NeuroDiverse Christian Couples

New year - new you- or at least a new perspective of yourself and your neurodiverse marriage! So many times, once the diagnosis is made, the sole focus can become the autism/neurodiversity, but Dr. Stephanie & Barbara talk about the many complexities that make up a neurodiverse Christian marriage!

 It's 2026, and Dan and Stephanie start our podcast series this year on Atomic Habits. The month of January is all about NEW! Remember, Patreon is new! Part 2 of the discussion is on Patreon. In Atomic Habits, James Clear reminds us that real change doesn’t come from dramatic overhauls but from small, consistent actions that add up over time. For neurodiverse marriages, this principle is especiall...

Today, Dr. Holmes talks with neurodivergent psychiatrist, Dr. Stacy Greeter . Topics discussed: Dr. Greeter's diagnosis journey at the age of 40 as a practicing psychiatrist. Growing understanding of Autism Myths about Autism Different presentations of girls/women in Autism Gender Fluidity & Autism Medications and How to be a psychiatric patient and advocate for yourself as an autistic patient...

In this powerful and deeply introspective episode of Just the Guys, host Dan Holmes sits down with pastor, musician, and spiritual director Josh Davis—also known as the “Autistic Pastor.” Josh shares his personal journey from a masked life of ministry and performance to one of authenticity, self-discovery, and spiritual transformation following his autism and ADHD diagnosis in adulthood.  Together...

About: Today, Dan and Stephanie interview Jon Seidl, author of Confessions of a Christian Alcoholic. Neurodivergent men are 9 times more likely than their non-neurodivergent peers to develop an alcohol or substance use/abuse problem. The later in life diagnosed neurodivergent man (with ADHD or ASD) with a co-occurring issue of anxiety and or depression is the most vulnerable to alcohol or substanc...

Today on Coaches' Corner, we discuss burnout vs. autism burnout and the impact on neurodiverse marriage and family systems. What is burnout, and how is it different than autism burnout? When are neurodiverse couples most vulnerable? When the autistic spouse is in burnout, the impact on the non-autistic. Holidays are always a time that can bring on burnout- both positive and negative changes can br...

As we enter the Advent season, we pause to remember the beautiful rhythms God gives us through the four candles of Advent—Hope, Peace, Joy, and Love—all pointing us toward the final candle: the Light of Christ. In the weeks leading up to Christmas, we are invited to not only celebrate these truths but to practice them in our daily life, our relationships, and our marriages. In this podcast, Dan an...

 Today, Dr. Holmes talks to Heidi and Robin about AVA: Autistic Voiceover Artists. What if there were a place- a program- a community for autistic adults who want to use their voice talents in the voiceover industry? THERE IS! Have you thought about all the ways voiceover work is possible?   About our Guests: Heidi S. Hackney MS, PCC, Co-Founder Certified Autism Coach, ICF Accredited Life Coach, M...

Today, Dr. Stephanie Holmes talks with Occupational Therapist, Kelly Mahler. The topic is interoception! Every neurotype can struggle with it, but we find neurodivergent folks can have a few more challenges with interoception. Defined by Kelly's website: Many people notice these feelings in their body with the help of an important sense… a sense called… interoception. Don’t let the name fool you....

In this holiday-themed episode of Just the Guys, the conversation centers on thankfulness—not as a sentimental add-on to Thanksgiving, but as a practical tool for navigating the chaos of family gatherings. Drawing from Dr. Jim Wilder’s teaching on appreciation as the spark that “turns on our relational circuits,” the guys explore how gratitude transforms not just moods but entire relationships.  G...

 Today, Dr. Stephanie and Barb talk with Dr. Jill Corvelli about the ND Compass charting stages of relationship progression for ND couples. Stages of Relationship Progression: Romance Power Struggle Stability Commitment Co-Creation    About Our Guest: Jill Corvelli, PhD, LPC, is the creator of ND Compass, a structured methodology designed to support neurodiverse couples in relational healing. With...

We are welcoming back Dr. Lehman with so much positive feedback about his first time on the show. Last show with Dr. Karl, we specifically spoke about the trauma from the perspective of the non-autistic woman married to an autistic man. Today, we shift the focus to potential traumas the autistic man may have, where simple feedback and simple emotions can trigger trauma in the autistic spouse, with...

