NeuroDiverse Christian Couples

This one was an emotional one to make. We sat down with the pastors who are now in transition to another part of their journey. We talk about their impact on us as a couple and on the church, and how we came to know Dr. Jim Wilder, LifeModel Works, Neurotheology, and more! Dan talks about how he went from showing up at church and having intellectual knowledge of Jesus to an attached relationship w...

This month, we examined weaponized Scriptures, and today we talk with Thomas Pryde of Psalm 82 Initiative to talk about, When is it Abuse? Thomas said a healthy relationship uses whatever power you have to help others, not harm them, and when you love someone, freedom abounds, but freedom is not anarchy. What does that mean? Join us for the discussion. We started with the definition of abuse from...

Today, Dr. Stephanie is solo, but NDCC welcomes back the Reverend Bruce C. E. Fleming, the Host of The Eden Podcast and co-founder of the Tru316 Foundation. His website is Tru316.com .  A former Academic Dean and professor of Practical Theology in French-speaking Africa, he is the author of The Eden Book Series that builds on the research of his wife, former Old Testament Professor and full-time c...

In this episode, Dan and Stephanie sit down with Dr. Jake Porter for a thoughtful and honest conversation about one of the most debated — and often weaponized — passages in Christian marriage discussions: 1 Corinthians 7. What did Paul actually mean when he wrote about marital intimacy? How has this passage been misused to justify pressure, coercion, and “duty sex” within Christian relationships?...

Today on ND Couples Coaches' Corner, Dr. Stephanie and Barbara Grant continue the series on the month-long series examining how Scripture is sometimes misused by spiritual authorities—such as clergy, small-group leaders, biblical counselors, and Christian counselors—in ways that shame or further harm those who are already experiencing abuse in their marriages. In this special series, Twisted Scrip...

Today, we begin a month-long series examining how Scripture is sometimes misused by spiritual authorities—such as clergy, small-group leaders, biblical counselors, and Christian counselors—in ways that shame or further harm those who are already experiencing abuse in their marriages. In this special series, Twisted Scripture: When the Bible Is Weaponized, we take a careful and thoughtful look at p...

When we were kids, PDA meant public displays of affection. Now, apparently, it means pathological demand avoidance — which is significantly less fun at family gatherings. In this episode of Just the Guys, the guys wander through the tangled forest of demand avoidance, rejection sensitivity, imposter syndrome, diagnosis, stubbornness, anxiety, and why taking out the trash can somehow become an exis...

Dr. Stephanie welcomes back Dr. Celine Saulnier to discuss adaptive and functional skills. Dr. Celine is the author of the Vineland Adaptive Skills Scales, Third Edition. Parts of our conversation look at differences in assessing children and adults when determining adaptive and functional skills. A discussion also includes ADOS, CARS, and MIGDAS-2, and what if an adult gets two different results...

Today, Barbara & Dr. Stephanie talk with NeuroDiverse Peer Support Network colleague, Jodi Carlton. Jodi's book, The Misunderstood Mind, is scheduled for release on October 6, 2026, but pre-orders are coming soon. To follow that launch, go to https://jodicarlton.com/  Barbara Grant: If you want to do relationship work for your ND marriage, look up Barb at https://bg-hc.com/ . Barbara has avail...

Today, I welcome back pediatrician, Dr. Mary H Jones. Mary has been a guest on the show and contributed to Uniquely Us, chapter 11, discussing additional biases and stigma BIPOC individuals can face in getting an accurate diagnosis and accommodations. Dr. Jones shares her experience as a pediatrician and mom of neurodivergent kids and in a neurodiverse marriage. Today, Dr. Stephanie and Dr. Jones...

 In this episode of Just the Guys, the conversation explores a simple but powerful relational reality: misalignment is inevitable — mismanagement is optional. Whether in marriage, friendships, or team dynamics, people regularly share the same overall goal while differing on expectations, timing, methods, or emotional responses. The group discusses how alignment is less about agreeing on every deta...

