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We continue reading Dale Carnegie’s book: “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”.  #worry is counter productive #does your worrying change the situation? #whats the worst that could possibly happen? #as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he” #you are what you think Send us Fan Mail Support the show "Everyday is a New Beginning "

From Dale Carnegie’s book : “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”. - Does worry change your situation? - Does spending sleepless nights thinking about the problem make it disappear? - Do you find solutions  by worrying? - Ask yourself: “what’s the worst that could happen?”. - Have you considered acknowledging the problem, noticing your thoughts and  emotions , getting enough sleep, exercising, a...

#thoughts #emotions #behaviour #interlinked #notice your thoughts #notice the link between  your thoughts and your emotions #notice the influence of your thoughts and emotions on your actions/behaviour #notice how your negative actions/behavior influence your thoughts, emotions and eventually your Behaviour creating a cycle of negativity. #notice how your distorted thoughts influence your emotions...

#Are you avoidant? #What scares you in a relationship? #What are the strengths of your relationship? #What needs changing in the relationship? #Never try changing the person: change perceptions, expectations and examine what you have in common #when there is conflict do you prefer shutting down than talking? That’s stonewalling  (sulking).   When you do that, how is your partner impacted and does...

Self-awareness:  involves emotional self-understanding, emotional self-expression, self-acceptance, awareness of how your emotions impact others, and how you get impacted by other people's emotions, actions and behaviours as well. # Your ability to effectively manage conflict, anger, and stress.  #Self-awareness is all about the awareness of your strengths and limitations. Therefore, it'...

Our early childhood’s emotional and physical environment influences  our adult life and how we end up experiencing relationships. Are you secure? # To those who have subscribed by clicking “follow”; THANK  YOU so much; it means a lot to us. #P lease  also subscribe to our  YouTube channel,  share on Facebook and with friends and family who may benefit from these messages;  help them navigate life...

                      WHAT CAN WE  DO  #unhealthy Relationship  #toxicity #toxic relationships  #emotionally overwhelming  #draining #demeaning #abusive #belittling #hurting #genderbasedviolence #violence #aggressive #quit #toxic-environment  #Please support us  by following our podcast; click on follow at the top right corner of the page to receive an update every time we upload a new audio.  # T...

🌿 The Silent Wound: Growing Up Without a Father 🌿          Written By Rittah Mmonadibe ,          Edited by Dr T.M Wyllie  #Absentfathers #absentdaddies #absent Dads #absent #father        Looking at social media this past Sunday was heartbreaking. While we celebrated daddies with love and laughter, it was evident that Father’s Day is a painful trigger for some.      For those who grew up withou...

Attachment Styles :  Anxious - Avoidant             Why Do I Pull Away OR Hold On Too Tight? Understanding your attachment style is the first step to building healthier, more secure connections.   💞 Anxious vs. Avoidant Attachment Styles Attachment theory explains how early experiences shape our relationship behaviors. Here’s a simple breakdown of two common insecure styles: anxious and avoidant...

How to  Emotionally Self-Regulat e Emotional self-awareness is crucial in our day to day life; at the workplace and in our personal lives.  Each day we encounter situations that may trigger tension in various settings.  An emotionally intelligent individual has the competencies of emotional self-awareness, emotional self-expression and awareness of other people’s emotions and this also involves mi...

Written by Rittah Mmonadibe,  Edited by Dr Tshidi M Wyllie,PhD. 🌿 The Healing Power of Forgiveness 🌿        Forgiveness is not about condoning what hurts us. It’s not about forgetting, or pretending we’re okay when we’re not.          Forgiveness is about freedom, freeing ourselves from the heavy burden of anger, resentment, bitterness and pain of the past that silently weighs on our hearts and...

#Empathy #Compassion #Kindness #Self-Compassion #Acts of Kindness  #Shifting focus #Mindfulness #Loving others attracts self love #Journaling #Keep Supporting our Podcast to help us continue uploading content on this platform by clicking this link:  https://www.buzzsprout.com/ 1813802/supporters/new Send us Fan Mail Support the show "Everyday is a New Beginning "

#Happiness is possible #Rewire your Brain #Self-Perception #Nature Walks #Music & Dance #Choose to be happy despite what you may be going through  #Contentment #Happiness is a choice, it starts in the mind #Laughter Therapy/Comedy #Aroma Therapy Keep Supporting our Podcast to help us continue uploading content on this platform by clicking this link:  https://www.buzzsprout.com/ 1813802/support...

