Normalizing Non-Monogamy - Personal Stories of Polyamory, Swinging, and Beyond

Happy New Year everyone! We have a fun bonus episode for you all today that is full of listener bloopers, what everyone is thankful for in 2020 even with it being a difficult year, and how we all plan to crush 2021!   Thank you to everyone who left us voicemails. We hope you enjoy this and have a fantastic 2021!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our January 16 Virtual Meet a...

Giselle is a free spirit who has lived a very full life of adventure and as best we can tell, she is just getting started! She's been exploring polyamory for close to 40 years and currently identifies as solo poly. This conversation is full of energy, excitement, and endless craziness. Boredom is not on the agenda for the next 90 minutes if you listen to this episode! Enjoy!   Check out the full s...

Krista and Brendan are a couple of 30 somethings who met at band camp in high school and have pretty much been together ever since. Early on in their relationship they began having conversations about non-monogamy and even had an occasional serendipitous threesome along the way. A few years back they dove in a little deeper and started having the conversation again which led them to exploring a va...

Kristen and Austin started exploring swinging early on in their relationship after they got pregnant and she lost interest in sex. Her solution was to outsource the task. Since then, they have leaned on non-monogamy to help them navigate their mismatched libidos, which have persisted even after the pregnancy. Over the years their dynamic has moved fluidly across the spectrum of non-monogamy and at...

Fear doesn't stop death. It only stops life. Amazing insight straight from the Cheating on Fear website , as is the following bio (not because we're lazy but because we're efficient!). Dante is an anthropologist by training and has traveled the world diving, climbing, and conducting research. Beatrice is a kinesiologist by training and is an avid Brazilian Jiu Jitsu practitioner and educator. Toge...

Jade self-describes as a cyborg who combines provocative thought with moving furniture. Clearly, you're in for an interview that blends a sharp sense of humor with a powerful story. Beyond cyborg, Jade is a comedian, performer, and artist. We're excited and honored to share with you this conversation that gives us a glimpse of exploring love, dating, relationships, sex, and life from a perspective...

Chloe and Drew were such amazing guests that we decided to have them back a second time! It's not critical that you listen to their first episode ( Ep 89 ) before listening to this one but it will provide some context. Their first episode resulted in a handful of listener emails concerned for Drew's wellbeing in the relationship. In this episode they address those concerns and talk about the incre...

Imani started exploring non-monogamy in 2013 when she was in a relationship that was fading out. Her and her partner decided to give it a try as a last ditch effort to save the relationship but it ended up not working out quite like that. Since then she has continued to explore and learn what works best for her. Her thoughtfulness and insight in this discussion is incredible and wide-ranging.   Sh...

Mistakes are inevitable and when they happen, communication is critical. Mariana and Rob are a young couple from Brazil who share their amazing story with us and prove that if you can communicate there is nothing you can't accomplish together. One of the other things we love about these two is that they prefer not to define their non-monogamous dynamic. As Rob says, the just do things and they try...

Scarlett is in her early forties and was married for 10 years before getting divorced a few years ago. Since then, she has started exploring just about everything under the sun! She identifies as solo poly and also has been loving the kinkier side of life. She even credits BDSM with helping her quit smoking! She brings incredible energy and personality to this powerful episode and we love it! Enjo...

Emily and Matt both thought they were broken and not meant to be loved like everyone else. Then they met and together decided to openly explore their sexualities and non-monogamy and everything changed for them. It has been an amazing journey but definitely not one without some bumps along the way. In fact, they describe their first experience as a "trial by fire" and it is full of learning opport...

Gabrielle grew up in Jamaica Queens with various forms of non-monogamy happening around her. She has been exploring it herself since the beginning of her dating life around age 17. Since then she has experienced a variety of dynamics and is currently happily identifying as solo poly. She is also a freelance writer who covers polyamory, sex, mental health, relationships, and the intersections of ra...