Our guest was identified on the autism spectrum with the label he prefers, Asperger's Syndrome, and began his identification journey of what it means to be on the spectrum. As we conclude this month's focus on attachment, Michael shares from his book, Sacred Attachment, that discovering God's love, affection, and delight in us was life-changing. Michael shares many insights, but leans in on his de...

Continuing this month's topic on attachment and attunement, we have with us today the Life Model Works Executive Director, Marlene Allen. So many of our clients and listeners ask how I can have joy in pain or return to joy when things seem hopeless. Isn't that like just being happy and faking it until you make it? No! Today, we talk about adversity, pain, and lament, and how they differ from compl...

This month, we are focusing on Attachment! Dan invited a previous guest and attachment expert, Dr. W. Jesse Gill, to join the guys to talk about attachments. What do powder milk biscuits have to do with attachment? Just the Guys cast Greg, Jeremy, and Clay discuss with Dan and Dr. Gill thoughts and questions about attachment.   Dr. Gill's site: https://www.facetofaceliving.com/our-story 7 Keys to...

Attachment to God! What a huge topic to cover! Today, Dr. Stephanie and Barbara talk with Geoffrey & Cyd Holsclaw about intimacy and attachment to God. We continue our month-long deep dive on ATTACHMENT/INTIMACY. Topics in our discussion:  Right brain vs left brain stuff- logical approach to knowing about God, to relational attachment to or with God. The old marriage triangle of husband and wi...

Today's podcast kicks off a new series, running through November 3rd, and concludes with Dr. Karl Lehman. This 6-week series focuses on identity, attachment, wounds, lament, and securing our attachment in Christ, not your marriage. In this episode of Neurodiverse Christian Couples, hosts Dan and Stephanie welcome back neurotheologian Dr. Jim Wilder for a deep dive into identity formation, attachme...

Today, Dan & Stephanie try to cover a difficult topic using stories that can happen with neurodiverse couples and weaving in the story of Elizabeth Holmes/ Theranos after seeing the documentary on HBO Max about remembering differently, different priorities, and lying to oneself.  Often, the couple remembers something differently (more often than not) and gets stuck in the weeds on whether a fa...

Part 2 of the "  Can a NeuroDiverse Couple Truly Be Happy discussion. If you missed part 1, check out the catalog as of September 1!  Colleague and Neurodiverse Couple Specialist Jodi Carlton interviewed us for her show, Your NeuroDiverse Couple Podcast, Season 5. Stephanie and Dan were featured in the Couples Who are Making It! We also talk about our book Uniquely Us! Get the book here:  https://...

In this episode of Just the Guys , the hosts — joined by a new guest, Kevin — tackle the important and nuanced topic of anger, meltdowns, and their impact on relationships. Drawing from their own neurodiverse experiences and relationships, they explore whether “meltdown” and “anger” are interchangeable, and how these emotional states affect not only the individual but everyone around them.  They d...

Can Neurodiverse marriages work? Can they be satisfying and healthy? Does autism really ruin marriage and family- NO! Does the training of your coach or counselor matter- YES! You will hear an introduction by neurodiverse relationship expert and coach Jodi Carlton. Jodi has been instrumental in forming a peer support group for neurodiverse couples from around the world. You will hear some panelist...

Today, Barbara was unable to co-host with Dr. Stephanie. For today, Dr. Stephanie is joined by Jeremy Rochford of Our Neuro Fam and Just the Guys to discuss Dr. Attwood's newest book, written by co-author Maxine Aston. This year marks 5 years of the ND Couples Podcast, and we welcome Dr. Tony Attwood back to the show to share his decades of experience. Professor Tony Attwood is a clinical psycholo...

Colleague and Neurodiverse Couple Specialist Jodi Carlton interviewed us for her show for Season 5- Your NeuroDiverse Couple Podcast. Stephanie and Dan were featured in the Couples Who are Making It! We also discuss our book, Uniquely Us! Get the book here: https://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com/uniquelyus  According to our research, 10-12% of ND Christian Couples are satisfied or thriving!...

We hope you have been following this entire month of podcasts on sex, porn, addiction, healthy sexuality, and now total intimacy. Today, we look at what total intimacy is. Is there such a thing as the sin of withholding? Where did that come from? Is it the wife's duty to cover or pay for her husband's sin? What is con·cu·pis·cence, and can Stephanie even say it? Where did this thought originate th...