We are so happy to have Tommy & Ginny with us on the show today, sharing their story. Tommy & Ginny share their neurodiverse journey from the diagnosis and freedom from shame in Tommy to Ginny realizing she needed self-care support and a community! They filled in their story with some blogs for us back in 2025. Check out their blogs: https://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com/post/beaut...

Today, Dr. Stephanie & Barb discuss the four principles of expectations (outlined in Emotionally Healthy Relationships by the Scazzeros) and apply them to Neurodiverse marriages. Are your expectations: Unconscious Unrealistic Unspoken Unagreed Upon

In a discussion over a fast earlier this year, we were facing big decisions and in prayer and fasting together on misalignment and differing views. Dan came up with the idea to do a show on this- when you are in misalignment or competing needs- what do you do? Do you resort to the rules or roles - well, the man wins? Or do you ask God for more guidance? Relationships and slowing down are rarely ef...

Continuing our Theme this month, looking at how the Church ministers to (or doesn't minister to) the entire body of Christ. We have on the panel today representatives from Together We Care, SOAR and KeyMinistry/Disability and the Church. Do you know the difference in Diversity- Inclusion & Belonging? The importance of community! About our panelists Jilliam Palmiotto/Together We Care Jillian Pa...

Today is a different feel for Just the Guys with guest panelists John Fela & Rev. Josh Davis. This month, we are putting the focus on disability, differences, and diversity, and the Church at large! Dan, John & Josh share personal and lived experiences, father, pastor, spiritual director, coach, and advocate experiences! What is grief? Is that wrong? Does Grief mean God didn't do something...

Continuing this month's theme of the CHURCH and how she supports the marginalized, hurting, and least of these. Today, Dr. Stephanie and Barb talk with Sarah McDugal about women and children in abusive situations, navigating the courts and the Church. About Sarah, in her own words: BIO: I’m Sarah McDugal, co-founder of Wilderness to WILD and the TraumaMAMAs mobile app.  I’m an author, coach, survi...

This month, we are focusing on autism/neurodiversity faith issues and the church! Starting out the month with permission from a former guest, Josh Davis, we are airing his "What Autistics Want the Church to Know." Dan and I introduced this topic for March, sharing a story from our daughter from our book Embracing the Autism Spectrum, and part 2 of our personal stories will be on Patreon. NeuroDive...

February is the month of love- what is real love- real hesed- sacrificial love? How did Adam love Eve? Today is not our usual crew, but a discussion with guest Russell Grigsby about a book that radically changed his mindset about loving his wife well. In this episode of Just the Guys, Dan sits down with entrepreneur and executive coach Russell Grigsby to talk about late-in-life autism diagnosis, t...

Welcome back to part 2 of the Gold Standard of Care! If you did not hear part one, go back to January 19th to hear the panel introductions and what we believe is the Gold standard of care! We talk through some myths and stereotypes and share some truths about autism/neurodiversity and marriage. Jeremy tackles: Should you force a neurodivergent partner to undergo assessment? Barbara: Neurodiversity...

Today, our guest is Jeremy Rochford of NeuroFM and a fellow Neurodiverse couples' coach! Jeremy is a regular on Just the Guys, and today he talks about his coaching model, Only Chasing Safety (OCS). Why is safety important, and is it okay to rob someone else's safety for your safety?

Today, in the month of love, we talk about sacrificial love in your neurodiverse marriage. Many view this month of love and Valentine's Day as a day for big romantic gestures, but what about living out love every day? How is your love beneficial and sacrificial without giving up yourself? Dying to yourself does mean abandonment of self, but often there are competing needs and wants in an ND marria...

Summary:   In this first episode of the year, the guys crack open the idea of what it means to be new—not just with gym memberships and resolutions, but deep in the rewiring of old patterns, assumptions, and emotional blind spots.  Dan kicks things off by admitting his old “default setting” was to walk in the door wondering what he’d done wrong—proof that sometimes the battlefield is the hallway b...