Not Your Therapist

Send us Fan Mail Did your childhood leave you with some emotional gaps? Enter reparenting —the process of giving yourself the love, support, and validation you may not have received growing up. In this quick Shrink Shots episode, we break down what reparenting is, why it matters, and how you can start healing old wounds by becoming the nurturing, compassionate parent you needed. Learn practical st...

Send us Fan Mail Dissociation: When ‘Zoning Out’ Is Actually a Trauma Response Ever found yourself zoning out mid-conversation or realizing you don’t remember the last five minutes of your drive? You’re not alone. This might be dissociation , a psychological defense mechanism that helps protect the brain from stress and trauma. In this episode of Shrink Shots , we break down: ✅ What dissociation...

Send us Fan Mail Did you know your gut is your “second brain”? The connection between your gut and brain, known as the gut-brain axis, plays a huge role in your mental health. In this episode of Not Your Therapist , we explore how what you eat can impact anxiety, depression, and your overall mood. Learn why your gut health matters, the signs of gut imbalance, and the foods that can either harm or...

Send us Fan Mail Your brain is constantly filtering reality, but what if those filters are twisting the truth? Cognitive distortions are sneaky thought patterns that make you believe things that aren’t actually true—and they’re a major reason behind anxiety, relationship problems, and low self-esteem. In this episode of Shrink Shots , we’re breaking down: ✅ What cognitive distortions are and how...

Send us Fan Mail Ever find yourself getting irrationally annoyed at someone, only to realize later that you were actually mad at yourself? Or maybe someone accused you of something completely off-base, and you thought, Wait… that’s not me, that’s YOU! ? That, my friends, is projection, one of the sneakiest defense mechanisms that can wreck relationships and keep us from real self-awareness. In thi...

Send us Fan Mail Toddler tantrums are tough, but they’re also a normal (albeit exhausting) part of parenting. In this episode of Not Your Therapist , we’re diving into the chaos of meltdowns to help you survive them with your sanity intact. You’ll learn why tantrums happen, what’s going on in your child’s brain during a meltdown, and why reasoning with them is impossible in the heat of the moment....

Send us Fan Mail Setting boundaries isn’t about controlling others—it’s about protecting your time, energy, and mental health . But here’s where most people get stuck: they set a boundary but don’t actually enforce it . If you say, “I won’t tolerate yelling,” but stick around when someone raises their voice, your boundary isn’t doing anything. In this episode of Shrink Shots , we break down: ✅ Wh...

Send us Fan Mail Ever feel like you’re losing yourself in a relationship? Maybe your mood depends on your partner’s mood, or you avoid conflict to keep the peace. That’s a differentiation problem—and it’s one of the biggest reasons people struggle with boundaries, emotional independence, and self-worth in relationships. In this episode of Shrink Shots , we’re breaking down: ✅ What differentiation...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever wondered why you react the way you do in relationships ? Your attachment style is the blueprint for how you connect with others—shaped by early experiences and influencing everything from romantic relationships to friendships and even work dynamics. In this episode of Not Your Therapist , we dive deep into the four attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and dis...

Send us Fan Mail You’ve had that oh sh t* moment—where suddenly, your entire past, your relationships, or your behaviors just click . That’s insight , one of the biggest game-changers in therapy. But here’s the catch: insight alone doesn’t fix anything. In this episode of Shrink Shots , we break down: ✅ What insight actually is & why it’s crucial for growth ✅ Why just knowing your patterns i...

Send us Fan Mail Ever feel dismissed when you open up about something important? Validation is more than just a "nice-to-have"—it's a core emotional need that affects how we connect with others and how we see ourselves. In this episode of Shrink Shots , we’re diving into: ✅ Why validation matters for mental health & relationships ✅ Where we often seek validation (and why it ba...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever been told, “You’re overreacting” or “That never happened”? Gaslighting is a toxic form of emotional manipulation that can make you question your own reality—especially when it comes from a partner, family member, or friend. In this episode of Not Your Therapist , we’re diving deep into gaslighting in relationships —what it is, key signs of gaslighting , and why peopl...

Send us Fan Mail Let’s get real: codependence is NOT a love language, no matter how much you’re telling yourself it is. In this episode, I’m breaking down the sneaky ways codependence shows up in your relationships (and in your life), why it’s toxic AF, and how to stop playing the role of fixer-upper. Plus, we’re throwing in some spicy psychology debate on whether codependence is even a real thing...

Send us Fan Mail Let’s talk about the elephant in the room: sometimes your therapist just isn’t cutting it. In this episode, I’m spilling the tea on 5 major red flags that scream it’s time to break up with your therapist. Whether they’re stuck in neutral, forgetting who you are, or letting you spiral without accountability, it’s time to demand better. Tune in for the no-BS guide to spotting the si...

Send us Fan Mail Family relationships: they’re messy, beautiful, and sometimes make you want to scream into a pillow. In this episode, we’re diving into the art of Loving Your Parents Without Losing Your Mind . Whether you’re navigating passive-aggressive comments, impossible expectations, or just trying to survive holiday dinners, I’ve got you covered. Here’s what we’ll explore: How different par...

Send us Fan Mail If the word mindfulness makes you want to roll your eyes and run for the hills, you’re not alone. In this episode of Not Your Therapist , we’re cutting through the fluff and diving into real, relatable ways to practice mindfulness that won’t feel like a chore or make you cringe. Whether you’re a busy professional, a parent juggling a million things, or just someone trying to keep...

Send us Fan Mail Feeling like a crispy, overworked waffle? Burnout isn’t just a buzzword—it’s a full-blown mind, body, and soul shutdown, and it’s coming for the best of us. In this episode, we’re diving into what burnout really is (hint: it’s not just being tired), why America’s hustle culture is the ultimate culprit, and how to spot the warning signs before you hit rock bottom. Oh, and don’t wor...

Send us Fan Mail Is anxiety your uninvited plus-one in life? You’re not alone—and you’re definitely not broken. In this debut episode of Not Your Therapist , I’m breaking down what anxiety really is (hello, overzealous amygdala), how it shows up in sneaky ways, and, most importantly, how to manage it without losing your mind. We’re talking about dragon breaths (even my toddler’s got this down), wh...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to Not Your Therapist, where real life meets real talk. Hosted by Kayla Reilly—licensed therapist, entrepreneur, and mom—this podcast dives into the messy, magical, and everything-in-between moments of life. From relationships and mental health to parenting and finding your balance, we’re ditching the fluff and serving up bite-sized episodes packed with practical tips, no-...