Oversharing

It’s almost Jordana’s birthday and Dr. Naomi helps her reflect on the pressure of meeting timelines and milestones as you get older. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not you should expect your significant other to post about you on social media. What does it say about your relationship if your boyfriend won’t share your relationship online, and does it imply he has something to hide? Th...

Jordana is back from vacation and Dr. Naomi tells her about an eye-opening form of therapy (called neurodynamic breathwork) that she was excited to try. They offer advice to a listener who is feeling confused now that the person she’s seeing suddenly became distant over text. Is it okay to demand a phone call from a guy to see where your relationship stands? The Betchicist question comes from an e...

We’re all tired… thankfully this week’s episode features sleep expert and clinical psychologist Dr. Wendy Troxel, who shares some real-world tips for better sleep. Jordana and Dr. Naomi tell us about their own experience with lack-of-sleep, and how their quality of sleep is impacted by sharing a bed with a partner. Dr. Troxel explains why some couples are turning to the concept of ‘sleep divorce’...

Jordana just moved into a new house and tells Dr. Naomi all about the lessons she learned from the experience – is decorating your home actually a skill? The Overshare email comes from a listener who is experiencing a quarter-life crisis and wants to know if she’s missing out on a fuller life by not moving to a big city. The Betchicist question is all about continuing to have your location tracked...

Dr. Naomi is about to embark on a challenging new phase of life – the family is getting a second dog – so she tells Jordana about her plan to avoid taking care of a puppy all by herself. They offer advice to an emailer who says she is ready to settle down, but she can’t shake the feeling that her relationship could end in divorce. The Betchicist submission comes from a listener who moved in next d...

Dr. Naomi is back from her recent outdoors-y vacation and tells Jordana all about the sense of awe she experienced. Then they respond to a voicemail from a listener who has a pattern of freezing up when someone yells at her. What are the best strategies to deal with a tense situation, and how can you learn to respond differently? The Betchicist question comes from a listener who is caught in betwe...

We need a nap. Jordana and Dr. Naomi start with a chat about the misery of losing sleep when and how frustrating it can be when you can’t figure out why. They also talk about the new Golden Bachelor and share why they’re so excited to see this version of the show. Then a listener writes in to ask if she’ll ever be able to move forward with her partner after he admitted to having an affair (and tol...

Jordana and Dr. Naomi start the week with a conversation about the recent heat waves sweeping the country, and why learning to be uncomfortable can actually help you live longer. Plus, Jordana tells us which online distraction she’s giving up for the sake of her own mental health. Next, a listener writes in to ask how to get out of a sh*t-talking loop she fell into with her mother-in-law. How do y...

We get it, you want to start meditating. But everything you’ve tried is too serious, too boring, and totally unrelatable. If lavender candles, an Enya playlist, and endless sun salutations simply aren’t doing the trick, this podcast from Betches Media might finally be the thing to help you breathe. (Literally.) In a series of guided meditations, sisters Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein will...

Jordana and Dr. Naomi are excited to tell us all about the brand new premium version of the podcast: Calm TF Down is available now wherever you’re listening. Naomi tells us how she uses guided meditations in her own practice, and they give us a peek behind the scenes of recording Calm TF Down together. Then a listener writes in to ask what she should do now that her traditional Indian parents anno...

Jordana starts the show with an account of the unconventional massage therapist she visited, and Dr. Naomi helps her break down what her response really means. Then a listener calls into the Oversharing hotline with a voicemail about how to deal with guys who don’t text back. The Betchicist submission comes from an emailer who knows her coworker had an affair and doesn’t know how to broach the sub...

On this Fourth Of July holiday, Jordana and Dr. Naomi start with a chat about how holidays help us reflect on our career choices. Plus, Naomi joined a gym and shares the valuable lessons she learned about the nature of jealousy. Then a listener calls in with a voicemail about growing up without a close relationship to your father, and how we come to terms with this in adulthood. The Betchicist que...

Why are our most ambivalent relationships often the ones that cause us the most agitation? Jordana and Dr. Naomi analyze a recent article on the topic of frenemies and why they take up so much more headspace than our real adversaries. Then a listener (and fellow therapist) writes in to ask whether or not she should feel bad for making an offhand remark about her supervisor. Why do we spend so much...

