Overcome Pornography for Good

Like many of you who have the desire to heal your pornography habit, our client David developed a ton of shame, guilt, and insecurity about it. He went seven years without telling anybody he was viewing pornography. But when he finally did reach out for support, he transformed so much more than just his porn habit.   This week, David is sharing his porn journey with us and how coaching helped...

While our brains are programmed to look for what’s wrong with us, it’s not true that there’s always something wrong with you. Constantly fixing and solving what we perceive to be a problem is exhausting. And this week, I want to offer the idea that all parts of you are wise and have something valuable to offer, even the part of you that desires porn.   Discover why you don’t have to feel sham...

Heather Frazier is an awesome parenting coach for parents of teenagers. She had me on her podcast recently, and I’m sharing that conversation about parenting and pornography on today’s episode of Overcome Pornography for Good.   Discover the proven most effective way of protecting your children from the world of pornography. We’re discussing the value of proper age-appropriate sex-positive ed...

No matter our specific religion, the language we choose to use, or our relationship with God or the universe, the ability to feel loved, held, guided, and never alone is something that is innate to us. It’s our birthright, and according to Dr. Lisa Miller’s research, there are huge benefits to trusting in your spirituality.   I show you why developing the perception of being loved, held, guid...

When it comes to work, your business, or any other aspect of your life, it can be easy to see that success is built on failures. While you might not believe it right now, this can be true for overcoming your porn habit too.   Hayden believes that failing fast and moving on has been a key part of the breakthroughs he’s experienced, and he’s here to share his journey with us. He’s offering his...

There are many benefits to practicing spirituality when it comes to quitting porn. Spirituality can be both extremely beneficial, and I’m exploring both sides of the coin this week.   Discover how spirituality can become harmful and damaging, as well as a great tool to lean on when you’re trying to quit porn. I’m sharing some of my own personal spiritual experiences, and how you can use spiri...

David Bedrick is the founder of the Santa Fe Institute for Shame-Based Studies, where he teaches therapists, coaches, and healers from around the world how to work with people in a new way. Healing from a pornography habit can be an extremely challenging and disturbing experience, and David's perspective is that it shouldn't be simply accepted. There are often hidden gifts in the shame that may ar...

Quitting porn for good is a goal that most of you are actively working towards. For some people, this idea excites and motivates them. However, it can also create pressure, fear, and doubt for many individuals.   Explore what it truly means to quit porn for good, and discover a helpful perspective that will shift you away from fear and doubt and empower you with control. I’m sharing how the n...

Hear my conversation with Steve about his experience quitting porn and how instrumental the tools and coaching he received in my program were for his success. Discover how Steve learned to handle his urges, the compounding effect of consistency as you do this work, and how he developed the confidence to be porn-free.   You're not alone in your struggle to quit porn, and this conversation will...

This week, I’m speaking with Madi Davis, a 19-year-old student whose mission is to help girls who struggle with pornography. She’s a freshman at BYU and the host of the Sisters On The Front Lines Podcast where she speaks about and aims to combat the shame surrounding young women struggling with pornography.   Madi’s mission is one we don’t talk about openly nearly enough, and this is a conver...

As humans, it's common for us to derive our sense of worth from our productivity. However, when it comes to quitting porn, intertwining productivity and worthiness isn't actually helpful. In fact, it makes it even more challenging to overcome porn addiction. If you're ready for an alternative approach, this episode is for you.   Start recognizing how you link your worthiness to your productiv...

A belief plan is simple in concept but requires hard work. It necessitates deep inner work that can be uncomfortable to face. However, the practice of examining your beliefs and cultivating new ones is vital when it comes to quitting habits like pornography, or any other area in your life where you desire change.   Discover what a belief plan is and why it is key, not just for achieving the g...

Searching for the keys to navigating loneliness and cultivating healthy relationships while dealing with a pornography habit? Seeking guidance on how to disclose this part of your life to your partner?   Tune into our enlightening discussion as relationship and sex coach, Tammy Hill, offers practical advice on overcoming loneliness and building the relationship of your dreams. She'll shed lig...

