Nobody Told Me This Part: Caregiving, Loss, and What Comes Next

You named it. The grief, the guilt, the hollow feeling, the empty abyss. But naming something doesn't make it stop weighing on you, does it? There's still more to understand, and that's exactly what we're doing in this new series. Not to stay in the hard stuff, but because understanding it is what finally starts to lift it. The sunshine is coming, friend. Let's walk toward it together. If you'd li...

When your brain is foggy from loss, deep self-help books take too much energy. In this episode, Shelby shares the simple, low-pressure items that got her through her hardest days—from her late mother’s blanket to cozy TV loops and messy acrylic paints. Learn how to build your own tiny toolkit of physical comforts to help you anchor your body and survive the afternoon. Connect at https://shelbydell...

At least he's not suffering" or "You're so strong!" Well-meaning family and friends often say the absolute wrong things to a grieving caregiver. In this standalone episode, Shelby validates the frustration and loneliness of those clumsy comments. Learn how to drop the pressure to look "healed" for others, set gentle boundaries, and protect your peace. Want to join the email list?  Click here: Subs...

How do you actually live your life after a massive, identity-shifting loss? In this final installment of our inaugural series, Shelby shares the gentle wisdom she wishes she could whisper to her 47-year-old self sitting on the couch. She breaks down why you must protect your own healing timeline from the well-meaning pressure of others, and what "moving forward, one breath at a time" practically l...

How do you start finding joy again when you’ve completely forgotten how to have fun? In this episode, Shelby shares a heartwarming and messy step in her own healing journey: visiting a local paint-your-own-pottery studio and eventually buying cheap acrylics to make art that, by her own admission, "really sucked." She discusses the profound guilt that comes with experiencing pleasure after loss, an...

What do you do when the caregiving ends, the distractions are turned off, and you are left staring at a completely empty calendar? In this heavy but deeply necessary episode, Shelby talks about the moment her grief counselor asked her a simple question: "What do you do for fun?"—and the terrifying realization that she had no answer. If, after caregiving, you find yourself starting completely over...

Why is it that you can easily summon the energy to do laundry, buy groceries, and manage your family's needs, but getting up to do something for yourself feels entirely impossible? In this episode, Shelby opens up about her own "summer on the couch" following the loss of her husband. She shares how her late mother's blanket, alongside endless loops of Love It or List It and House Hunters, became a...

What happens when the caregiving stops, the paperwork slows down, and you are suddenly hit with a wave of relief? In this episode, Shelby shares a raw, personal story about a solitary lunch at a neighborhood Chili's, a ringing phone, and the sudden, suffocating guilt that comes when the storm finally ends. If you are struggling to balance grief with a newfound sense of peace, this 10-minute episod...

When your caregiving journey ends, the world expects you to simply move on. On the outside, you’re doing all the things that have to be done—paying bills, managing the family, and going through the motions. But on the inside, does the spark that made you you feel completely gone? In this very first official episode of Nobody Told Me This Part, host Shelby DellaRosa shares her personal story of car...

The host of Nobody Told Me This Part: caregiving, loss, & what comes next, Shelby DellaRosa, welcomes new guests to this podcast for caregivers who are struggling after the loss of their person.