Rachael shares with us a powerful and beautiful story of self-discovery. She married at a young age and realized years later that she had never had the time to find who she was. At age 32 she had zero sex drive but figured that was just normal because she was "getting old..." Then she went to see the movie Wolverine and saw Hugh Jackman with his shirt off and it hit her that she needed to make som...

During college Wilson had a long distance relationship with a woman in Argentina. The two of them decided to open the relationship in an effort not to limit the other's physical needs. As he describes it, they had no idea what they were doing or that open relationships were even a "thing" that you could do. They just did it. It was a rocky few years and now he has done extensive research and disco...

You're about to embark on one of our most powerful episodes to date. Marie gracefully blends her moving personal stories with humor as she takes us through how she deconstructed her religious upbringing and then monogamy. It truly is a beautiful story. Beyond her guest starring role on our show, she also hosts her own podcast called Everyone's Autonomous, she's a non-monogamy relationship coach, a...

This is a fantastic discussion tying together infidelity, a desire to live life to the fullest, and incredible growth and communication... Sophie and Brandon are in their mid thirties and have been married for four years. This is the second marriage for both of them and they have been "intentionally non-monogamous" for about three years. The way they share how they have overcome obstacles and how...

This is a wonderful discussion about self-discovery, boundaries, standing up for yourself, and communicating with compassion. Leah is a self-proclaimed relationship junky but only recently dipped her toes into non-monogamy after accidentally matching with someone on a dating app. She didn't read the whole profile... Oops! She ended up going on a date with him and his partner anyways and had a grea...

Our first interview with a throuple! Woop woop! Not just any throuple either... These three are incredible humans and have such an amazing attitude towards life and relationships. It's no wonder they all fell in love with one another! Rah and Tom have been married for about 10 years and open for most of their relationship. About a year and a half ago they met Mel. None of them were looking for a s...

At 22, Nicki is our youngest guest so far. She has recently started exploring non-monogamy with her partner and as she puts it, she's standing at the edge of the abyss looking in... And she's super excited about it. All of it! She has a very high EQ and talks about how her experiences in exploring non-monogamy have already helped her understand and confront her anxiety and perfectionism. She's als...

This episode is such a ball of positive energy and good vibes that it should be titled "How to make Covid your Biatch!" Basically, it's like this: Christy is married to David and in a long term relationship with Jason... David is also in a long term relationship with Rebecca... Jason and Rebecca aren't technically in a relationship but hey, who doesn't like to have a little fun? Oh yeah... They al...

Rebecca's story is so amazing and inspirational! After a difficult breakup and being monogamous her entire life, she has spent the last 18 months (ish) rethinking everything. In that time, she has jumped into a non-hierarchical polyamorous relationship, started exploring kink, moved into a house with her polycule, and done an incredible amount of personal growth. This is a fantastic story and we h...

Zach is an incredibly kind and loving human who is full of joy and ready to share it with the world! He’s only 30 but has had a wildly diverse array of experiences… He’s traveled the world, accidentally joined a French Poly Cult in Paris, couch surfed his way across Europe using OKCupid, and even founded a university sanctioned orgy club during his time at Yale. This list only scratches the surfac...

Jane and Jay are in their early-ish forties and have been exploring swinging for the last seven years. The call themselves social swingers and for them it’s all about making friends and going with the flow. They talk with us about how much of a miracle it is that they actually ever swing with anyone because of how bad they are at picking up on vibes from others. But their communication has evolved...

Sky and Kody were destined to never be together... Or perhaps quite the opposite. Against all odds, Tinder somehow made it happen. Lucky for them and lucky for all of us who get to hear their journey! They are amazing humans who take communication and their approach to relationships to elite levels. They decided from the beginning of their relationship that it would be open but took the first few...

Charita Marie is an incredible woman who is an unbelievable advocate and activist in the black, non-monogamous, and LGBTQ+ communities. To name just a few, she is a co-organizer of Poly Dallas Millennium as well as the Dallas lead for Black and Poly . Beyond that, she has an amazing story to share. We talk with her about a wide range of topics including navigating mismatched libidos and asexuality...