Normalizing Non-Monogamy - Personal Stories of Polyamory, Swinging, and Beyond

Red and Jay are in their early thirties and have been together about nine years and married for five. They consider themselves social swingers and started exploring non-monogamy right at the beginning of the pandemic… Perfect timing, right?! In this conversation with us, they discuss how they have navigated opening their relationship at possibly the worst time ever, how they navigate swinging when...

This is our second interview with Gabby this week… In case you missed it, Gabby is a married, 37 year old, bisexual, relationship anarchist who has been exploring non-monogamy for about 10 years. In our first conversation with her, she shared with us how being diagnosed with bipolar disorder, PTSD, ADHD, and borderline personality disorder in her late teens has impacted and informed her relationsh...

  Gabby is a married, 37 year old, bisexual, relationship anarchist who has been exploring non-monogamy for about 10 years. In this first conversation with her, she shares with us how being diagnosed with bipolar disorder, PTSD, ADHD, and borderline personality disorder in her late teens has impacted and informed her relationships and non-monogamy. She also talks a lot about how she navigates mult...

Jan is a 25 year old pansexual, neurodivergent, relationship anarchist from the Netherlands. He recognized at age six that he approached things a bit differently than his peers and relationships were no exception. We have a fantastic discussion on transitioning and healing damaged relationships as well as learning to set healthy boundaries.   Jan is also working with a group of people he met on Re...

Rosie started exploring and researching the idea of non-monogamy a while ago and even tried it out briefly while she had a platonic partner. She ultimately determined it wasn’t necessarily for her, however, she ended up bringing a lot of the mindset and skills she developed and learned through non-monogamy into her monogamous relationship with her fiancé. Rosie is also an award-winning comedian, t...

Wendy started exploring non-monogamy about six years ago as a way to save her marriage. Anthony and his wife got into it almost 20 years ago and have been in dynamics ranging from swinging to a polyamorous quad. A few years ago their forces collided. They share with us the story of how they came to be together and the challenges of coming out of difficult relationships while trying to form new one...

Crystal and Rich came out of their previous marriages knowing they wanted something different. They found one another and have been exploring a cuckold dynamic just about from the beginning of their relationship... At least having the conversations since the beginning. This is such a fantastic conversation that shows there is more to a relationship style than the name implies. Everyone does things...

Kacie and Marcus have been married for about eight years and exploring polyamory and non-monogamy for three of them. They started their non-monogamy journey when Kacie realized she had a crush on a coworker and decided to talk to Marcus about it. The conversation went way better than she expected and three years later they are continuing to evolve and grow together as they figure out what works be...

Mason is an amazing queer transgender man who has been married for over a decade and exploring non-monogamy for the past five years. Everywhere Mason goes, he seems to drive change. He went to a private Christian university and went head-to-head with administration almost weekly regarding policies and treatment of the LGBTQ+ community. Now, as a sex educator who runs a business helping trans peopl...

  This conversation with Javay is absolutely incredible. It's full of amazing stories, information, and a ton of laughs. Full disclosure, the rest of this description is taken straight from her website at themillennialsexpert.com because she wrote it way better than we ever could!   From Javay: I am a Black, bisexual, sex educator. I use she/her pronouns. I was born in Washington, DC and grew up i...

Emily is a screenwriter and script supervisor who does cosplay and designs geek clothing. She's also non-monogamous and kinky, which she discovered after her divorce. She's been exploring the kink scene and solo polyamory for a few years, and as most of us do, continuing to evolve and figure out what works best for her. This is a fantastic conversation with a seriously badass human! Enjoy!   Emily...

Jaret is partnered with Jamie who was a former guest on episode 184. This deep conversation with Jaret covers his experiences in healing from a traumatic brain injury, supporting his dad and partner, Jamie, through their transitions, and releasing expectations in relationships and life. This is a powerful episode in many ways, we hope you enjoy it.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here...