Whatever you're trying to create in your life, you're going to face challenges and difficulties, and it won't be easy. The River of Misery doesn't sound great. However, it's all about accepting the misery so we can start moving through it.   Discover why understanding the River of Misery will help you quit viewing pornography and never go back to it. I'm sharing the thoughts that make the Riv...

James had been viewing porn on and off since he was 11 years old, which adds up to over 40 years. He had always labeled himself as an addict and had heavy thoughts around his pornography use. However, with the approach we use in Overcome Pornography for Good, everything started to change for James.   Discover what is possible when you stop labeling yourself as an addict. James shares the beli...

Overwhelm is one of those all-encompassing uncomfortable emotions that makes us feel frozen. Quitting porn requires some miserable growth periods, which means overwhelm will naturally be a part of your experience. The good news though is that overwhelm is not a problem, and it’s easier to make progress if you lean into it.   I’m sharing four strategies for breaking the cycle of overwhelm. Hea...

Lindsay Poelman is a life coach focused on helping people who are struggling with their spouse’s porn use and an expert in trauma-informed coaching, and she’s here this week to shed light on what relationship spirals mean, and how to get out of them.   Lindsay shares how relationship spirals have a lot to do with our individual conditioning. Hear why we have to first understand the context of...

When it comes to your own healing and quitting porn, there are so many opinions, thoughts, and ways to do it that can be offered to you out there. That’s why this might be one of the most important episodes that I ever share with you.   Hear why you have everything you need inside of you to heal and quit porn for good. I’m showing you how we’re conditioned to believe the authority lives outsi...

No matter how old you are, you can quit porn. My guest today is proof that it's possible. Jeff is 75 years old and had struggled with pornography since he was 14 years old. He had tried to quit many times over the years, but none of those attempts resulted in permanent change.   Jeff shares why his attempts to quit over the years didn’t work, how it affected his relationship with his wife, an...

Many of us have received the conditioning that men are typically the sexual ones in a relationship and that they have an insatiable sexual need that has to be satisfied. To dive into this topic, I’m talking to sex coach Amanda Louder, host of the  Sex for Saints podcast .   Hear why we have to reframe the belief that your spouse should fulfill your sexual needs. Amanda is sharing where t...

Many of us were taught to be terrified of our sexuality. It’s something we don’t talk about openly, and maybe you think of it as evil or dangerous. However, the truth is sexuality and urges are something you have, so does everyone else and they live with us forever.    Discover how to control your sexual urges. I’m showing you how your sexuality can actually be your friend and companion,...

Thomas is a member of Overcome Pornography for Good and he struggled with porn on and off for 40 years. He decided he was ready to quit and did the work with our coach, Kat. He’s here to share his story and hopefully, impart his belief that you too can do it.    He’s offering the tools that made the biggest difference to his porn use, how he made the decision to commit to the work, and h...

When you feel shame around having viewed pornography, blame is never far behind. Whether you blame yourself and experience more shame or you find someone else to blame for what you’re going through, this is a trap many of my clients are stuck in when they first come to me.   Start the work of escaping the shame-blame trap. I’m sharing why, even though it’s difficult to talk yourself out of sh...

I’m sharing a replay of one of the most important episodes of this podcast to date all about one of the foundational things you need to understand if you want to quit viewing porn and never go back to it: urges.   Discover why you don’t have to push your urges away or try to silence them. Like any new skill, there will be failures along the way. But when you are no longer scared of your urges...

I have a special guest on the show this week. Kat Jenkins is one of the coaches in Overcome Pornography for Good and she recently completed some certifications in breathwork.   Discover what breathwork is and how it can help you quit viewing pornography for good. Kat and I are discussing how buffering with pornography impacts your nervous system, and how breathwork can bring ease and calm int...