Overcome Pornography for Good

What’s the real cost of not taking action on the things that matter most to you? In this episode, I explore how putting off change, whether with pornography, health, or personal goals, creates compounding effects over time. Inaction doesn’t just keep you where you are. It often makes challenges worse and limits the life you could be living. I explain why waiting for the “right time” or relying on...

What’s possible when your sexuality belongs to you first? In this episode, I address a common question for those who are single, divorced, or in a sexless marriage: can you still befriend your sexuality? Many people are taught that sexual energy only belongs in a relationship, which creates confusion, shame, and reliance on others for regulation. I explain why outsourcing your sexual relationship...

What’s possible when you stop running from your sexual urges? In the third episode of this series on befriending your sexuality, I explore how shame and avoidance create conflict around sexual energy and why learning to work with your sexuality instead of against it is key. When we honor our natural impulses and separate physiology from morality, we open the door to experiencing ourselves more ful...

What if the way you’ve been approaching your sexuality has been keeping you stuck? In this second episode of a three-part series on befriending your sexuality, I explain why most strategies fail and how a shame-based internal operating system filters your experiences, preventing meaningful change. I share why treating sexual urges like something to eliminate or control keeps you trapped, and how r...

What if the way you thought about quitting porn was holding you back? In this first episode of a three-part series, I explore common misconceptions about quitting pornography and why the strategies most people rely on often create more struggle than progress. I share why trying to push urges away, relying on willpower, or treating pornography like a smoking habit or addiction keeps you stuck. When...

Do you feel like lasting change is impossible after years of struggle with pornography? In this episode, Sam shares his story of decades of challenges, including trying a 12-step program and thinking marriage would fix the problem. He explains how shifting to a new approach helped him regain control and experience a level of freedom he hadn’t thought was possible. Sam walks through the turning poi...

Do you feel shame about your sexual thoughts or desires while trying to quit pornography? In this episode, I explore why sexual shame often causes more harm than pornography itself and how you can move past it to quit porn in a sex-positive, shame-free way. You’ll learn how to separate natural sexual feelings from moral judgment, recognize that your thoughts do not define your worth, and approach...

What can improv teach you about overcoming pornography? In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins shares how the principles of improv can be applied to quitting porn and navigating the challenges that come with it. Using rules from improv, she shows how you can change your responses, build trust with yourself, and create better outcomes in your journey. Kat walks through nine core improv rules and explai...

What happens after a slip-up can determine whether you stay stuck or finally make real progress. In this episode, I break down why slip-ups do not mean failure and how your response afterward can either keep you trapped in shame or become one of the most powerful tools for lasting change. I walk you through the four essential steps to handling slip-ups differently. You’ll learn how to stop repeati...

What do you do when quitting pornography feels really difficult? In this episode, I offer a powerful mindset shift that can completely change how you approach the hardest parts of this process. Instead of seeing discomfort as a sign that something has gone wrong, I invite you to see it as one of the most valuable skills you can develop. You’ll learn how building your ability to handle discomfort c...

What if the thing you’ve struggled with for years didn’t have to be part of your future? In this episode, I share a powerful conversation with Logan, whose story will challenge what you believe is possible when it comes to quitting pornography. Logan opens up about struggling with pornography for over 20 years, trying everything he could to quit, and feeling stuck in the same cycle over and over a...

Do you feel guilty just for having sexual urges? In this episode, I dive into the important distinction between physiology and morality and how understanding this difference can help you overcome the shame surrounding your urges to view pornography. I explain that your sexual urges are completely natural and a normal part of being human. The problem arises when we label these physiological respons...

Do you struggle to trust yourself, especially after a slip-up? In this episode, Coach Hunter shares valuable insights on how to build self-trust, even during the moments when things don’t go as planned. Learn how to shift from a perfection-based mindset to one that builds trust through consistency and resilience. Hunter explains that true self-trust isn’t about avoiding mistakes or achieving perfe...

Are you thinking about your porn habit in a way that’s actually keeping you stuck? If you’ve been viewing it as something that makes you unworthy or separates you from your faith, this episode offers a perspective that could change everything. In this episode, I revisit a powerful concept that comes up often, especially for those with a religious background. I walk through the difference between s...

What’s possible when you change your approach to quitting pornography? Quinn’s story shows that no matter how long you’ve struggled, you can break free. After 50 years of battling his habit, Quinn found a way to completely quit, and it wasn’t through willpower alone. Learn how Quinn turned his life around by understanding the brain’s role in his habit, shedding shame, and embracing new skills. His...

What story are you telling yourself about your porn habit? In this episode, I dive into the crucial difference between facts and the stories we tell ourselves and how your story can either keep you stuck or help you move forward. While facts are objective, the stories we create around them are often based on assumptions, fears, and beliefs that may not be true. Understanding the power of your stor...

Have you been trying to quit pornography by fighting it? Many people approach this process like a battle, trying to resist urges, push them away, or overpower them with discipline and willpower. But when you treat urges like an enemy you need to defeat, it actually makes the process harder. Join me this week as I show you how surrendering to urges and the emotions beneath them can completely chang...

What do you do when you feel completely stuck and don’t know how to move forward? In this episode, Coach Kat Jenkins shares a simple framework to help you break out of that feeling, get unstuck, and start creating movement again, especially when you’re working on overcoming pornography. Kat introduces four powerful questions designed to help you shift out of stuckness and take your next step. Each...

What happens when you stop trying to hate yourself into change and learn how to work with your mind instead? In this episode, I revisit a conversation with Cannon to talk about his journey from years of struggle with pornography and self-loathing to building a completely different relationship with himself. Cannon shares how the real breakthrough wasn’t just quitting porn, but learning that it was...

Are you constantly trying to control your sexual urges by building stronger fences, adding more rules, or relying on willpower? If so, you might be stuck in the exhausting cycle of resisting, giving in, and starting over. In this episode, I’m revisiting a powerful metaphor that will completely change how you think about your sexuality and what it actually means to be in control of it. Instead of t...

Why do urges seem to disappear, only to come right back? If you’ve ever processed an urge and then felt discouraged when it returned, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening. I’m talking about urge flow, the natural pattern of urges coming and going, and why this is not a sign that you’re doing it wrong. It is part of learning how to handle them in a new way. When you stop re...

Are you tired of feeling stuck in the same thought loops that seem to run on repeat, no matter what you do? Many of the thoughts that cause distress or lead you back to old habits aren’t actually problems that need solving. In this episode, I revisit a powerful concept that can completely change how you relate to your mind and help you stop letting repetitive thoughts dictate your behavior. I expl...

Are you doing all the right things but still feel stuck in the same patterns? When change doesn’t last, the issue usually isn’t discipline, motivation, or willpower. It’s the beliefs running quietly underneath everything else. In this episode, Coach Hunter Garrett breaks down how deeply held beliefs shape emotions, choices, and habits, often without you realizing it. He walks through five practica...

Are you frustrated by the idea that life should feel better once you finally quit porn? In this episode, I introduce the 50-50 principle and explain why understanding it can completely change how you approach quitting pornography. If you’ve ever thought something has gone wrong because you’re still struggling, still uncomfortable, or still dealing with hard emotions, this conversation will help yo...

Are you afraid of your urges? Many people struggle with the fear and discomfort they feel when urges to view pornography arise. But what if you could completely change how you relate to these urges? In this episode, I’m revisiting one of the most important topics for anyone looking to overcome pornography: understanding that urges are not a problem. You’ll learn how to separate urges from the thou...