In this fantastic roundtable conversation we bring Leanne, G, and Zach back on the show to talk more about their experiences creating safe and inclusive spaces to explore sexuality.  G and Zach were foundational members of the orgy club/team at Yale. Leanne was a member of Oxford’s Piers Gaveston Society and also has organized many of her own orgies.  We tap into their wisdom in how to build commu...

Mandy is such a delight to talk to and is so full of positive energy! She is a bisexual badass who has been exploring solo polyamory and relationship anarchy for about four years. We have an amazing discussion about her journey, about navigating the complications of mono-poly dynamics, and of course, Fin's favorite topic... Unicorn hunting! Mandy is also the creator of the fantastic YouTube channe...

Jacob is an amazing trans-masculine, non-binary human who is just about to turn 22. He (his preferred pronouns) has been exploring polyamory and non-monogamy for a few years and takes us inside the world of dating and relationships through his life experience and journey. It's a beautiful conversation and we hope you enjoy it!   Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 O...

This interview with Izzy is absolutely amazing! They have been exploring polyamory for a little over three years but that is just the tip of the iceberg. This conversation is really about love, adventure, kindness, and living life. Izzy's approach to all of these is inspiring. We hope you enjoy this powerful interview.   Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Onl...

Sarah and Keith are in their early thirties and have essentially been together since they were 15, if we don't count that short break during college. They started exploring non-monogamy about six months ago after sort of stumbling across it while posting sexy photos of Sarah in various Reddit communities. They're looking to explore it all and see where the journey takes them. We love the energy an...

Brea is 30 years old, queer, nonbinary, exploring non-monogamy for the last ten years, outdoorsy, a forager, professional cook, gardener, and overall badass! We have an honest and extremely powerful discussion about their struggles and what they’ve learned throughout their non-monogamy journey. Also, Brea is a partner to Ryan from Episode 181, so after you listen to this episode, go back and check...

Be unapologetically yourself! This is how Amy shows up in life and it is amazing and inspiring. She’s a former sex worker, an attorney, she owns multiple pole dance studios, and she is crushing it all. She’s also been exploring non-monogamy with her husband for about a year now and their story is beautiful. If you’re in the Bay Area, definitely check out Amy’s studios in Berkley , San Francisco, a...

Norm is incredibly positive and vibrant with a zest for living life. He has been in a “don’t ask, don’t tell” dynamic with his wife since they got married. Before that, he explored non-monogamy in a variety of ways. He has some amazing stories to share along with some fantastic strategies for navigating dating as a solo guy. Enjoy! Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $1...

Jacqueline is so many things... She's a mother, Latine, polyamorous, queer, pansexual, educator, organizational strategist, the co-host of the Curious Fox podcast and COO of the Curious Fox, and overall a super badass person! This discussion covers everything from raising kids in poly families to finding out your partner has been cheating on you a month before your wedding. This is a fantastic con...

Kelly has been exploring polyamory for over 30 years and as she says it “since before the word polyamory even existed.” Our conversation with her is beautiful and weaves together how she moves through the world inspiring others to be kind, take care of one another, and share love in the ways that make the most sense for themselves.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our June...

Jamie’s story is beyond powerful. They are incredibly vulnerable with us about the adversity they have overcome and continue to work through around transitioning, being autistic, surviving a stroke, poverty, and being in a relationship they don’t really have words to describe. While powerful and moving, Jamie also brings levity and humor to their story which is amazing. This isn’t one to skip… We...

Phillip grew up in an extremely conservative household which influenced much of how he approached love, sexuality, relationships, and life. Since coming out in high school he has been pushing back and finding what works for him and the life he wants to live. Two years ago his boyfriend presented him with the idea/ultimatum of polyamory, something Phillip had no interest in. Rather than give up on...

Jessie is in her late twenties and has been exploring non-monogamy for about the past two years. Roy's been trying to turn 50 but Covid keeps getting in the way. He's been exploring polyamory for about ten years. Right near the start of Jessie's journey these two met and started on an adventure together. They share with us their individual journeys as well as what it has looked like for them explo...