NeuroDiverse Christian Couples

As we round out this introduction to Holmes' Cinema Clues, we have the ND Magnet. Dan always loved the work of musician, artist, and producer Steve Taylor. To read more about why- check out Dan's Substack https://substack.com/home/post/p-195431296 To hear part 2 of this conversation with Steve, where we talk about Sketch go to   https://www.youtube.com/@HolmesCinemaCluesAutisminMedia

Cross Over Month with Holmes' Cinema Clues with Dr. Temple Grandin Wanna watch it- find us on YouTube! Wanna hear the entire conversation? Pt 2 September 19 at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-ggS1XV-wfc&t=273s Want to learn more about Holmes' Cinema Clues show? https://www.holmescinemaclues.com/ This is a second show and channel where we discuss autism and media and use cinema to educate abou...

This month we want to introduce you to our new YouTube Show https://www.youtube.com/@HolmesCinemaCluesAutisminMedia So welcome to the podcast crossover month! Our new show if you want to see the clips that we used today in the podcast, a new show drops on YouTube every Friday night. What if your favorite characters were leaving clues? Holmes’ Cinema Clues is a YouTube series hosted by Dr. Stephani...

Many times after the identification of an autistic of ADHD partner the couple wants to start couples' work but are you really ready? We go over these 10 things found in Uniquely Us to see if the couple, both partners, are ready to do couples' work. From this blog written by Dr. Stephanie & Barb are you ready? https://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com/post/are-you-ready-for-marriage-work-10...

As we continue this month's conversations about Attachment to God, Self & Others, JTG has guest Dr. Jim Wilder as they discuss Dr. Wilder's books Solution of Choice & Passages of Men. Today, the "Guys" talk with Dr. Jim Wilder based on concepts from Other Half of Church, Passages of Men & Solution of Choice.

Today on Neurodiverse Christian Couples, Dr. Stephanie Holmes is joined by guest co-host Jenilee Rachel, filling in for Dan, for a conversation with Kimberly June Miller, MTh, LMFT, co-author with Dr. Alison Cook of Boundaries for Your Soul. Together, they explore Internal Family Systems (IFS) from a distinctly Christian perspective. IFS gives us language for understanding the different “parts” of...

Today as we have been talking about rupture and repair and attachment, we need to discuss boundaries, which Dr. Curt Thompson calls "limit setting necessary ruptures." Key points from Dr. Stephanie and Barb's discussion on what boundaries are and are not: Core ideas 1. Ruptures are inevitable in relationships. 2. Not every rupture should be repaired in the same way. 3. A boundary can create a rupt...

I asked Dr. Wilder about Neurodiversity & Attachment, since not a lot of research is out there on autism and attachment. Most research was on neurotypical individuals. My question was about adding a layer of attachment to neurodiversity. Response: Consider that attachment styles are acquired through experience. Dismissives set their attachment signal volume too low Distracted set their attachm...

Discussion: Dr. Holmes and Dr. Weiss discuss the John Hopkins and current Duke University studies on neuroinflammation and the brain, with specifics on the impact on the autistic brain. Dr. Weiss shares his personal story of stem-cell treatment and the impact on his young adult son with autism who went from having a few words at the age of 23 to living independently.  Dr. Eric Weiss is a leader in...

What if the addiction isn't actually the problem? In this episode of Just the Guys, we're joined by author, speaker, and podcast host Jon Seidl, whose journey through anxiety, OCD, alcoholism, trauma, and recovery has led him to an unexpected conclusion: lasting change doesn't happen by simply removing the behavior; it happens when we discover what's underneath it.  Together we explore: Why addict...

Dr. Stephanie is solo today, bringing in research about autism and identity and how it leads to issues with attachment and addiction. Bringing together the discussions on attachment is the way out of addiction not willpower alone. Why does one addiction pop up when you master another? How is Attachment related to Addiction? Why do autistic folks struggle with an integrated identity (thoughts from...

Love, Sex & Autism: Building Intimacy Through Safety, Not PressureWhat does a healthy sexual relationship look like in a neurodiverse marriage? In this episode, Dr. Stephanie Holmes and Barbara Grant welcome back Candice Christiansen, LCMHC, Autism-ADHD specialist and author of Love, Sex & Autism. Candice previously joined us to discuss the significant overlap between autism, ADHD, and add...

