Overcoming Sexual Abuse

There are common misconceptions about love and boundaries that are meant to protect relationships but actually sabotage them. I'll clear up the confusion and share the truths so you can care for yourself and others for deeper love and connection.  Thanks to my producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website

If you're a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and neglect, chances are, you've developed habits and a lifestyle that perpetuate mistreatment. Based on the 3 Stages of Self Care, I'll help you identify which stage you're in and your top needs and strategies to support you. You'll be empowered to reverse unloving patterns and create a life where you're well cared for. ...

Even if you've developed boundaries in other relationships, it can be especially difficult to set boundaries with your family. They may still see you as a child and might even feel entitled to have a say in your life. Though it can feel frustrating and even shameful to revert to childhood roles, I share powerful tools for finally asserting yourself so you're free to live on your own term...

When you’ve experienced childhood sexual abuse, you’ve suffered profound losses. Until you acknowledge and grieve the losses, a part of you remains shut off and shut down. I’ll share the 5 stages of grief you experience as part of healing from abuse and the mistakes to avoid at each stage. Thank you to my wonderful producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website

Avoiding discomfort is wired into your brain as survival but it keeps you trapped in survival. To flourish in life, you have to experience discomfort. I’ll give you a new perspective when it comes to avoidance and share the empowering keys you can use to escape the comfort addiction and create your new life. Thank you to my wonderful producer, David Ruck.  Send me a text Website

I’m joined by Andrea Tokheim and she shares where she started in her healing journey, the challenges, the milestones, and the twists and turns along the way. You’ll be inspired and encouraged and take away some  very helpful insights for your own healing journey. Thanks to my wonderful producer, David Ruck.  Send me a text Website

There’s never been more information about healing from trauma. Information might equip you for healing or it might distract you from healing. Learn the hidden traps of more information and how to recognize if it’s actually a coping method and the steps to make your quest for knowledge empowering and fruitful. Thank you to my talented producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website

When your needs aren’t met in childhood, you may still crave to be rescued now. Whether you’re hyper-independent or still feel powerless, there’s a secret shame in wanting to be taken care of. I’ll show you where that comes from and how you can heal the original wound and use that desire in a way that actually empowers you. Thank you to my wonderful producer, David Ruck Send me a text Website

Processing anger is a vital part of healing from abuse. The sad fact is, abuse also sets us up to suppress our anger, where we turn it inward or we lash out indiscriminately.  I’ll show you how you can use anger as your ally and to heal your past and present wounds. There’s no doubt anger will be expressed, but will it hurt you or protect you? Thanks to my wonderful producer, David Ruck. Send me a...

Growing up in abuse and neglect likely means nobody was there for you. You learn to abandon yourself the way that you were abandoned. If you’re there for everyone else while you still feel alone, I share how you can learn to be there for yourself so you can guarantee you’ll never be neglected again. Thank you to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website

In a dysfunctional family, rupture and repair, disconnection and reconnection isn’t modeled to you.  Conflict is threatening so you  betray yourself and work to keep the peace so you can avoid being abandoned. I share from my own life how I’ve overcome this and give you the specific steps for not only engaging in healthy conflict but using it for deeper connection. Thanks to my amazing producer, D...

When you’re raised in abuse and neglect, you become very aware of other people’s feelings and needs to keep yourself safer and to get your needs met.  You become sensitive to disappointing people or losing their approval or acceptance and that can lead to exhausting yourself trying to meet their expectations.  I’ll share the powerful keys for working through that so you’re in control of your own l...

Childhood is supposed to prepare you to be an empowered adult but childhood abuse leaves you feeling not only powerless and helpless as a child but throughout your life. The learned helplessness can impact everything from the relationships you settle for to the risks you’re unwilling to take. I’ll share the indications you’re still in learned helplessness and how to own your power and take back co...

Emotional neglect in childhood has far reaching effects in your life. In fact, most relationship troubles are rooted in the ways you coped with not getting your needs met and the way you learned to attach to people or detach from people. You’ll learn your particular attachment style, not only to transform your relationships, but to heal from the wounds of neglect. To get the masterclass, go to the...

With childhood sexual abuse, your needs for protection and nurturing weren’t met. And chances are, the neglect didn’t end in childhood because the way you were treated becomes the way you treat yourself. I’ll share the 7 hidden ways you’re likely perpetuating the cycle of neglect and how to reverse the effects of neglect and abuse. To get the masterclass, go to the show notes page: https://overcom...

If you grew up in dysfunction, it can be very difficult to develop boundaries with your family in adulthood. I’ll share how to overcome the pressures to go along with the way things have been. Then I’ll give you a simple formula for expressing boundaries and some practical tips for thriving during family events. To get the boundaries formula I shared and the boundaries preparation checklist, go to...

Childhood sexual abuse can lead to perpetual people pleasing even after the abuse ends. I’ll share the damage it causes to yourself and to your relationships and why it’s vital to treat your yes as sacred. I’ll show you the best way to own your no and take back control of your life.  For a list of gracious ways to say no, go to the show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/019 Special tha...

The relationship with your family of origin is for your survival and well-being. But what if the relationship is actually harmful? At what point is estrangement a good option? I'll share the pros and cons of staying and leaving, the specific ways you can gain more clarity, and the hidden signs that the relationship is actually already over. Show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/0...

It can be excruciating to really see the level of betrayal you’ve experienced with childhood sexual abuse. The betrayal wound creates a chasm in all your relationships until you face and heal it. I share my family’s betrayal and how I navigated that as well as how you can heal the wounds in your own life. Show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/017 Special thanks to my amazing producer,...

In the last episode, I shared the truths behind those internal and external pressures that keep us locked up with the secrets. I ended with my parents hearing about me speaking out and the certified letter from my mother demanding that I stop. We’ll continue with how I processed her threats, the subsequent lawsuit and how you can better protect yourself from the social and legal consequences of ex...

There are internal and external pressures to protect your abuser and keep the secret of sexual abuse and speaking out sometimes comes with very real social and legal consequences.  I uncover the hidden attitudes and beliefs that position us as protectors of the secrets and lies as I share my process of speaking out. Then I share how to process those things so you’re free to decide if speaking out...

Neglect and abuse make it a matter of survival to not only silence your speaking voice but your internal voice. I share the specific reasons it was survival to shut down your voice, the hidden effects of that now, and how to work through the fear of using your voice so you can regain your power. Go to the show notes page for the free healing resource that accompanies this episode: https://overcomi...

The effects of abuse are particularly felt in an intimate relationship. I’m joined by my husband, Don Enevoldsen, and we share the specific ways abuse affected our marriage and the healing process, and the insights we gained as we navigated through to create stability and true partnership. Go to the show notes page for the free healing resource that accompanies this episode: https://overcomingsexu...

Healing from abuse requires extra time and energy. While we can’t stop regular life to make room for healing, we can make adjustments to create the space that we deserve. I’ll share the 3 most important ways you can care for yourself as you heal so you’re empowered to move forward. Go to the show notes page for the free healing resource that accompanies this episode: https://overcomingsexualabuse....

Childhood abuse forces us into a role and story that isn’t our own. If you feel that someone else or some outside force has control over your life, this is how to take back control. You can rewrite your story and create the ending YOU want. Go to the show notes page for the free healing resource that accompanies this episode: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/011 Special thanks to my amazing produ...