Overcome Pornography for Good

Are you measuring your progress by counting days without pornography? If so, you may be setting yourself up for frustration and unnecessary shame. In this episode, I take a closer look at the all or nothing mindset that so many people are taught when trying to quit porn, and why starting over every time you slip up works against how real change actually happens. I walk through what learning truly...

What does true freedom from porn look like? In this episode, I’m diving into the core principles shared in a recent live class. We went beyond quick fixes like willpower or filters, which often lead to shame and repression, and explored what really leads to lasting freedom. These insights have helped clients from all different backgrounds create lasting change. By shifting your mindset and approac...

Are you struggling to stay committed to your New Year's goals? The excitement of a new year can be motivating, but it often fades quickly, leaving us wondering how to keep going. In this episode, I revisit one of my most popular topics: how to follow through with your goals, especially if quitting pornography is on your list for the new year. I address why so many people give up on their resolutio...

Are you struggling to recognize your progress in overcoming pornography? In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins shares a powerful indicator of success that can transform your journey: celebrating your wins. After nearly four years of coaching clients in the Overcome Pornography for Good program, Kat has identified a pattern that separates those who make lasting progress from those who feel stuck. Kat...

Are you worried about staying committed during the busy holiday season? The holidays bring travel, family dynamics, stress, and disrupted routines that can trigger emotional discomfort. In this episode, Hunter addresses a concern many have when working to overcome pornography: how to keep making progress when your normal systems and routines are disrupted.   Hunter reframes the holidays not a...

Do you believe you need to feel terrible about your porn use in order to change it? In this episode, I revisit why those emotional highs of celebrating a long streak and the lows of feeling devastated after a slip-up make quitting harder. When your experience swings between extremes, it becomes difficult to stay consistent, and the process starts to feel discouraging.   I explain how neutrali...

When sexuality and religion overlap, it is easy to get stuck looking for the “right” answer from your church or leaders. If you have ever found yourself searching for approval about masturbation, sexual decisions in your relationship, or whether quitting porn fits your faith tradition, this episode will help you understand why that search feels so confusing. The real question is not what your chur...

Do you get stuck in the cycle of negative “what-ifs” that hold you back from taking action? Many of us play the “what if” game, imagining worst-case scenarios that paralyze us from moving forward. Whether it’s fear of failure, shame, or anxiety, these negative thoughts can keep us from trying new things, especially when it comes to challenging old habits like pornography use. In this episode, Coac...

So many of us grow up believing our worth is measured by how much we get done, and those messages follow us into adulthood. When you live in a culture that praises achievement, it becomes almost automatic to link productivity to being a good person. The moment you slow down or rest, your brain floods you with thoughts about what you should be doing, which creates anxiousness that often leads to bu...

Talking about sex in a relationship can feel intimidating, especially when pornography use adds another layer of complexity. The vulnerability required to share desires, boundaries, and preferences often triggers fear of rejection and judgment.   In this episode, coach Jessica explores the challenges many couples face when discussing sex, offering practical strategies to navigate these conver...

Have you ever felt like you have to quit pornography perfectly or not at all? Many people fall into the trap of believing it’s all or nothing—total success or complete failure. This mindset creates pressure, shame, and burnout, making it even harder to follow through. Real change doesn’t come from perfection; it comes from persistence.   The compound effect teaches that meaningful results com...

Shame is one of the biggest barriers to change, but what if understanding where it comes from could help you finally release it? We often see shame as something that lives only inside of us, but it actually has two sides: the external messages we’ve absorbed from the world around us, and the internalized beliefs that shape how we see ourselves. In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins explores how these...

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by your emotions, like anger, anxiety, or sadness? We all experience powerful emotions, but the difference between getting stuck and moving forward often comes down to one skill: emotional agility.   In this episode, coach Hunter dives into the concept of emotional agility and why it’s such a crucial tool for overcoming pornography. You’ll discover a simple, fou...

Have you ever wondered why your thoughts about yourself or pornography feel so automatic and unchangeable? So often we treat beliefs like facts, but many of the things we tell ourselves repeatedly are just thoughts we’ve rehearsed until they feel true. Learning to separate facts from beliefs is the first step in taking control of your mind and your habits. In this episode, I’m revisiting the belie...

Have you noticed that trying to be “Mr. Nice Guy” or constantly people-pleasing can actually keep you stuck? On the surface, it may look like kindness or keeping the peace, but prioritizing others’ approval over your own needs often leads to resentment, disconnection, and the very behaviors you’re trying to overcome. In this episode, Coach Jessica explores how people-pleasing creates a cycle of se...

Do you find yourself believing every thought your brain throws at you? Our brains are wired to keep us safe, which often means defaulting to negativity and imagining worst-case scenarios. These patterns can create shame, frustration, and old habits that keep us stuck, including patterns around pornography use. In this episode, I explore how you can step back and observe your thoughts instead of au...

Do you find yourself stuck in a cycle of self-judgment, especially when dealing with pornography struggles? That critical voice in your head can feel like an unrelenting force, weakening you both mentally and physically. The longer this judgment lingers, the more it blocks your energy and affects everything from your stress response to your ability to sleep. In this episode, Coach Kat dives into h...

Have you ever wondered why all your hard work to overcome pornography still leaves you stuck in the same patterns? Many people are primarily focusing on filters, routines, or counting days. They work hard, follow all the steps, and still find themselves stuck in the same patterns, wondering why their efforts aren’t paying off. In this episode, Coach Hunter explains why all of that misses the point...

Setting boundaries can feel challenging, especially when it involves people you care about—whether it’s a spouse, family, friends, or religious leaders. In this episode, we revisit an important discussion about setting healthy boundaries while overcoming pornography. Transparency is crucial in building trust, especially with your spouse, but it’s equally important to protect your emotional and spi...

Have you ever wanted to get to know the coaches behind the Overcome Pornography for Good program? In this special Meet the Coaches episode, Jessica Farmer, Kat Jenkins, and Mimi Porter share how their unique journeys shaped the ways they guide clients toward real, lasting change. Listen as the three coaches share insights from their personal experiences and show why different coaching styles matte...

Do you feel like you're stuck in a cycle? The journey of overcoming pornography is often marked by repeating patterns that feel impossible to break. It can feel like falling into the same hole over and over again—lost, helpless, and unsure how to get out. In this episode, Coach Kat shares a powerful metaphor about breaking free from unwanted habits. It illustrates how we move through stages of awa...

Dating while working through pornography struggles can feel heavy and complicated. From fear of judgment to uncertainty about disclosure, it’s easy to get stuck wondering if you should even be dating at all.   In this episode, Coach Jessica Farmer talks about navigating dating while overcoming pornography use. She shares guidance on managing vulnerability, handling intense emotions, assessing...

Do you ever feel like you're caught between believing you're either a good person or a bad person? This kind of black-and-white thinking can lead to frustration, especially when trying to change unwanted behaviors. The truth is, we all embody both positive and negative qualities—this duality is a part of being human.   In this episode, I explore how embracing this dual nature is key to creati...

Do you ever find yourself stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts that feel impossible to break? It’s easy to get caught up in self-doubt, frustration, or fear, believing those thoughts as truths. But what if, in that moment, you could choose a different path? In today’s episode, I’m revisiting the Choose Again Method, a simple and powerful technique to help you shift negative thinking and build a m...

When your emotions feel like they're spiraling out of control, your body already knows what to do. In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins introduces a powerful hands-on technique called Jin Shin Jyutsu finger holds. This grounding practice assigns each finger to a specific emotion.   Through this guided practice, you'll discover how to use your own hands as tools for emotional regulation. Kat wal...