to have our own children. We love kids, but we also love being able to give them...

Today we’re talking about Sensate Focus, one of my favorite goto things, and something I would often use in my therapy practice. What is Sensate Focus and where did it come from? It was developed by Masters and Johnson as a way to help couples learn more about themselves and each other and move towards a more intimate relationship. The aim is to build trust and intimacy within your relationship, h...

Feeling inspired by my interview with @my_wonderwoman on Instagram, I thought it was about time I made a whole episode about sexual confidence. So this week I’m talking about what it is, how to get it, what can affect it, and how to change those things. What is sexual confidence? When it comes to sexual confidence, just as everybody’s journey looks different; sexual confidence is going to mean som...

This week I’m talking to Karin Freeland, an author, certified sex coach, wife, and mom of two kids about her upcoming book, The Ins & Outs of My Vagina A Penetrating Memoir. We’re talking honestly about her experiences, tools and techniques to help women find purpose in their lives, how everyone has different experiences with orgasms and we shouldn’t be comparing our sexual journey to someone...

** I apologize ahead of time for the sound issues in this episode. Today we’re talking about female friends and how to make them! As adults we don’t always have the most opportunities to make new friends, Jordan D’Nelle, the mastermind of making new friends, is here to share her tips on how to make and get the most out of your friendships.  We all know s ocial media is great. It’s truly a godsend...

In this episode I talk about why and how to get the most out of your dirty talk.  We started with the stars, then MapQuest, then Google Maps and now we have WAZE! Although dirty talk isn’t new, I think we need to make it the next best thing. Instead of “avoid this route” we’ll say “avoid touching here” and instead of “preferred route ahead” it’ll be “touch me here instead” Directions are the BEST...

Today we’re talking about being a sexual baddie!  I have Coach Baddie, Celine Manning, on the show today to talk about how to live your fullest truth. Take risks, be daring, and be kind. It's easy to give up on this work.. so why is it important to keep going? Listen to find out!  As coaches we are inspiring others while inspiring ourselves. This is exactly how Celine got started- she was on...

As we move into the final month of Michigan summer- this episode seemed appropriate! For this week's episode, I am joined with Megan Ulrich Krueger my good friend who's a confidence coach!! Today we're diving into what "Hot Girl Summer" means to us. What does Hot Girl Summer even mean? First of all, it's a trend. "Having the confidence to believe that you are hot...

**please excuse my dogs in the background while recording this episode- apparently, they are just as excited as you to hear about tantric penis massages.   Welcome back to this week's episode of Owning Your Sexual Self; "Tantric Penis Massage with Rachael Z". Rachael Zevecke is a Sex hacker & Female empowerment coach.   What is tantric penis massage? "A tantric sex practice...

Hellooooo! Welcome back to another SPECIAL ;) Owning Your Sexual Self episode! This week's episode is called "Spit or Swallow? THAT is the question".  I know you're all excited so let's get into it... Let's all think back to our first experience giving a blow job... *My OnlyFans poll revealed that 100% of my subscribers voted for swallowing rather than spitting* &quot...

Hi! Welcome back to the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast with your host; Rachel Maine. Today's topic is brought up a lot, exciters & blockers. Exciters and blockers refer to our turn-ons and turn-offs. Think: What things in your life need to be done in order for you to be turned on? What smells can you associate with pleasure? *Your brain is the most important sex organ! *Our pleasure is o...

Hellooooo and welcome back to episode 72: "What it's Like Working With a Sex Coach"!!! Today I dive into what it is like to work with me; Rachel Maine, as your sex coach! I use my background in sex therapy and sexuality education to provide a sex-positive space for women to ask questions and talk about their sexuality. I show up with authenticity and provide a non-judgmental lens. I...