      Written by Rittah Mmonadibe,        Edited by Dr Tshidi M Wyllie         As we celebrated Mother’s Day, our hearts went out to the women who carried dreams of motherhood but never got to be called  “ Mum “ or "Mama."        Those who have endured the heartbreak          of miscarriages…       Those who have walked the painful path of infertility… Those who grieve the child they nev...

🌱 A Season of Waiting : Delay is Never a Denial 🌱   Written by : Rittah Mmonadibe Edited by : Tshidi M Wyllie,PhD. In the quiet moments of waiting, it’s easy to feel forgotten. When doors don’t open as quickly as we hope, or healing takes longer than expected, we can begin to doubt ourselves, our path, and even our worth. But here’s the truth we want you to hold onto: a delay is not a denial . L...

   Are you a 30+ year old unemployed Motswana male ? - Do you keep applying for jobs and not getting feedback? - Or;  Have you lost your job and now learning to adapt? - What coping strategies are you using? - What life style  adjustments did  you have to make as a result of your situation? - What feelings, thoughts and emotions are associated with your situation? - How has the situation affected...

Your thoughts influence your emotions and ultimately your actions. Notice the triggers.  Pay attention to the emotions that follow and name them. Notice the behaviour born out of emotions influenced by distorted thinking. Pay attention to your physiological responses/bodily sensations. Are your coping strategies working for you? What can you do differently? Emotions are not bad; they carry message...

- It is important to identify and clarify your emotions. - Emotions are harmless, how emotions  are expressed however is another thing - Anger is a normal feeling, knowing what triggered it is essential. - Embracing anger than suppressing it is helpful and healthy - Establishing  positive, effective  ways of expressing anger in a less aggressive manner is not only good for the person with anger, b...

Have you ever wondered why some days leave you completely drained while others energize you? The answer lies in a simple but profound exercise—creating an activity inventory of your daily life. Following our previous exploration of relationship inventories, this episode dives deep into how the activities filling your day impact your mental wellbeing. From the moment you wake until you fall asleep,...

Take stock of your relationships Develop a relationship inventory Which ones are sucking energy out of you and which are nourishing for you What can you do to cope in depleting relationships? How can you enhance relationships that you find draining? Are they worth keeping? Can you create healthy boundaries?  Keep Supporting our Podcast to help us continue uploading content on this platform, please...

#”How to Stop Worrying and Start Living” is an intriguing book by Dale Carnegie. It’s worth  reading. Do  you love the job you do? Is your personality compatible with the job you do or the course you are pursuing  if you are still at college or varsity?  It is important to choose a career that's comptible to your personality; e.g you can't be in any of the helping professions (Nursing, S...

By Rittah Mmonadibe      Edited by : Tshidi M Wyllie ( PhD)                                         “Rejoice with those who celebrate, and weep with those who mourn” is a common phrase, but how easy is it to live by it? What makes it difficult to celebrate the success of others?     Often we are  told to celebrate the success of others, cheer them on and  wholeheartedly be happy for them. What  ha...

1. Learn to listen: We hear our partner talking all the time, but how often do we really listen? Hearing and listening are two different things. If you find yourself fighting back anger at what your partner is saying, busy preparing what to say as soon as you get a chance or interrupt, then you’re not listening. To improve communication, you need to learn to listen to what your partner is saying. ...

       We are social beings and thrive on togetherness, however, in everyday life we may encouter diverse individuals with complex backgrounds, personalities and behaviours. Just as we may have been through a lot in our life, they too may have been through various psychosocial challenges, and just as we may have been wounded, they may also be having scars.       Therefore, we are bound to get trig...

Encountering challenges is part of life,  however, how you respond to the situation makes a great difference and your coping strategies matter. You are human, so ofcourse you are going to be worried, stressed, frustrated and sometimes even depressed.  However, ruminating  is an unhealthy way of trying to solve the problem in your head, and the bottom line is that; it does not reduce the anxiety bu...