Today, we are talking about addiction and why the ADHD or ASD brain seems to be more prone to addictive behaviors, or substance or porn addiction, with addiction specialist Ed Khouri. Links below will share some articles that support the discussion. Ed Khouri is a co-author of Joy Starts Here and author of the Face of Grace. Today, we talk about how joy and peace are needed in the brain, how ADHD...

Every marriage is being built one choice at a time—even the choices we don't make.  In this episode of Just the Guys, we talk about the gap between intentions and impact, why many men accidentally build a marriage they never intended, and what happens when we move from simply maintaining a relationship to intentionally investing in it.  Using analogies of home ownership, repairs, coaching, and per...

Today, we talk about self-care and neurodiverse marriage and family life with podcaster Christina Marie.  Christina says about herself: Hey, I’m Christina—married 18 years to a neurodiverse man and mom of three neurodiverse kids. For years, I tried to fix our home environment, hoping to ease the sensory and communication challenges in my neurodiverse family. But no matter how much I read or how ma...

So many times, couples in crisis when they get to coaching. Today Barbara Grant and Dr. Stephanie talk about grace and space, resetting your brain, and taking time to heal before doing the couples' work. To find a group Dr. Stephanie or Barb mentioned groups for women based on whole brain healing. Barb's https://bg-hc.com/2026-groups Dr. Stephanie's https://www.holmesasr.com/womengroups

This one was an emotional one to make. We sat down with the pastors who are now in transition to another part of their journey. We talk about their impact on us as a couple and on the church, and how we came to know Dr. Jim Wilder, LifeModel Works, Neurotheology, and more! Dan talks about how he went from showing up at church and having intellectual knowledge of Jesus to an attached relationship w...

This month, we examined weaponized Scriptures, and today we talk with Thomas Pryde of Psalm 82 Initiative to talk about, When is it Abuse? Thomas said a healthy relationship uses whatever power you have to help others, not harm them, and when you love someone, freedom abounds, but freedom is not anarchy. What does that mean? Join us for the discussion. We started with the definition of abuse from...

Today, Dr. Stephanie is solo, but NDCC welcomes back the Reverend Bruce C. E. Fleming, the Host of The Eden Podcast and co-founder of the Tru316 Foundation. His website is Tru316.com .  A former Academic Dean and professor of Practical Theology in French-speaking Africa, he is the author of The Eden Book Series that builds on the research of his wife, former Old Testament Professor and full-time c...

In this episode, Dan and Stephanie sit down with Dr. Jake Porter for a thoughtful and honest conversation about one of the most debated — and often weaponized — passages in Christian marriage discussions: 1 Corinthians 7. What did Paul actually mean when he wrote about marital intimacy? How has this passage been misused to justify pressure, coercion, and “duty sex” within Christian relationships?...

Today on ND Couples Coaches' Corner, Dr. Stephanie and Barbara Grant continue the series on the month-long series examining how Scripture is sometimes misused by spiritual authorities—such as clergy, small-group leaders, biblical counselors, and Christian counselors—in ways that shame or further harm those who are already experiencing abuse in their marriages. In this special series, Twisted Scrip...

Today, we begin a month-long series examining how Scripture is sometimes misused by spiritual authorities—such as clergy, small-group leaders, biblical counselors, and Christian counselors—in ways that shame or further harm those who are already experiencing abuse in their marriages. In this special series, Twisted Scripture: When the Bible Is Weaponized, we take a careful and thoughtful look at p...

When we were kids, PDA meant public displays of affection. Now, apparently, it means pathological demand avoidance — which is significantly less fun at family gatherings. In this episode of Just the Guys, the guys wander through the tangled forest of demand avoidance, rejection sensitivity, imposter syndrome, diagnosis, stubbornness, anxiety, and why taking out the trash can somehow become an exis...

Dr. Stephanie welcomes back Dr. Celine Saulnier to discuss adaptive and functional skills. Dr. Celine is the author of the Vineland Adaptive Skills Scales, Third Edition. Parts of our conversation look at differences in assessing children and adults when determining adaptive and functional skills. A discussion also includes ADOS, CARS, and MIGDAS-2, and what if an adult gets two different results...

Today, Barbara & Dr. Stephanie talk with NeuroDiverse Peer Support Network colleague, Jodi Carlton. Jodi's book, The Misunderstood Mind, is scheduled for release on October 6, 2026, but pre-orders are coming soon. To follow that launch, go to https://jodicarlton.com/  Barbara Grant: If you want to do relationship work for your ND marriage, look up Barb at https://bg-hc.com/ . Barbara has avail...