What makes for a good apology? Jordana shares a story about offering an insincere apology, leading to some practical tips from Dr. Naomi for how to craft an apology that counts. An emailer writes in to ask if she should confront a coworker after feeling humiliated by his thoughtless gift-exchange present. Hot off the heels of the Vanderpump Rules three-part reunion, they answer a Betchicist questi...

Dr. Naomi had second thoughts about last week’s Triggered scenario, so she and Jordana revisit their positions on “the moaning yogi.” A listener writes in with an Overshare email about how she feels after her husband stopped engaging in sex during her recent pregnancy. Should you be offended if your partner’s attraction ebbs and flows? Next, the Betchicist question comes from a listener who is pla...

Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days… Jordana is back from visiting Dr. Naomi, and while she may not have overstayed her welcome, her trip brought up some questions about hosting others. Then a listener writes in with an update on her previous email, explaining why she never got closure after her breakup – and that’s okay. Another listener writes in with an Overshare email regarding...

Jordana and Dr. Naomi are back together to debrief on a graduation-time crisis and an upcoming family gathering. They tackle an Overshare voicemail from a lister who is having trouble finding the right words to say to her cousin after a recent diagnosis. How do you show support for someone without saying the wrong thing? Then Jordana and Dr. Naomi are joined once again by Remi Bader, brand ambassa...

Dr. Naomi is back from her trip to NYC and tells Jordana all about the profound moment she had… at the airport. How do we get back in touch with our childhood sense of awe? Then a listener writes in to ask if giving her boyfriend an ultimatum was the right way to get the commitment she’s looking for. This week’s Betchicist voicemail comes from a listener whose husband expects the dog to get walked...

Jordana and Dr. Naomi are reunited in NYC via the Betches HQ studio and talk about the value of physical contact with the people you care about. Plus, they dive deeper into love languages and why we crave certain kinds of connection. Then a listener writes in to ask for help with dating a dismissive avoidant. Can a non-committal relationship turn into something deep and long lasting? In this week’...

Sometimes you just have to cry… on your own podcast. Jordana shares a moment of vulnerability and Dr. Naomi gives her some guidance for channeling that emotion in a positive way. Then a listener writes in to ask if she vents too much about work and family. How do you find a compromise when your decompression style differs from your partner’s? The Betchicist scenario involves talking sh*t about you...

Happy Overshare-aversary! The show turns one year old, and Jordana is being more mindful than ever, so Dr. Naomi gives her some tips for overcoming discomfort in the moment. Then a listener calls in with a question about how to stop cycling through the same three guys she’s been dating. How do you break a cycle of dating people just to avoid being alone? The Betchicist question comes from a listen...

Dr. Naomi helps Jordana through a moral conundrum: how involved should you get when a romantic set-up goes wrong? Jordana tells us all about the recent U Up? podcast episode featuring a Betches colleague who got set up with Jordana’s friend, and how Jordana had to get involved when things went awry. Then they hear a listener-submitted voicemail about what to do when you’re the go-to friend for emo...

Jordana is still surrounded by boxes after her recent move, so she debriefs with Dr. Naomi about the catharsis of throwing things out. Is moving to a new home the perfect opportunity to practice letting go? The first email comes from a listener who has been a people-pleaser since childhood and wants help with her conflict avoidance, especially when it comes to her situation-ship. How do our childh...

T-Swift Update: Dr. Naomi’s Taylor Swift tickets were in fact NOT fake, but that didn’t stop security from removing her family from the spot they reserved. Jordana talks about the pros and cons of preparing for the worst outcome, and why it can affect your overall satisfaction. Then they respond to an emailer whose boyfriend lost her trust after a case of infidelity, and now his mom is getting inv...

Did Dr. Naomi just get scammed into buying fake Taylor Swift tickets? Probably not, but Jordana has her second guessing anyway (what else are sisters for??). They kick things off with an email from a listener whose therapist isn’t giving her enough guidance for how to go through with a breakup. Naomi gives some practical exercises for preparing yourself to break the news. Then they read a Betchici...