Overcome Pornography for Good

You might be thinking that if you can just get through this week without viewing porn, then you’re on the right track. But the truth is, we need to look at the long term, and this requires that you stop thinking in weeks or even months, and start thinking in years.   Learn why thinking in years makes for more sustainable action than only looking at the short term, and how to benefit from the...

Tina Gosney is a Certified Family Relationship Coach who helps LDS parents who have a child leaving the church, and she’s also an incredible coach and asset in our Overcome Pornography for Good program.   Tina walks us through the 10 loopholes that keep you from changing. You’ll hear why you shouldn’t let these loopholes send you into a shame spiral if you relate to them, and how to start que...

Have you ever found yourself feeling desensitized to porn and the process of trying to quit? You might feel miserable, exhausted, and just don’t care anymore.   Discover what might be leading you to feeling desensitized, and my recommendations for what to do when you find yourself feeling this way. You’ll hear how to listen to your body’s signals in these moments, and why, when you do, you’ll...

Tune in this week for a simple exercise that will help you understand what’s going on in your brain when you have intrusive thoughts on a deeper level. I’m sharing why trying to stop, avoid, or question your intrusive thoughts will only make them worse, and how to instead accept them and let them pass.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/pink-eleph...

Tune in this week to discover what your anger is trying to tell you, and how to keep the focus on yourself as you work through anger that relates to other people. I’m sharing some stories from my own life about anger, why anger is just a package, and how to start unpacking your anger in a way that helps you let it go.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com...

Discover where you’re choosing indulgence over self-love and the important differences between the two. I’m sharing how our brains find it so difficult to show ourselves compassion and some thoughts you can try to show up with more self-love when you need it most.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/self-love-is-not-indulgence

Tune in this week to dig deeper into your story of you. I’m giving you a practical exercise to get clear on the ways your story of you is leaving you feeling unworthy and shameful, so you can get clear on the facts of your story and how your thoughts about these facts are making your story feel a whole lot worse.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog...

This week, I’m sharing a year-in-review exercise I love doing at the end of a year. It’s very simple, but if you carve out the time to do it, I promise you will be in awe of where you are right now and excited about everything you are about to accomplish by the end of this year.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/year-in-review-visualization

Discover my one lesson to the world. I’m discussing with Michael Anderson how change happens not  when we’re shamed into a different behavior, but when we align ourselves with our values while loving and accepting ourselves. I’m sharing the mindset tools that changed everything for me, why I chose this work, and we’re sharing how we help our clients toward self-acceptance.   Get full sho...

Discover how to start creating trust after betrayal trauma. Geoff Steurer addresses the pain that occurs on both sides of the situation, what the porn viewer can do to heal themselves as they heal their relationship, and the power of coregulation as you move through betrayal trauma, navigate shame and begin to rebuild trust and intimacy.   Get full show notes and more information here: https:...

Chaz shares his experience of struggling with pornography and learning the skills of overcoming this habit, all while making it work within his faith beliefs. He’s sharing the trajectory of his porn use, why he felt stuck, and the concepts that made the biggest difference in helping him get out of this cyclical loop.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewe...

Discover my top lessons from 100 episodes of Overcome Pornography for Good. I’m discussing what I’ve learned in regard to being productive without burning out, showing up with commitment and effort, how to make the difficult things fun, the importance of focusing on happiness as well as success, and the things that have kept me going on this podcasting journey so far!   Get full show notes an...

Can you guarantee success? The truth is, no one else can guarantee success for you, but you can make it a certainty for yourself. Nobody else out there can do the work for you. This is all about taking responsibility for your own healing and cultivating a mindset that makes success inevitable. And this week, I'm showing you how.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sar...

Discover how to start laser-focusing on the goals that are most important to you. This is one of the lessons that has changed my life dramatically, and laser focusing on one thing at a time will change everything for you as well, allowing you to love yourself as you are, and achieve your goals from that place.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/la...

Discover what to do when you don’t believe you can do something. We’re talking about this in relation to quitting porn, but you can apply this logic to any goal you’re pursuing. I’m sharing how to start developing real self-trust by taking small, practical steps, so you can start believing that whatever you want to achieve really is possible.   Get full show notes and more information here: h...

Carl Rogers said,  “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” This is what radical acceptance means. Practicing radical acceptance won’t mean you’ll stay stuck, it's what will fuel the change you want. So this week, I’m offering my favorite sentences that you can add to your Emotion Doc to help you access this emotion.   Get full show notes and mo...

I’m introducing you to a great tool you’re going to want to start using immediately: the Emotion Doc. Hear what my Emotion Doc entails, and how you can apply it to any emotion you want to try on. I’m sharing the thoughts that help me access certainty and one vital question to ask yourself as you consider accessing certainty, so you can attain any goal you set for yourself.   Get full show not...

Discover the difference between nurturing yourself and numbing. You’ll hear some questions you can ask yourself to identify what you need most in moments when you are tempted to numb with pornography, and why nurturing yourself is not the same as running away from your emotions.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/nurture-vs-numbing

Discover what is really creating the feeling that your porn habit is out of control. Whether you’re feeling shame around your porn use, or you just don’t understand it, I’m showing you why it’s okay to have bad habits, as long as we acknowledge them, and I’m giving you everything you need to know to show up with integrity and regain a sense of control over your pornography habit.   Get full s...

Join me this week as I show you how to retrain your brain, and what this retraining of your brain will require of you. You’ll discover why, while retraining your brain can be simple, it won’t necessarily be easy, and some important considerations to keep in mind as you practice this process.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/retrain-your-brain

Discover how the reward system in our brains has been vital to our survival, and why it’s become a modern-day problem. I’m showing you why we don’t have to be at the mercy of our brain’s reward system, and how to recognize that your craving for porn is no different from any other dopamine-producing substance.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/rew...

In the final installment of this three-part interview, Ryan offers his research and findings on beginning to understand shame in a new way. We’re discussing the difference between guilt and shame, the dangers of equating these two emotions, and what you can do to combat shame, instead of continuing to feed it.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/sh...

Tune in this week for a deeper understanding of the psychological tension that keeps people going back to porn time and time again. We’re discussing why simply changing the behavior of viewing porn isn’t going to help with the discomfort of moral incongruence, and Ryan is sharing what the research says is the best way to approach changing your pornography use.   Get full show notes and more i...

In part one of this three-part series, Ryan Hewitt shares his fascinating research on addiction and porn. You’ll discover how, in many cases, perceived addiction around porn is rooted in an internal battle rather than an actual addiction, and why we have to be cautious about labeling our impulses as an addiction.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog...

Discover everything you need to know about being worthy and creating the feeling of worthiness. I’m sharing why you don’t have to change your behavior in order to feel worthy, why quitting porn in itself isn’t where your worthiness is going to come from, and how you can create worthiness right now, regardless of your actions.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabr...